to think Dh should have told the old bag to 'call the police then......................'

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DH parks his car in a road at the back of our house (as he can then take a short cut to the motorway which cuts 10 mins off his journey, more if traffic is heavy) and has been getting grief off an old hag who has an issue with him parking in 'her' road (it is a public road BTW). Shouting at him, nasty letters on windscreen and today she threatened to call the police .

The road has very few cars parked in it as it is full of bungalows for the elderly and not many of them seem to drive and where DH parks, there are normally 4 or 5 other spaces along that stretch of road. This elderly hag lady does not have a car so he is not taking 'her' space (and obviously therefore does not pay roadtax) but she says he is taking a space that she may need for her relatives if they come to visit! I could understand it if the road was choc a block and she had a car . When she said she was going to call the police, he just walked off but I told him that he should have told her to go ahead and waited while she did and they laughed at her (am assuming this is not a criminal offence).

Makes me furious that this woman accosts him every time he comes home from work. Why should he stop parking there? I was taught to respect the elderly but she takes the biscuit!!

Move to one with a driveway? Credit crunch not touching you yet Tiggy I take it? ffs

Grrrrrr - normally they just curtain flick. We often park in similar roads and the looks you get! Maybe she should put out traffic cones in Joey from Bread styleee

and before anyone says, "ah but how would you like it" Well yes, it can be a tad frustrating, we live in a road where commutors leave their cars all day when they get on the train and i do often think, why can't you bloody well walk, but of course that is be being green!

Anyone who wants to 100% be able to park outside their own house should buy somewhere with a drive / off street parking.

No-one owns the parking on the street outside their house and so anyone can park there. If you live in a busy commuter area then yes, commuters will park there. There's no law against it.

There's no need to refer to the woman as an 'old bag' or 'hag' - both horrible terms to refer to old women. Really unpleasant.

heehee, my neighbours DO that LEM!! (I'm not that bad at least!) the people at the end of the road have cones. Come to think of it, so do a lot of people. But it is a common feeling in our village - very rural, small village, LOTS of tourists (ramblers) - this unreasonable parking rage.

My dh a strapping 6'2 ex para has been scared off by an old lady too........where our ds go to school there is virtually no parking and school was having the drive resurafced so dh pulled into this cul de sac for less than 7 mins ,on day 2 this old lady comes out starts yelling abuse at him - calling our children,calling us etc etc dh calmly explains hes waiting for ds to come it will only be a minute his engine is still running hes not intending to park etc etc and he will move if she wants to get out- anyway kids arrive so he apologises and drives away.

Next day he has to go to the same cul de sac so this time he leaves a big space so she can pull out in case shes in......a car drives in,assuming its another parent dh winds window down and says 'I wont be a minute,im waiting for kids too'- the woman driving leaps out of her car and starts taking pics of dh and his car whilst the old lady dashes out to joinh her daughter and she yells abuse etc ......ds has turned up by this time and is filming it all on his mobile fone -the 'ladies' object to being filmed and launch a tirade on ds -so dh and ds make their escape and have never parked there since.

I did fone the police and I understand its pain but unless the road is private or permits only you can park wherever!!

The policeman offered to speak to the old lady but we declined lmao.

There might not be a law against it, but it shows a lack of respect for others. We would end up parking streets away because shoppers don't like to pay for parking.

I think the OPs hubby should park where he likes, he is not parking illegally, he pays road tax and this old woman does not even have a car, he is not blocking her drive, and she does not own the road.
However I think the OP really should stop attacking anyone who does not agree with her, and has been very rude to TPHW very uncalled for IMO.

She looks like a troll with her lovely use of words like p**i and gollywog, always usefull.

I think her hubby is lucky not to have had his car scratched to hell by crazy old ladies with hat pins

Wastingmyeducation, Yes it is actually - in all likelihood my husband is shortly to be made redundant as he works for a bank. He had to tell his team last week that his department is closing. Many many of our friends in banking have already lost their jobs. Happy?

The credit crunch and your personal income or lack of it has absolutely nothing to do with this argument. People who buy houses without driveways or allocated spaces cannot expect the same privileges as people who buy houses with driveways or allocated bays. That's why they cost more. People who buy houses on busy roads cannot demand that cars take an alternative route because they don't like the noise. You cannot book a plane seat in economy and then complain that the passengers in first class have nicer food and more leg room. You cannot send your child to a state school and demand that there are no more than fifteen children in the class, however much you may wish it were so. I hope by now my point is obvious - just that people should not have unrealistic expectations and make demands on others that they are not entitled to make.

So everything comes down to money does it?

I didn't expect people to pay for car-parking, but I'm within my rights to consider them selfish and ignorant.

I can't believe how many people think they own the road and have a divine right to tell people where to park and not to park.
If it's legal, anyone can park there - end of story!

er.... can't DH park somewhere else, say, oooh a vast 2 or even 3m further away? And who are you accusing of being petty?

WME, yes of course you are, and so is the old lady in the OP's case. Quietly considering them selfish and arrogant is your perogative. Going out into the street and telling them to move is not. (not you, obviously, the old lady)

Isn't it weird how people work themselves up into a lather because perfect strangers don't behave in accordance with some random idea of 'manners' that the first lot of people have invented?

How on earth is Ms Ordinary Car Driver expected to know that Mrs Brown in Acacia Avenue doesn't realise the street is a public road and has invented some idea of it being rude to park outside her house?

We did sign the petition to make it residents only, as it allowed 1 hour parking for non-permit holders hence the problems.

I always cheered for the traffic warden when someone got a ticket.

And actually, I'm afraid it does all come down to money. There are many things in life that do not, but this does. Sorry.

Though actually there are plenty of people who live in horrendously expensive parts of cities and towns where off street parking does not even exist because the properties are Victorian or Georgian town houses. They live there because they like the convenenience of being near the town centre and the grandeur of the houses. Almost always, if they care to look, they will find that a house with a driveway is very affordable in a less chi-chi, less impressive suburb three miles down the road. You pays yer money and takes yer choice. Not suggesting that that is you, WME, just that it is the case with many people, especially in London.

oh good grief

whatever happened to common courtesy?

Only read half the thread....

I do have sympathy with op - i have been subject to irrational parking nightmares too. I do understand that people feel territorial about the space outside their house and I do too but......

Dh and i once parked a few months ago in a residentail street near a high street where we planned to have a coffee and chat. There were no parking restircxtions in that road. The door opened as we were locking the car and a man came out who asked us to move hte car. Dh asked why and the man said because its outside my house and I am expecting visitors. there were no other spacces in teh road at the time as some of hte road had a single yellow line. Dh said he was sorry but we couldn't park elsewhere and there were no restrictions outside the house etc. The man ended up - to cut a long story short- shouting and insulting dh and I.

On another occasion, I parked in a road opposite my kids'school to pick them up. Granted the situation wiht raods around the school is actually embarrassingly awful - roads are chocca and some paresnts are incredibly selfish about where theey park. however....this was a designated space without restirctions in a public road. The woman came storming out screaming abuse about the mothers and parents of the school and how we are all taking up spaces on teh roads. I calmly explained that this was a public road and a designated space and that I would in any event only be half an hour but she continued to rant and rave. Peopele were staring and tutting and i felt as if I were in the wrong when all tha thad happened was that I fell vitcim to someone already incensed at general traffic chaos in teh area etc.

Didn't the OP say that the road her DP parks in is at the back of her house? Sorry if this has been covered already, I got bored of reading all the nonsense on here. If that's the case then surely even those who think you should park outside your own home would agree that parking at the back is as good as paring at the front?
re the nasty language in the OP, I have seen much worse go uncommented upon in other threads so long as it applies to young men for e.g. If her DH was being accosted by an angry young man and she (in her anger) described him as a prick or an arsehole, I reckon everyone would have been able to focus on the actual issue at hand here.
Persoanlly I think that all rude horrible people deserve the same lack of respect and I reserve the right to use derisive language to describe them when they attack one of my family members.

Yes, we lived in the town centre. Of Doncaster.
It was fab! If somewhat needle-strewn.
Less dog shit than the suburbs though, interestingly.
The parking got worse over time though, which is what annoyed, and we had our van broken into when we had to park on another street.

Now I'm in the suburbs, with a drive, I'm concerned with knobheads parking on the pavement.
But that is against the law, so if they get scratched by my pram, I do have the moral high ground.

I also think a lot comes across in teh delivery rather than conteent of the message - if I were asked politely to move my car as this is a private road ( looking at pregnant hedge witch's scenario) wiht perhaps a slightly apologetic delivery I would adopt same tone and in a slightly apologetic way say " oh sorry i didn't realise " ( as i didn't) and move off again in search of somewhere else. however, have a go at someone and you already have their hackles up in reply and depending on whether that person is feeling charitable that day or is having a bad day you may or may not get a nice reply.

Takes only a minute to speak to someone politely and is so much more beneifical and nicer all round.......

If you car is taxed ,you can park where you like.

I was under the impression that you could park anywhere with the exception of blocking peoples drives (parking in front of a dropped kerb),disabled bays,double yellow lines or in a residential 'permit' schemed road.

Why are people so obsessed with parking?

Lisalisa, I agree and I bet the op's DH would have had more sympathy for the old hag" if she had started out saying something along the lines of...I know it's irrational, but it really bothers me, would you mind very much parking a bit further...