to think Dh should have told the old bag to 'call the police then......................'

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DH parks his car in a road at the back of our house (as he can then take a short cut to the motorway which cuts 10 mins off his journey, more if traffic is heavy) and has been getting grief off an old hag who has an issue with him parking in 'her' road (it is a public road BTW). Shouting at him, nasty letters on windscreen and today she threatened to call the police .

The road has very few cars parked in it as it is full of bungalows for the elderly and not many of them seem to drive and where DH parks, there are normally 4 or 5 other spaces along that stretch of road. This elderly hag lady does not have a car so he is not taking 'her' space (and obviously therefore does not pay roadtax) but she says he is taking a space that she may need for her relatives if they come to visit! I could understand it if the road was choc a block and she had a car . When she said she was going to call the police, he just walked off but I told him that he should have told her to go ahead and waited while she did and they laughed at her (am assuming this is not a criminal offence).

Makes me furious that this woman accosts him every time he comes home from work. Why should he stop parking there? I was taught to respect the elderly but she takes the biscuit!!

So Hedgewitch is loony is she? Who's being rude and disrespectful now?

Sorry but I do consider "old hag" and "old bag" to be very offensive

Yes she might be being irrational but perhaps she rarely leaves the house and anything that happens in the road is her whole life

I think it is a bit annoying to park in a quiet residential road of elderly people every night TBH so I have some sympathy with her - yes it is irrational but IME the elderly are somewhat OBSESSIVE about who is parking where...

OMG - so 'old hag' and 'old bag' must be right up there with 'gollywog' and 'paki' in MN land as being offensive and nasty to the elderly. Christ where did you lot come from!!!!

"can't he park in his own road? "

there's no such thing if all the roads involved are public. i never understood where the idea of ownership over public property comes from by virtue of proximity to someones house.
if he's paying road tax and not breaking any laws/parking restrictions then he's doing nothing wrong.
in fact he seems quite restrained and i would have told her where to go the first time she tried to dictate to me what i could or could not do when i had broken no laws.

No. Gollywog isn't offensive to the elderly I wouldn't have thought. But excellent argument...

Of course they're offensive! Use them if you want, but it makes you sound unpleasant.

There is absolutely no obstruction whatsoever.

Just for the sake of argument - this street is parallel with our back garden so it is 'our' street as well.

Seems like the old hag is not the only irrational person with parking issues.

HedgeWitch - do I give a toss if you think I'm rude??

where is this road? I want to key your car

Are you sure he's not parked on the pavement? Everyone round here who parks on the street is partially on the pavement.

He is parked legally, he pays road tax, there is no problem.

She may have mental health issues like early alzheimers, just ignore her.

Why don't you get him to park it under your bridge.

Welcome to mn.

He's not on the pavement.

MorningPaper - you sound quite pathetic.

"i just dont see why someone who does't live in the street should be parking there!"

because it's more convenient. and he pays road tax for exactly that right. to maintain avail of public roads and public parking.
i fail to seehow the dh has been ignorant and rude as he has been the one subjected to abuse by the elderly woman and has ignored it, although i do see why some have taken offence with the language of the op.
still that language doesn't change the fact that the husband has done nothing wrong and has been subjeced to extremely rude conduct by the old woman.

AIBU really does bring out the best in people, doesn't it?

OP, "old bag" and "old hag" are offensive, of course they are. Not sure why you want to place them on a hierarchy of offence though?

Your DH ought to vary the house he parks outside - if there are four or five other spaces in the road, why doesn't he choose a different one each day? Then perhaps he could tell this lady what he'd done and say he hoped she found that acceptable and if she had friends or relatives coming and would prefer he didn't park outside her house on a particular day, can she pop a note on his windscreen the day before?

If we all treat each other with a bit more respect, the world's a nicer place. I'd be very tempted to take her a bunch of flowers to apologise for upsetting her so much - maybe when your DH outlines his new parking regime.

Her behaviour, from what you describe, is somewhat unreasonable, but fgs, can't you have a bit of compassion for an elderly lady and treat her decently? You might think she's vile, but what your DH is doing is clearly upsetting her and yet you think it's OK that he carries on doing it AND you post unpleasantly on here about her?

If it's causing her so much distress, park it outside your own house. Have a fucking heart.

A similar situation exists in the cul de sac where I live, all around is cpz but there is space for 4 cars in our bit which is free. We also have our own driveways and garages.

People come and park and then bugger off all day to work by tube, and also there is a troop of childminders who come to the nearby toddler group and park blocking access to the dropped kerb, blocking access to people's garages and generally being a nuisance and getting incredibly rude and abusive when asked to move.

It does turn you into a victor meldrew type ball of rage.. i don't even own a car at present and it makes me furious, so I'm afraid I sympathise with the old lady, as irrational as her anger might be.

Why is the op so upset about it anyway? It happened to her dh, not her.

akhems - as I have clearly stated before, DH is not obstructing anybody and there are no drives to block. He has parked further up the road (so he is not directly outside her house) and she still shouts at him. The road is virtually empty and no one else has a problem except her.

Perhaps I would have described her as a nice elderly lady rather than a hag if she had not called DH 'scum'!!

No I am not a troll - just because I don't agree with other posters OTT opinions does that make me one??

My former neighbour (elderly lady)got a realy "bee in her bonnet" on this very subject. On occasion I had to park outside her house (or partly outside my own and partly outside hers). Obviously for convenience I preferred to park outside my own, on "my bit of road"

Anyway, she got more and more agitated and irate, she was of the opinion that I should park in the garage round the back which involved walking down a long darkened entry system and wasn't altogether safe and practical when I was frequently called out in the middle of the night (nurse)

Coincidentally (or perhaps not ) some light criminal damage/vandalism resulted to my vehicle and continued over many months. Then my dp visited in his new car and parked on "her" bit of road. £300 of damage was caused to his vehicle. My car was a mess of quite deep scratches by the time I moved out. She could barely bring herself to look at me or even greet me civilly.

It was horrible

p.s. my former neighbour didn't drive or own a car either. Her son did visit regularly - (annually) so clearly needed the space "reserving" all year.