to think Dh should have told the old bag to 'call the police then......................'

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DH parks his car in a road at the back of our house (as he can then take a short cut to the motorway which cuts 10 mins off his journey, more if traffic is heavy) and has been getting grief off an old hag who has an issue with him parking in 'her' road (it is a public road BTW). Shouting at him, nasty letters on windscreen and today she threatened to call the police .

The road has very few cars parked in it as it is full of bungalows for the elderly and not many of them seem to drive and where DH parks, there are normally 4 or 5 other spaces along that stretch of road. This elderly hag lady does not have a car so he is not taking 'her' space (and obviously therefore does not pay roadtax) but she says he is taking a space that she may need for her relatives if they come to visit! I could understand it if the road was choc a block and she had a car . When she said she was going to call the police, he just walked off but I told him that he should have told her to go ahead and waited while she did and they laughed at her (am assuming this is not a criminal offence).

Makes me furious that this woman accosts him every time he comes home from work. Why should he stop parking there? I was taught to respect the elderly but she takes the biscuit!!

She's obviously impossible but what can you do? He could park elsewhere. He could call her bluff. He could make a song and dance about the offensive letters.

the house one side of DH has a van and 4 cars to park, a drive will fit 3 of them on so that leaves two, DH has a car on the drive and the car he is useing and he parks that over our drive, next door have no car and the house next door but one has two cars on the drive that the son is fixing up and four cars that need to park on the road so 7 cars for 4 spaces, the father of next door but one has a fiesta and can not park for toffee, he will park 4 feet up from his drive so whoever parks behind him is part way over our drive, DH who can park has to inch in to a tiny space.
The mother from next door but one knocks on the door the other day and says could I ask DH to park more considerately as he has squeezed in to the space left over our drive and she had parked close in front of her hubbys car and he could not get the car out (he works shifts) DH was fuming and rightly so, now if he get in first he parks 4 feet from our drive so they can not park, see how they like it.
If the bloke parked his shitty little fista 4 feet back at the edge of his drive there would be room enough, not our fault he can not get in and out of parking spaces.

It's a public road, yes. She has no legal rights, yes. But I tell you this - legal rights or no, it FUCKS you off when someone takes 'your' space and buggers off!

Different because she doesn't have a car - BUT perhaps she has daily help and they can't park outside her house, you don't know.

Now I know it's not the end of the world! But it is annoying! It fucks me off when someone parks outside my house! ok, we are on a tiny narrow street with limited parking and all of us who live here have sort of an unwrittten rule about the parking spaces everyone has their own bit, iyswim. But feck me if the fecking tourists don't love to grab a space rather than pay a quid for the car park down the road!

Of course, I am a blue badge holder, also with 2 children who have autism and no sense of danger! so leave me with no parking and I'm fucked but my point is (and I am aware I'm rambling it's one of those things that really get to me!!!! It's RUDE to park outside someone else's house and fuck off for the day!! It's rude to do it once, it is taking the fucking PISS to do it day in and day out!

We had someone park outside out house had go on holiday for two weeks, cheaper then airport parking, the alarm kept going off in the night for hours, When they came back they had a flat battery, 4 flat tyres and a very long letter to contend with

Hecate you sound mad.

It is not rude to use the public highway.

Like I say, we really need a public information campaign about this.

I know, me too. It is silly. Let's delete and we can all pretend nothing was ever said, let's prance around the thread tossing rose petals and making daisy chain necklaces.

If it was said it was said. I think we are all big enough and ugly enough to cope with a few harsh words ffs.

It's getting stupid with all the deleting now.

Parking at the back of your house cuts 10 mins off his journey? jeexz how big is your garden??

Well if it is upsetting her that much then why doesnt your dh just park up your drive and get up 10 mins earlier?

I am a little crazy bella It is rude - in my opinion, which I'm entitled to as much as you're entitled to yours that I'm nuts! - to park outside someones house over and over and over again. It annoys me when it's done to me. I find it rude.

heres an idea ,why doesnt your DH write a letter to this lady ,asking to use her drive at a nominal fee per month , this will make her house less likely to be burgled , give her extra spending money ,and your DH gets a parking space without hassle

oh yes I agree, I think it's rude to continually park outside someone's house when they have asked you not to, unless there really is no other option. But to park outside someone's house occasionally because you are popping off to the shops - that is not rude, that is what we all pay road tax for!

One of my work colleagues had a note put on his car three days running threatening to report him for parking in a residents area. He parked in the street where our office is and it is NOT resedents parking.

I actually called the police and the council and was told that as long as he was not causing an obstruction , his car was taxed and insured and was parked legally he was doing no wrong and even if it was residents parking we would be entitled to several permits as we had offices in that street.

They said they had several malicious complaints from a resident in that street who got a bee in their bonnet.

OMG - who'd have thought that parking would have stirred up all this?!

FWIW I have sympathy with the OP. It sounds as though the husband is not parking in the same spot each night (night not day so she doesn;t have to look at his car all day long!)

If I had he same potential 10 mins less journey I would also consider parking elsewhere, too - faster time to work, less petrol costs, less CO2 in the atmosphere etc.

It doesn;t appear the the OP's DH is deliberately doing this to upset the old woman, it appears that she has nothing better to do with her time than complain (would love to know what her neighbours say about her!)

Maybe the OP could have used better language in her earlier posts, however I've seen similar language elsewhere (I know it doesn't mean its right) and no-one has been flamed like this.

I really can;t imagine why so many people are upset if someone parks in front of their house if they donlt have a car and their access isn;t blocked. I do get upset with one of my neighbours brothe who parks hs car inconsierately and makes it difficult for me to get inot my usual space not my space, just where I prefer and like to park) however every now and then someone else will park in 'my' space, I don;t get upset, I just park elsewhere. Its not that big a deal!

OP let her call thepolice on your DH, they won;t do a thing, he's braking no law, if anything he couls probably report her for harrassment

I find this rather bizarre.

It is a public road. He is parking there overnight (most of which is dark and she will be asleep). This does not raise access issues for daytime home help.

It is a public road.

I do happen to "own" all of the road infront of my house, only because I im in the corner of a cul-de-sac, and so every inch of my property that fronts onto the road is my narrow drive. If anyone parked there I would be unable to get my car out at all.

But you do not own the street outside your house.

Hecate - can you not get your council to put a marked disabled space outside your house? It would not be yours, but it would have some protection

"But I tell you this - legal rights or no, it FUCKS you off when someone takes 'your' space and buggers off!"

but it's not your space in any sense of the word and any problems you have with someone parking on a public road are your own.and it would be completely unreasonable to try and force these non-sensical ideas on anyone else.

"It's RUDE to park outside someone else's house and fuck off for the day!! It's rude to do it once, it is taking the fucking PISS to do it day in and day out!"

where in the name of god did this idea come from?how can it be rude for a member of the public to avail of a public service that is paid for by all who avail of it? how long they do it for or for what purpose has no relevance once they are not causing an opbstruction or breaking any rules.

I wonder how many of those who think it is fine to park in any space have a drive?
We lived in a terrace in the town centre with residents parking, and it was very annoying not to be able to park on our street due to people not being arsed to pay for the carpark.

Why is her age even remotely relevant? Would it be different if it was a middle aged business man who objected to him parking outside his house? Or a 30 year old SAHM?

I HATE the objectification of old people that seems to be the norm (and considered acceptable) - "elderley people such as this are venomous" !!!!! Substitute any other group here and see what it sounds like!

I really dislike the attitude that people should do whatever they like as long as it's legal. Why are someone's rights suddenly the most important thing in the universe? I can't imagine wanting to do something that obviously upsets someone over and over again purely because the law says that I can.

She is being unreasonable. I hate it when people get precious about parking outside their houses, utterly ridiculous imo. They must have pretty wonderful lives if that's the only thing they have to worry about.

BUT your DH is being unreasonable to keep parking there. For the sake of 10 minutes? I'd just leave 10 minutes earlier and avoid the aggro to be honest. Why would you willingly put yourself in the position to be abused every day? For the sake of 10 minutes?

MQ - it's how I feel. I am truly inconvinienced when I can't park outside my house - i think my first post was quite clear on why! And, again, very clear in first post, am bringing my "parking rage issues to innocent thread" (complete with grin to acknowledge sillyness of said rage!). It's the way I feel. I participated in a thread about parking repeatedly outside someone else's house when you have other options, with my pov . It's just my pov. It doesn't really matter to anyone but me, does it?

Benny - that's a good idea. I might do that.

Welcome to MN OP - as you can see it gets a bit heated round here but it's great really. The "Am I being unreasonable" section is usually VERY heated though as you have discovered.

Now - your DH is in the right and can park where he wants as long as he is not causing an obstruction (as many others have already said here), however, given the grief he is getting from this old lady I am more inclined to agree with MrsGravy above. Is it really worth all the stress and hassle this is causing you both for the sake of 10 mins?

So long as the road isn't private and you obey parking restrictions there is absolutely no reason legally or morally why you should not park anywhere you like. If that is outside someone's house then so be it. I would suggest that as matter of courtesy he moves his car around a bit so it's not always outside the same house. We had a similar situation to this when we used to park in a residential street near the railway station, because the station car park was really small, (could only guarantee a space if you were there at 6.30!) really expensive, and our car got broken into twice there. A man came out and started ranting and screaming in DH's face and I had to get between them! Most unseemly at 8am in the morning in a Chislehurst curtain-twitching zone, between a man in his 50's and my DH in a suit a tie!!!!

I can understand entirely that it may be irritating if this happens to you every day but then lots of things about living in built up areas are irritating. Doesn't mean you have the right to make your own rules. How loudly do we have to say this - You do not own or have any rights whatsoever over the public parking outside your house! Move to one with a driveway! If you have a driveway already then get a grip and stop being selfish. If it still annoys you move to a field!

The one time I could really have sympathy would be if you have one car but can never park it beacuse your neighbour and all their grown up children have about four, and spread themselves right across the front of their house in each direction, every day. That would eventually really piss you off, and is clearly discourteous. But not illegal so you'd still have to lump it.

How on earth has this turned into a row about venomous old hags BTW? Those terms may have been insensitive so let's change the terminology:

People who have far too much time on their hands enjoy nothing more than getting themselves into a lather over the supposed petty misdemeanours of others, and can display alarming levels of rudness and intolerance. Sometimes these 'people with too much time on their hands' react in a disproportionately angry fashion.

I digress, but...I was once having lunch in Sainsbury's restaurant with a friend and our children. They were chatting and laughing at perfectly acceptable volume levels given there were six of them, but otherwise sitting still and behaving well. A 'person with too much time on his hands' who happened to be sitting quite near us came over and told us to tell our children to be quiet as they were spoiling his lunch! When we politely but assertively said actually, No, they were entitled to talk to one another and they were not misbehaving, he told us we should move tables away from him!