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AIBU?

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aibu in thinking mn has really gone to the dogs since aibu

207 replies

southeastastra · 14/02/2009 21:44

i will not post this

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DumbledoresGirl · 15/02/2009 14:59

Got it (I think). Do I have to come up with a title using the last word of the previous title? Why don't the other players play properly?

daftpunk · 15/02/2009 15:00

go on the song thread and i'll explain the rules

DumbledoresGirl · 15/02/2009 15:01

Yes Ma'am!

SoMuchToBits · 15/02/2009 15:05

I agree with SEA to some extent - I think aibu has encouraged people to be more confrontational. Occasionally it is quite funny, especially when people use it in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way, but more often it brings out the agressive side in people.

AitchTwoOh · 15/02/2009 16:04

lulu, you're reading something i haven't written. as are you, daftpunk, if you were referring to me.

i personally think the gang threads make this a less amusing, less free-for-all sort of a place. when you've got groups of friends chit-chatting in and out then that is bound to (and i've seen people admitting to this when i've brought it up previously) make people reluctant to disagree with their friends. at the extreme end, it makes people rush to agree with their friends and can cause unpleasant pile-ons.

that's not to say that some of them are unwelcoming (although some treat their threads quite bizarrely as little fiefdoms). i just don't want to have to go on them to find people i like, who previously posted more generally.

i've only been here for, what, nearly three years, but the boards were more inclusive then. it's probably a function of size, but i don't have to like it. i've seen the names of the people who post on the veggers threads, the teashop etc, and i'd rather they posted more often in the body of the kirk. that's why i mentioned them specifically. as far as i'm concerned, i'd like to see more of lissie and franny for example, not less.

same goes for the moldies, of course... i wish that didn't exist either.

ThreadieMair · 15/02/2009 16:10

Blimey Aitch you've only been here a few months longer then me.

I thought you were utterly seasoned oldie but you are a middle-agey like me.

Fair point I suppose about the friends threads getting a bit peninsular, though friendship groups do tend to end up sticking up for one another even if they twitter about together on all of the mainstream threads.

If people are just using MN to chat to a specific set on specific friendship threads that is a bit out of step with what a forum like mn is for.

AitchTwoOh · 15/02/2009 16:13

i don't believe i've ever seen jenn, worley OR puss post on a regular thread.

aye, threadie, we're practically noobs.

morningpaper · 15/02/2009 16:17

I love AIBU, because people usually post there because they smugly think that are NOT BU so it is a fur-flying thing

Some of them ARE v. funny

It is always nice to see the olde names like you Aitch

daftpunk · 15/02/2009 16:19

aitch, sorry, maybe i did misunderstand you.

fwiw i agree with alot of what you say, however, the people i know on those threads are probably the most harmless/polite posters on mumsnet....true, they tend to stick to "their" thread...not sure what can be done about that....(smoke them out maybe?)

i've been here for 18 months (on and off) they've been here since i joined, so maybe i'm just used to them?

as for the moldies?...well...no answer to that one.

mollyroger · 15/02/2009 16:24

w/r to the 10/10nners, well, we were all new on there at some point.
it's not like someone said ''right, you, you and you come over here and chat to me....''
If anyone went on their right now, you'd have the point of the thread explained to you and be made welcome. There are several 'newbies' on there who you wouldn't know they'd only been on the thread for a month of so, because the thread isn't meant to be cliquey. So people feel comfortable very quickly.
It's a thread for anyone who wishes to improve their health by eating more fruit and veg and doing more excercise.
AAnd because it's health-related, I guess we sometimes 'share'' TMI and therefore, once you've been aquainted with the state of someone's piles, bonding just happens

TrillianAstra · 15/02/2009 16:25

Harmless posters? How boring.

ThreadieMair · 15/02/2009 16:27

It's really astonishing how quickly those 10/10 threads fill up. I've no sooner hidden one bad fruit&veg pun than another appears.

Is it because there are loads of 10/10ers; or is it because they all get their 10minutes of exercise by posting aerobically-fast?

daftpunk · 15/02/2009 16:27

TA....sorry, didn't mean to make them sound boring....[puts foot in it again]

mollyroger · 15/02/2009 16:30

ThreadieMair, there are quite a few of us...
(though whether they are bad puns or good ones, may have to be a matter of opinion )

ThreadieMair · 15/02/2009 16:32

Actually some of them are very good.

mollyroger · 15/02/2009 16:35

ah, those'll be my titles then...

daftpunk · 15/02/2009 16:39

Mollyroger.....are you new?

ScottishMummy · 15/02/2009 16:55

i love AIBU,the inane squawking of someone who is clearly a heidbanger and still denies it

love the numnuts who receive 786+ yabu answers,all pointedly ignored,but they personally thank the 3 YANBU posters

the me me princesses
the brides from hell
the MIL moaners

my MIL wanted to see the baby,she said make sure baby is warmly wrapped up.i said how very dare you.you ole harridan

DumbledoresGirl · 15/02/2009 17:10

Aitch you are on dangerous ground bringing up Moldies you know

Lulumama · 15/02/2009 17:12

aitch i apologise if i misinterpreted your comment re 'gang' threads

i think it is just the same as when you go to any sort of group thing, you do get little groups of people who stick together more, and venture out less into the wider area

but i am pretty ubiqitous, i would say, i think though peoples\ lives move on and change, and they don't post as much on the boards anywhere, full stop

ahundredtimes · 15/02/2009 17:19

I think Moldies is as much a part of the 'gang' thing though, like 10/0 or the Bar or wherever - I still don't know who Worley and Puss are, though they did all go to the theatre once didn't they? - I think it's because MN is so big now, and it can be quicker and neater to post on a 10/10 thread or Moldies and talk to people you know, than to wade through a AIBU thread or come up with an opinion in Parenting.

It's a different function, and fulfills a different need perhaps?

ThreadieMair · 15/02/2009 17:21

If that is true 100x, then MN is doomed to fragmentation.

Lulumama · 15/02/2009 17:23

but mouldies is not another thread on MN...

that aside, i can't say, that after 2.5 years on here, that it feels any different or more fragmented to me personally

Molesworth · 15/02/2009 17:24

I've been a mner since 2002 and it doesn't seem any different now from how it was then. There have always been AIBU threads ...

SweetCheeksLovesSweetTalk · 15/02/2009 17:25

Moldies is not another part of MN as the majority of MN cannot read or post on it.