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For shouting at woman in the supermarket?

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JustWantToWalkOut · 12/02/2009 22:47

I was in the queue at asda earlier having already had a tiring and stressful day. I just wanted to go home and relax. So I put everything on the conveyor belt and as it's going through I remembered something else I needed. I knew I would be able to get out of the house tomorow so I apologised and made a dash to get it. The women behind me in the queue tutted loudly and looked at her watch

Then one of my items didn't have a barcode so they had to phone through and get someone to check it. Woman behind me is getting increasingly angry.

When that was sorted I began having trouble packing as everything was just piling up in the bagging area and our Asda have a new policy of only giving you new bags when they think you can't fit anything else in the ones you have so everything was just falling all over. The woman behind me starts muttering "for gods sake" and shifting her weight from foot to foot, winding herself up.

Then when I went to pay, the card wouldn't work. First two times it said "card not accepted", we wiped it, blew on it etc etc...woman behind is practically exploding...and then finally on the 3rd attempt it accepts the card but I accidently put the wrong pin number in. So took it out, put it in again "card not accepted" tried again and FINALLY it got accepted and accepted the pin ok.

So, I'm just packing the remainders of my shopping and bitch woman behind me marches up, scoops all my stuff up and just throws it all in the trolley and said "times up, soz" my eggs were broken in the process.

A big argument erupted which I'm not proud of but the woman behind the till said she didn't blame me for saying something.

But I HATE confrontation and now feel like shit

Would you have reacted in the same way or should I have let it go to save a row?

OP posts:

MuppetsMuggle · 13/02/2009 11:41

Maple quite right is assault - putting the fear of immediate violence in you.

PuppyMonkey · 13/02/2009 11:51

Starbear - you're talking about the thing with the sort of rafia base which has an attachment aren't you?

MaplePecanPlait · 13/02/2009 11:54

YES!!! thanks Muggle!

My sis is like that and sighs all the time even when she is apparently fine and happy with the world. Think people like that are remarkably selfish and need to take a good look at their behaviour. I really try and treat people how I would like to be treated and never cease to be amazed at the people who don't give a monkeys.

THAT woman needs to be a bit more forgiving, I bet she wouldn't have behaved the same if the OP had been an elderly woman who was struggling. People do make mistakes as well. perhaps the OP could have been shirty with ASDA for having a crap Pin and Chip machine but it doesn't seem so.

Lets all try and get on with each other ...you know smile and help each other instead of tutting and sighing at others misfortune or accidental behaviour!!!!

It is not the end of the world that she had to wait at the checkout. However, if it was the end of her world then she could have left her trolley and gone home.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/02/2009 11:56

Internet shopping is your friend, or Waitrose. Or internet shopping from Waitrose.

What a bitch though - her not you. I've been guilty of tutting when someone is being slow but I wouldn't dream of attacking someone's shopping. How rude!!

smudgie2626 · 13/02/2009 12:02

Should have gone to Tesco

LeQueen · 13/02/2009 12:03

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SweetAudrina · 13/02/2009 12:03

Bet she wouldn't have been so eager to start chucking shit about if it was a Vinnie Jones type bloke dithering in front of her!

MuppetsMuggle · 13/02/2009 12:04

i tend to do internet shopping from asda, esp after the episode when i was pretty ill.

peachyfox · 13/02/2009 12:05

Poor you facing cow-woman! If I was there and it was at least a quarter past twelve I would pour you a big glass of wine.

smudgie2626 · 13/02/2009 12:06

Our till girls in Tesco have a simple policy, If the person behind the one being served is moaning or whinging about time, After they have finished serving the first person ..... THEY SHUT THE TILL... works every time.

SoupDragon · 13/02/2009 12:06

"silly little girl" Snort! That is, I think, the perfect insult. Polite yet so utterly demeaning

glad they threw her out

Helen31 · 13/02/2009 12:12

JWTWO - thank you from the bottom of my heart for clearing up the eggs situation.

But all this took place in front of her daughter . I think that might be a whole new thread...

cocolepew · 13/02/2009 12:12

Someone being hit over the head with a french stick is hilarious terrible.

belleymum · 13/02/2009 12:18

The post about the pre-prepared pheasant in Waitrose just made my day.
I think I would have felt like a prize chump by not saying anything, sometimes you just have to. And it's always better if said in a calm yet patronising way.

Kimi · 13/02/2009 12:25

Surprised you only shouted at her, I would have smacked the bitch....

That's why I never go to Asda, better class of nutter in tesco

NormaJeanBaker · 13/02/2009 12:27

I would have felt like smashing the rest of the eggs in her face. Don't feel bad - she is a tosser.

Kimi · 13/02/2009 12:30

A friend of mine once remarked and I quote...."I do think asda IS a chav haven and I avoid like a dose of the clap" lovely.......

HMC · 13/02/2009 12:37

The other woman behaved awfully - you would need to be Mother Theresa (RIP) not to react

Stayingsunnygirl · 13/02/2009 12:40

Well I ventured to Asda this morning, but there was no egg-flinging going on - but we did have a fire alarm, and a bunch of cute firemen turned up!!

lilacclaire · 13/02/2009 12:45

What a bitch!!
I always feel sorry for folk in front of me in the checkout who have these problems more than I feel annoyed as they usually get flustered and embarressed enough themselves about holding up the queue, and hey ho its part of supermarket shopping.

Lol at her telling you your time was up, I would have turned round and told her that her time was fucking up and (dreaming now) pulled out my machine gun (that I keep for such occasions) and let her have it.

Seriously, I think there would have been some hair pulling and punching going on, you were remarkably restrained.

Off to take my meds now......

cheshirekitty · 13/02/2009 13:42

Poor you, YANBU. I was in ASDA a few weeks ago at the self service tills.

The man in front of me used chip and pin and got cashback. He forgot to pick up his money and walked away. I ran after him to give him his money. No one took my place in the queue, it was guarded by the lady behind me until I got back.

Just wandering if the OP is from the South or North? Think people may be a little more laid back up here??

Docbunches · 13/02/2009 13:57

Not read all the posts, but YANBU. I have long since resigned myself to the fact that checkout queues (especially whichever one I choose) sometimes take ages to move, and I just go with the flow - I wouldn't dream of tutting, complaining or whatever, these things happen and it wasn't your fault.

Last weeks I was in Morrisons (which some people think is worse than Asda, but I quite like it) and had about 20 tubes of mini-eggs along with a few bits of grocery shopping on the conveyor belt. There was a man behind me moaning quietly, but loud enough to make sure I could hear, about my choice of shopping - I just glared and went really slowly whilst the checkout operator and I exchanged glances which we both knew tacitly meant 'what a tosser!'.

Iklboo · 13/02/2009 14:02

I would probably have been writing the OP from a cell. At least you weren't showing the personl behind the counter 42000 pictures of your grandkinds in your purse like the loony middle-aged woman in front of us last year. The poor bloke at the till had no idea who she was and kept politely saying 'that's nice, would you like help with your packing'

peachyfox · 13/02/2009 14:03

once when I was very severely provoked (pushed off bike) by a screeching harridan I asked her if she was a man or a woman. I wouldn't recommend it - it was deeply inflammatory but it felt so awfully awfully good. And she had a horrible scrubby head of hair.

I save it for very special occasions.

peachyfox · 13/02/2009 14:05

There would be a scrum in Waitrose if the coriander crop ever failed.

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