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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have put DS2 in a nappy for the london eye?

55 replies

SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 09:54

We went up to London on Saturday and went on the London Eye whilst we were there.

How I saw it, it's at least 15 minutes queueing (when we could take him to the loo if needed) but then 30 minutes stuck in a capsule with no loo.

Yes he can hold it for a bit but not for half an hour.

AIBU to have put a nappy on him just in case?

OP posts:
Gorionine · 03/02/2009 09:57

how old is he? I think YANBU, depending on age!

skramble · 03/02/2009 09:57

Sounds sensible to me.

Geepers · 03/02/2009 09:59

Am I missing something here? Does it matter?

If the option is nappy, or he wets himself, it's a no-brainer surely?

Original poster
SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:00

he is 7 .

Bit old maybe but I still think the nappy was a better choice than wet pants.

OP posts:
Sassyfrassy · 03/02/2009 10:01

Couldn't you just get him to go beforehand. I'm amazed he even put one on, at 7 I would have been much too embarrassed.

JackBauer · 03/02/2009 10:01

This is why I have a travel potty! It fits in the back pocket oif my changing bag and means I don't have to worry about nappies.

DD1 only wees twice a day though so I wouldn't have worried in your situation, so can't really advise.

Geepers · 03/02/2009 10:02

Does he have physical problems?

If not then I change my mind. YABU.

JackBauer · 03/02/2009 10:02

7? WHen was he potty trained?

Gorionine · 03/02/2009 10:03

You are right Geepers.

I would have worried if you had said 15 but at 7 it is not unreasonnable at all!

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:03

Regardless of the age, if your DS can't last 45 minutes, then yes, a nappy is a good idea.

Is there a reason why you couldn't have taken him to the toilet first, then queued for the 15 minutes, then the 30 minutes in a capsule.

This is a case where some people will cry that 7 is way too old, and others will assume he has some sort of SN.

Maybe you should have been more specific, but on the face of it YANBU.

hercules1 · 03/02/2009 10:03

Has he any special needs? If not then I cant quite understand you. Dd is 5 and would balk at the idea of having a nappy put on her.

Original poster
SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:04

he still has a nappy at night, so he didn't mind that much.

JackBauer - are you suggesting that my 7yo should have sat on a potty in public, doubt the others in the pod would be that amused either!

OP posts:
blametheparents · 03/02/2009 10:04

Why are you asking?
Did someone make a comment at the time?
I feel it is a very strange thing to do. DS is 7 and would definitely not even entertain the idea, he would go mad if I suggested it - and I perfectly understand why.
Surely he must have to hold it a school? They don't let them go just whenever they please by Yr2/3.
Personally I think you are being completely unreasonable, unless there is some medical need that you have not mentioned.

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:06

OP is being non-specific. OP, If you want to know if YABU you need to tell us all the facts!

blametheparents · 03/02/2009 10:07

DS still wears a nappy at night, but he (quite rightly) distinguishes between day time and night time wetting. They are completely different issues.
If your son genuinely can't last more than 45mins without needing a wee, even during the day, then have you mentioned this to a doctor?
How does he even cope with long assemblies at school?

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:09

If there are no medical issues, and if it was "just in case" then YABU. He will never learn to last if you don't put him to the test!

skramble · 03/02/2009 10:10

& is a bit old but if he was ok with it, then why the hell not. I remember the pain of queing at Disnyland for ages only to reach the front of the queue and DD needing a pee, every fecking time.

I think she would have found it a novelty to secretly have on a pairof pull ups and pee merrily peeing away .

JackBauer · 03/02/2009 10:10

I xposted and suggested the potty before I saw his age, so ignore my previous post!
I asked when he was potty trained as if it was recently because of a SN then as others have said YANBU, but if he has no SN then I think YABU.

nannyL · 03/02/2009 10:10

it wouldnt even cross my mind to stick a nappy on my 3 year old charge in that situation

and no way on his 6 year old brother!

Unless he has special needs i think YABU

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:11

I did used to put my DS1 in a nappy when we were going on a plane, but he was only 2-3ish (can't remember exactly when we stopped the "just in case" nappies).

There we go! I told you someone would say 7 is way too old for "just in case" (SN aside, of course!)

Original poster
SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:11

I'm not saying he can't last 45 mins without a wee, but sometimes they need to go and if you were without a loo for half an hour what would you do?

He distinguishes between daytime and nighttime wetting perfectly well, and he knows that he should use the loo and try to hold on but the nappy is there just in case.

OP posts:
skramble · 03/02/2009 10:11

Thing is some kids find this easy, like my niece, some don't like my daughter. simple really, if you child has a bladder the size of a beachball and a mazing control then you will think OP is mad, if your child has bladdrer control like mine and well me as well then you will understand.

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:13

You need to take him to the toilet before something like this, and make him go - make a game of it.

He will never learn to be truly independent if you keep on pandering to him like this!

Sn aside of course!

JackBauer · 03/02/2009 10:13

No, I xposted earlier, hadn't seen his age when I suggested potty!
This is why we need all info, as otherwise advice is not helpful.

blametheparents · 03/02/2009 10:13

He surely must be able to last 30mins though? Even if he needs to go.

What about if you are in a traffic jam? Or on the motorway? He needs to learn to be able to wait, and not to just go immediately.