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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To have put DS2 in a nappy for the london eye?

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SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 09:54

We went up to London on Saturday and went on the London Eye whilst we were there.

How I saw it, it's at least 15 minutes queueing (when we could take him to the loo if needed) but then 30 minutes stuck in a capsule with no loo.

Yes he can hold it for a bit but not for half an hour.

AIBU to have put a nappy on him just in case?

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newpup · 03/02/2009 10:14

I am really shocked - perhaps I am naive BUT a nappy at 7! Obviously, if your son has SN or some kind of medical condition but otherwise of course not.

My DD has just turned 7 and I would not even contemplate such a thing. We took her on the London eye when she was 3 and she went to the toilets while we were fairly near the top of the queue and then was fine. It is only 30 minutes, my goodness I actually think it is quite damaging to put a child this age in a nappy for no reason.

I did actually check the date after reading this to make sure it was not April fools day!!

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:14

I would have thought it would be abnormal for a 7 year old not to be able to last 45 minutes, SN aside of course,
but am willing to be stood corrected!

elliott · 03/02/2009 10:14

hmmm. My son also had/has problems with 'hanging on' but I definitely wouldn't have put him in a nappy beyond around 4. He tends to have leaks which are not that noticeable rather than full blown accidents (he is 7 now). What happens to your boy at school or in other situations?
I agree that if he really can't hold on for 45 mins at this age then you need to take some action. Or you need to question whether your own anxiety is stopping him from learning to take responsibility for his own bladder and trousers!

JackBauer · 03/02/2009 10:14

weird double post, sorry

dilemma456 · 03/02/2009 10:15

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hercules1 · 03/02/2009 10:15

I dont understand why you started an aibu thread on this. If he physically cannot hold it then it's not a question of being reasonable or not but having to. SUrely you are looking for different opinions so it cant be so straightforward.

ThePellyandMe · 03/02/2009 10:16

YABU

DS2 managed the train up and down Snowdon without a nappy when he was not quite 4. I would never have dreamed of putting a nappy on him let alone Ds1 who's 6. DS2 needed a wee on the way down but he was told he had to hold it in and he did....just

How does your DS cope at school?

MmeLindt · 03/02/2009 10:16

I would have taken him to the loo just before we got to the front of the queue.

If he is not able to hold on for longer than 45mins then you really should take him to a doctor.

Putting a nappy on him is not ok at that age.

elliott · 03/02/2009 10:16

Have you tried encouraging him to drink plenty? I think that has helped my ds1. In this situation I would also insist he goes just before - then you know that if he does get caught short he won't have a litre of wee in his bladder...

Gorionine · 03/02/2009 10:19

I was told by my aunt (whose daughter was wetting herself frequently) and who cosulted a dr for it thatr it is not uncommon for it to happen until the age of 7 and that they do not investigate before that age (that was in switzeland though), maybe in the uk they start investigating accidents ealier...

Reallytired · 03/02/2009 10:20

I think its madness putting a nappy on a perfectly healthy seven year old who has no special needs.

I think a seven year old who is still wetting themselves needs professional help, for his sake. Has a health professional suggested putting him a nappy.

Children having to hold on to the wee for short periods builds up their bladder muscles. Prehaps the child would have better bladder control if the parents didn't jump every time the child asks for the toilet.

Leo9 · 03/02/2009 10:21

I wonder why you posted? If it was a physical necessity, why bother asking if it was unreasonable?

I don't get this thread...

FWIW I think it was a very very odd thing to do. Unless your child has special needs of some kind it should have been possible to go to the loo first and then hold on.

elliott · 03/02/2009 10:21

But, for all of you who say 'my three year old can manage this', I don't think you realise that there are children who find it difficult. ds2 has never had any problems holding on. He could have done it aged 3 no problem. ds1 otoh has always had urgency. He was regularly wetting himself at preschool nursery aged 4+. He STILL regularly comes home with pants that stink of wee. It would help if he drank more at school and if they were more sympathetic to allowing kids out of the class when they need a wee

mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:21

Gorionine I have actually heard that about the age of 7.

The UK investigate something "early"? You're having a laugh!

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SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:22

I think this depends quite a lot on your kid, some can hold it like a trooper (like DS1) and some go a lot more frequently. If you have a child of one type you may find it hard to understand the other.

As far as SN goes we have seen a doctor over the frequent peeing (DD is incontinent so we thought it may be related in some way) but he didn't find anything wrong.

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mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:23

Agree, and kids get excited and "forget" to go, yada yada yada, but IMHO putting a nappy on this child in this circumstance was U.

sassy · 03/02/2009 10:24

Was it wet when you got down?

hercules1 · 03/02/2009 10:24

The trouble is if you put a nappy on him he will use it and you'll think you did the right thing. I still dont get this thread and I honestly cant see that you are being in any way reasonable in wanting to do this. WOnt he object?

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SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:26

hercules1 - just because he has a nappy on doesn't mean he'll just use it if he needs a wee. He will infact try to hold on as muck as possible but sometimes that is not long enough and a nappy is needed.

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Gorionine · 03/02/2009 10:26

mm22bys, not having a laugh, just asking as I not had experience of this since I have been here, although thinking about other worries I have had with my own Dcs, I can quite understand why you would ask!

sassy · 03/02/2009 10:27

WAS IT WET?

BalloonSlayer · 03/02/2009 10:29

If the child in question is a boy of 7, what's the matter with taking an empty plastic bottle with you just in case?

My DS1 is 8 and has developed a "will I be able to go to the loo" anxiety. I bring a bottle - which he has never used - but just knowing it's there if he needs it relaxes him.

ThePellyandMe · 03/02/2009 10:32

I accept that some children can hold on longer that others but I still think putting a nappy on a 7 year old is not the right way to deal with it.

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SunshinePine · 03/02/2009 10:32

Gorionine - not much chance of anything happening with these things before 7 over here. I often thought it may be related to his bedwetting but as they wont investigate it as a problem until they are 7 we haven't got anywhere.

I can't say I'm terribly impressed with this country's health system, took us ages to get somewhere with DD because they put her problems down to not being ready to toilet train yet and didn't look at her until about 3 1/2 (despite the others toilet training just past 2)

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mm22bys · 03/02/2009 10:32

Gorionine, yep we've had to wait and wait and wait for our own DS2 on a number of issues....

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