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To think that children with autism are seriously misunderstood

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Reallytired · 26/01/2009 14:49

Yesterday, I had my mum's neighbour telling me about how all autisic chilren (yes, autisic children not children with autism were violent.) Her experiences are all based on one child of a friend of a friend ... blah! blah!

I told her that I thought that was totally unfair and I know some lovely children with autism.

Don't get me wrong, I know very little about autism. I certainly don't understand it, but I know roughly 50 children with moderate to severe autism. They are all individuals with their own personality and its very varied how they are affected. Most of these children are not violent, even if they do have problems that make life hard.

In fact I suspect the children with autism suffer more violence from NT people than people suffer violence from people with autism.

I don't think its fair to make any general assumptions about children with autism. Or any other group of people. Its as daft as saying that all women are bad drivers.

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tethersend · 20/02/2010 11:48

This is a really old thread...

Buttons2708 · 20/02/2010 19:59

Your point being tethersend?????

QOD · 20/02/2010 20:05

One of my dd;s classmates is being assessed for it at the moment - and contrary to popular belief, she is a friendly, gregarious, affectionate girl! Just oversteps the boundaries and can't read other peoples body signals/language and doesn't know when to stop.

ArthurPewty · 20/02/2010 20:08

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onlyjoinedforoffers · 20/02/2010 20:08

my ds2 16 went through quite a violent phase a couple of years ago. Thankfully that has stopped for the moment though of course you never know wehn it could happen again. He is a gorgeous Cuddly ,go anywhere do anything type of boy or should i say young man. All his classmates are completely different from each other there is no type

Buttons2708 · 20/02/2010 20:11

My daughter did the same things which is how it became clearer that autism was the condition she had. She just lashes out through frustration due to her serverley delayed speech and language in conjunction with the autism. I'm lucky i managed to fight and get her into a special needs school which is amazing!

hormonesnomore · 20/02/2010 20:15

My ex-H has recently been diagnosed as having Aspergers in his 50s. He is the most gentle and passive person I know. His mother is in denial and doesn't believe the condition exists - and if it does, he didn't 'get it' from her.

ProzacTheGiggleFairy · 20/02/2010 20:18

I have 2 quite chilled out kids who both have autism. Neither of them are violent.

I have also been told that I have a lot of autistic traits too. Yes I played rugby for quite a few years, and I now do martial arts, but I have never had a problem with violence, but have been bullied a lot.

tethersend · 20/02/2010 20:18

Buttons, it's good etiquette to pint out that a thread is old, it avoids the cries of "Where's the OP?" further down the line.

Having spent many years teaching children with autism, the thread title piqued my interest, and I thought others may like to know it was an old thread.

Is that ok with you?

Buttons2708 · 20/02/2010 20:22

tethersend, suprisingly i do have eyes and can see dates, but thankyou for POINTING out the obvious and not being too patronising to us mums taking an interest in older posts!!!

SpicedGerkin · 20/02/2010 20:28

Not everyone does notice that though, nothing wrong with pointing it out.

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 20/02/2010 20:33

Not at all unreasonable, I have DD1 with ASD and she isnt at all volient to anyone but herself. I had GP tell them this week that DD couldnt have ASD as she is socialable.

So now all children with autism are completely unsocialable and volient!

what a wonderful place we live

ArthurPewty · 20/02/2010 20:34

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tethersend · 20/02/2010 20:38

TBH, buttons, you are looking for a fight where there isn't one. I pointed something out because most of us have been caught out by old threads at one time or another.

It seems you have eyes but not manners.

Buttons2708 · 20/02/2010 20:45

your not reading message as meant to be taken, not looking for fight at all, your messages appear very patronising just pointing this out to you as you may not be aware that they could come across this way.

tethersend · 20/02/2010 20:52

Don't give me that rhetoric, buttons. No who's being patronising?

I point out it's an old thread (it is by the way), you jump on me; I'm not sure how the sentence 'This is an old thread' is patronising?

Did I upset you on another thread?

tethersend · 20/02/2010 20:53

No=Now

saintlydamemrsturnip · 20/02/2010 20:55

my recent blog post on coping with the general public

RumourOfAHurricane · 20/02/2010 21:13

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/02/2010 13:53

well i didnt notice it was an old thread till it was pojted out

onlyjoinedforoffers · 21/02/2010 15:24

i didnt notice either and i am very that a thread on autism has people squabbling over nothing

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