To take dd to town tomorrow for new shoes, despite being on the sick?

[mosschops30]

I dont think I am although I think my boss will think differently if anyone sees me.

I threw out dd's shoes before xmas, have beem ill for over a week and been off work, my boss phoned me today asking when I was 'planning' on going back despite me phoning on friday to say I wouldnt be in all weekend, anyway dd is back in school on Tuesday and has no other shoes she can wear.

So AIBU??

Managers who make people feel guilty for being sick are w*nkers who make people ill.

The only good managers I have come across (not many) are in my current place of work. You phone in sick, tell the clerical assistant. They pass it on to personnel/line managers. You return to work, get a form to fill in from personnel, end of story.

Result? You feel personally empowered. You feel able to be honest about when you will be back, looking 2 or 3 days ahead. And you feel trusted. Plus the only conversation you have about it with your manager (if any) is out of genuine concern on their part, not box ticking.

I would not give you a hard time for buying your children shoes or whatever. Life with children doesn't stop simply because you get sick (and don't I know it!). I would however be pissed off if you hadn't been pulling your weight prior to that though. But I doubt from your post you are that type. If you get the shoes sorted, that's one less thing to worry about during the working day.

On a lighter note, a teaching colleague of mine in days gone past told me of the time he had bunked off in order to go to Cheltenham Races, only to find that his headmaster had done exactly the same thing!!! What a conspiracy of silence that must have been.

well mouse I can tell you that the NHS dont:

Give me private healthcare
Give me an xmas bonus
give me the option to work flexibly
give me days to work at home with a sick child

FYI I have not lied to my employers, I have been in bed from Sunday to Thursday last week, unable to get up even to eat. I first got dressed on New Years Day. So despite your obvious opinion that I am some freeloader who has been tripping round the country for the last week at the expense of the NHS - I AM NOT! How dare you suggest I am lying and skiving. I just want to buy my dd some new shoes

Mousehole - trust breeds trust and respect breeds respect. If a manager shows that they do not trust or respect their staff, they can hardly be surprised if this is mutual.

If you've really had flu or something else awful like that, it's sensible to have a little outing first anyway to see if you can cope, before charging back to work, IMO.

Of course, in most cases staff who are not trusted or respected continue to work blardy hard, but they feel resentful and end up running themselves into the ground. The type of management style being promoted by some on this thread betrays a severe lack of confidence and ability on the part of the manager.

Oh Mousehole come on-the lady is ILL! It's not like she is bunking off work to buy the shoes-she cannot go in anyway! FWIW my mum died because a nurse went in with a stomach bug-it's not simply bandaging broken arms y'know.

Like BoffinMum said (and like I said earlier on). You can be at home and think you're fine and ready to go back to work. It's only when you've travelled to work and started the day that you realise you really aren't well enough at all. Far better to have a trial run at going out than mess people around. I'm amazed that is controversial in any way. But then common sense isn't a quality that most managers are blessed with.

Im not 'shopping' if I could park outside New Look and let dd go in on her own I would. The last thing I want is to wander round town in the freezing cold.

Despite the 'perks' you give your staff mousehole I am glad youre not my manager, in actual fact you'd do well in the NHS management system if your business ever goes tits up because your staff are lying and skiving!

Oh and btw, I was ill for 5 years with post viral syndrome because I was made to feel guilty by my manager for taking time off work when I was clearly ill.

Come and work for me, Mosschops. I get the point of this, and so would the rest of my team. Do not listen to mean people who don't understand convalescence properly. I think an hour or so out and about would be a good way of getting your land legs back.

I dont think I'll bother now after this thread, will spend another day in my dressing gown with dd sulking.
She will have to go to school in boots like s gypo child

Sustainable effort is what's needed here, not an expression of 'professional' commitment that culminates in exhaustion.

FGS Moss, irrespective of what you tihnk,I fail to understand people who post an AIBU thread then sulk like kids when not everyone rushes to their defence.Get a grip woman and if you are that bloody sensitive, don't post on an internet forum!

Yes but mousehole, you don't know if you're well enough if you haven't tried it, do you? And for the last time, the OP is not "shopping" - she has an essential errand to run for her daughter's welfare. "Shopping" is what bored women do on the weekends with money they don't have.

Bit harsh, Moondog, she's just had flu.

It's beside the point Boff.

Mosschops - plenty of people are being supportive of your pov as well you know! And didn't you say you're not due to work Tuesday anyway? So what does it matter what your full-of-her-own-unimportance manager thinks anyway?

Possibly but I am feeling sorry for her.

I don't think YABU but your boss might? Is there anyone else who can take DD to get shoes or can you go and get them somewhere you are less likely to be spotted?

what is your problem moondog, almost every thread you are on has you being rude to someone.
I am not bothered about people disagreeing with me, but when someone talks about lying and skiving that pisses me off ok.

Im not sensitive and Im not some bloody newbie you can bully with your 'then dont post on an internet forum shit' so as you said your bit earlier you can go spread your joy on another thread