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To want to kill myself because i am pregnant

77 replies

Koshka · 02/01/2009 16:55

Hello,

I am 13 weeks pg.

I was happy when i found out but now I am so scared i keep on thinking if i carry on with this pregnancy i would rather not be here.

I have no idea what to do! is it too late to end this pregnancy?

Sorry this is a bad topic to discuss here but have noone in RL that i can talk to.

OP posts:
MrsFreud · 02/01/2009 16:56

where is the father?

Tortington · 02/01/2009 16:56

why is it a bad thing?

Flightattendant7 · 02/01/2009 16:57

What are you afraid of, pet?

cornsilk · 02/01/2009 16:57

What has changed to make you feel this way?

thexmasstockingmonsterofdoom · 02/01/2009 16:57

you need to ask your gp for councelling and quick, what are you reasons for feeling this way, do you know, where is the father? Do you already have any dc?

Lulumama · 02/01/2009 16:57

it is not too late to end the pregnancy. but i would suggest that you seek some immediate impartial counselling. what does the father want? is he on the scene?

stuffitllama · 02/01/2009 16:57

Hi Koshka.. are you alone with the pregnancy?
I'm sure there will be lots here with good advice.. you sound so unhappy..

revjustaboutwipestheslateclean · 02/01/2009 16:58

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oxocube · 02/01/2009 16:58

What has changed since you first found out? Why are you so scared now? Its not too late to end the pregnancy but it gets harder the longer you leave it (sadly, talks from experience)

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 02/01/2009 16:58

COntact Marie Stopes or the BPAS and ask for some specialist counselling: they will be able to help you.
Depending on what is the source of your fear they will be able to advise you on what to do for the best - if you are frightened of the actual birth you may well be able to have an elective cesarian, if you are frightened about coping financially once the baby is born you can find out about benefits etc.

Flightattendant7 · 02/01/2009 16:58

Are you on your own? It is hard work when you have a child already but it can be done, I am a single mum to two boys, it felt terrifying when I was pg, but it gets much easier very quickly.

Original poster
Koshka · 02/01/2009 16:59

my P is around. i have a DS who is 2 1/2 but i can hardly look after him properly.
i snap at him and i hate myself dor it.

P isnt bothered what i do.

OP posts:
shinyshoes · 02/01/2009 16:59

How old are you, are you very young?

Why do you feel this way?

You can talk here, no-one will judge or critise you.

FairLadyRantALot · 02/01/2009 16:59

Koshka....what are you scared off. What has happened to change your feeling about this pg?

vlc · 02/01/2009 17:00

You have a beautiful little boy who needs his mummy more than anything else in the world. I hope you can keep remembering that no matter how low you may feel.

I'm sure you are a great mummy.

Flightattendant7 · 02/01/2009 17:00

I think you are about 25, right? Your son is gorgeous btw

We are all here for you. It's Ok. Keep talking.

thexmasstockingmonsterofdoom · 02/01/2009 17:01

OK, i think you need o tell us about why you dont think you do a very good job with ds, I am sure you do really, we all snap at them, they are annoying.

cornsilk · 02/01/2009 17:01

2 and a half is difficult for most people to manage - don't worry, it'll get easier. Your ds would nearly be at school I should think if you go on to have the baby, which would be easier for you to cope with.

Original poster
Koshka · 02/01/2009 17:01

i am a terrible mum and i dont think i should have any more kids.

i work and people have made complaints about me cos im quiet and not my 'usual' happy self.

i just want to cry.
i think if i have this baby that it will ruin my DSs life and mine and Ps relationship

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revjustaboutwipestheslateclean · 02/01/2009 17:02

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Original poster
Koshka · 02/01/2009 17:02

im 24 yeah.

i just need to talk im so sorry.

OP posts:
Flightattendant7 · 02/01/2009 17:02

I nearly despaired so many times when ds1 was that age, and also when I was pregnant again. Pregnancy is horrible and exhausting but it does pass...and I doubt you are that bad a mother - I think most of us feel like that when we are pg with little support.

muggglewump · 02/01/2009 17:03

Please get some counselling, you need help and while MNet can support you and be here for you, you need specialist care.
Call BPAS

flipflopper · 02/01/2009 17:03

You need to talk to your partner about this. Was is planned?
What is it you are scared of?
Hope you are ok x

cornsilk · 02/01/2009 17:04

Koshka you are not a terrible mum at all. Most of us feel overwhelmed by everything at least some of the time.

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