I didn't stand up for DD, feel bad

[LeatherOnLeather]

DH took DD (4) to his parents for lunch today. I didn't go. When I went to pick them up tonight MIL pulled me aside and said she had had to tell off DD several times for being rude and vulgar. I asked what she had been doing and MIL said "She kept calling the toilet the bog, shouted that the 'bog roll' had ran out etc

I feel really bad because this is just what we say at home, however I didn't tell MIL this as I felt embarrassed so didn't stand up for DD when I should have done.

Be honest, is it really vulgar to talk like this? we always have done, It didn't occur to me that anyone would find it offensive or is MIL just being precious?

Now I'm kind of with you on this one thumbelf - but can offer no explanation.

Still think it was rough as arses to run out of dunder roll in the 1st place.

Got giggles now.

"Preserve", TD, love it!

Does she also call Branston, "chutney"?

And the hallway, "Foyer"???!

If not then I think it your duty to poke a little fun and do it for her!

at treedelivery

As an aside, and speaking of euphemisms, if you google "bog", you end up with a lot of entries for the Bank of Ghana ...

Toilet humour - it's the way forward.

Flower? For what? Vagina? Dear god.

What, pray is "foofoo"?

sadly i have heard flower and ha'penny (as in keep yer hand on) both euphemism for vagina

Something to do with your foofoo powder rooms? We could really end up confusing our children here! Sounds like you need to use a fluffy thing to aply face powder - actually refers to passing urine in a toilet located in the bathroom.

BONKERS!!

mu mil calls it a froufrou. Which I think of as those fluffy slippers with heels.

We've just dived in - front bottom for having babies, back bottom for poo's. Oh And wee wee tube. DD interested in all that stuff.

yes sadly i know someone (scottish) says fou-fou.eugh that reminds me of faggy lush

VULVA

It's odd isn't it? It's the correct term afterall. When I started midwifery training we all had to say Vagina out loud in a group repeating until it felt more comfortable. Then we went round individually. Lots blushed.

Lol treedelivery! I can quite imagine . My parents do have a drawing room (room for sitting in and reading books really) and Pardon is very lower class. As to why I really don't know, but I beg your pardon, or what did you say, or I'm sorry I didn't quite catch that are fine. My grandparents were so posh they ate apples with a knife and fork. As children we found this fascinating (although we were not so keen on the wrists on the table rule). Many of these things are not just posh but also older generation. I don't think people (in general) are nearly as bothered now. I suspect that my grandparents did not consider themselves as posh at all, just "proper".

all true but penis and vagina from the mouths of babes stings a little sorry to be prissy just do not like it. Not keen on euphemisms either so I generally call it front bottom in front of DD, I know I know...

there are weird mil's out there mine switched off the tv yestereday when i was watching tv at 6pm the jacksons when mj's father were fighting not physically with mj's mom and she said i don't think the lo should see this i was in shock just took my lo and legged it upstairs as i thought i would have become physical in my own bloddy home.

Why did your MIL have to mention it to you when you picked them up, surely if your dh was there when it happened it should have already been dealt with by the time you got there.

Bog isn't a word I'd encourage my dd's to use, but it wouldn't bother me if I heard another child using it.

hmm. 'Bog' is veering slightly off-piste towards the list of mildly rude vocabulary. Lots of people wouldn't use 'bog' as their standard word for the lav. It's an occasional Beano word for the cludge.

Your standard words are: toilet, loo and from there we get toilet roll and loo roll.

So you either tell your mil that 'bog' is your family word of choice and so she should get used to it. Or you change your word of choice, pick a more standard one and play around with all the other more amusing words when your dc are old enough to understsand lavatorial humour.

bog is horrid. Toilet is awful. Loo is fine. Picking on four year olds is mean.

But there's a a children's song called Little Bunny Foo Foo

ach now i am never going to feel the same about that song now

I would not like the word but its up to you what you call it.
Its not MIL's place to tell your DD off for what is basically a colloquial word for your toilet.