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Original poster

To think PIL should have called us on xmas day

85 replies

thisismynewname · 27/12/2008 20:48

PIL wanted to see us over the xmas period but had plans for xmas day and boxing day apparently.

We couldn't fit them in at any other time so said we'd see them mid/end January. DH called and asked them could they post the presents for the DC so that they could have them to open from santa on the day.

PIL said they'd rather wait til they saw them to see them open them in person, which I was not at all happy with. We ended up rowing about it and PIL didn't even call us on xmas day. I can't believe they wouldn't phone to wish us merry xmas.

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ChristmasDisco · 27/12/2008 20:50

they knew you were miffed that they wouldn't send their presents, they're miffed that you don't want them to wait. It works both ways, you could've called them to wish them Merry Xmas.

ilove · 27/12/2008 20:50

YABVVVVVVVVVVVVVU

ChristmasDisco · 27/12/2008 20:50

must change my name back....

muminthecity · 27/12/2008 20:51

Why didn't you call them? YABU

TheFallenMadonna · 27/12/2008 20:52

I think your DH should have phoned them. Can you really not see them until the end of January?

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:52

Well I have to say it was very rude of your DH to effectively 'demand' the presents be sent. They bought the presents, it's up to them and really it was very very tactless for you to decide when and where they should be given. Over-controlling IMO.

However I do think they sound a bit negative toward you and DH not to be able to fit you in at christmas - are they far away? what were they doing instead?!

SleighGirl · 27/12/2008 20:52

Sorry I feel for your PILs, you couldn't get toghether fair enough but to ask/demand that they send the presents - why, the gifts are from them not FC, it makes the whole seeing them special when there are gift to exchange etc.

They told you that they were busy on Christmad & Boxing Day, perhaps they didn't really have a convenient time to ring when they knew you would be in and not be upset/angry about them phoning at the "wrong" time.

TheFallenMadonna · 27/12/2008 20:53

OP couldn't fit them in!

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thisismynewname · 27/12/2008 20:53

They were invited to BILs for xmas which is a few hours away. We expected to see them on boxing day as that is what they've done in the past but they refused to drive home on xmas day evening/boxing day morning to see us.

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AnarchyInAManger · 27/12/2008 20:53

Eh?

Its up to them when they give the presents, surely? They chose them, they bought them, they wrapped them - they give them.

TheFallenMadonna · 27/12/2008 20:54

But there is a fair bit of time between Boxing Day and the end of January.

SleighGirl · 27/12/2008 20:55

Perhaps as they get older the find all the driving tiring and wanted to drive a few hours and then stay for a few days, not unreasonable really.

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thisismynewname · 27/12/2008 20:56

Yes there is time between boxing day and new year but we have my family commitments and DH and I both work.

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randomxmas · 27/12/2008 20:56

yanbu - they should have called. Your dh was reasonable to ask for the pressies to be posted if they were to come from santa rather than from the grandparents.

DiscoDizzy · 27/12/2008 20:56

name changed back. Its not unreasonable of them to not want to travel back a few hours on Christmas Day just to come to yours on Boxing Day. YABVU

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thisismynewname · 27/12/2008 20:56

Sorry boxing day and end of january.

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Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:58

I think YABU in this situation. Specially to get huffy about them 'not even phoning' when you have offended them by bossing them about the presents. I don't think you have a leg to stand on here really.

SleighGirl · 27/12/2008 20:59

I think you need to take a step back and realise that there is "fault" on both side & misunderstanding, which means that it was just as reasonable for you to phone them on Christmas Day as it was them. You both need to make a peace offering.

TheFallenMadonna · 27/12/2008 21:00

OK. But you effectively gave them one day during which to see you over the Christmas/New Year holidays. Which is a bit harsh I think.

ANyway - you DH should have phoned his parents on Christmas Day.

compo · 27/12/2008 21:02

YABVVVVVVVVVVVVVU

ilove · 27/12/2008 21:03

oi compo...copy-cat lmao!!!

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thisismynewname · 27/12/2008 21:03

Thank you random.

DH asked them to drop them round to his work but they refused as they felt the drive was too long (45 mins) and then they refused to post them too, very upsetting for the DC.

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compo · 27/12/2008 21:04

you said it so well!

TheFallenMadonna · 27/12/2008 21:05

Why were your children upset? DO they know how many presents Father Christmas is likely to bring?

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 21:06

It is SO rude for your DH to be telling them what to do with their presents. Do you not see that?

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