To think that even one member of my team might have said thank you to me...

[MrsSchadenfreude]

...for taking them all out for a Christmas lunch? OK, so it was nowhere fancy, just a pub lunch (their choice), but I paid and not one of them had the courtesy to say thanks. One asked "What's the damage?" and I said it was my treat and she just said "Oh cool."

Or am I an old fuddy duddy who doesn't understand modern manners (or lack of)?

I usually buy them a small Christmas gift - wine and chocolates, but was so cross over this, I didn't bother this year.

They sound like arseholes. Spend the money on yourself next year.

YANBU - what is old fashioned about saying thank you?! Just plain rude IMO. Agree with badabing! You must feel very hurt. Enjoy Christmas and forget about them for a few days.

that is rude - very rude. but you were very kind to do that.

How Rude. I'd have said thank you.

gosh!you sound like my kinda colleagues.they are all ungrateful.dont be disheartened i love ya

twats- rise above it, and next year, spend it on a handbag! You sound lovely, btw...

Thank you!

comes with the job. took my lot out and paid for their first drink, bill came to £190. they thought it was 'on the company' errrr nooooooo us managers all paid for it. all 3 of us.

very rude

badly brought up people

very rude! my bosses took me out for dinner last week, thanked them in person then again in email. buy yourself something nice

Yes, very very rude. If it was my team I'd be expecting much arse licking tbh .

After our Xmas dinner last week I even gave the MD a kiss and said thanks!

It always astonishes me when people are so rude.

My Nan used to say: A thank you costs nothing, but pays you back in many ways.

I'm sure they almost certainly thought it was coming out of company expenses, but YANBU. They don't deserve you and your kindess.

I was peed off enough that the shortbread biscuits I baked were ignored and those that did take one seemed to feel they were doing me some kind of favour. They were ace, chocolate-dipped star-shaped shortbreads which my kids were begging me to let them have. I wish I had now.

That stinks. Our team leader took us out for a meal at an expensive restaurant and wouln't let us contribute to the bill, so we all chipped in and bought her a big box of hand-picked goodies from M&S, which I wrapped up as a hamper to say thank you.

YANBU

Don't do it next year.

YANBU - how rude!

Perhaps they thought it came out of company expenses ?

Not that that excuses a lack of thanks, though

Ditto what NomDePlume said. I haven't been that well but managed to go to the M&S garage on the way home from work and buy each team member a box of biscuits. Not an expensive gift I know, but some of them don't drink wine and I'm not buying 4 bottles of spirits. Got a sarky remark about it from one of them, can't remember what it was, but made me feel glad I hadn't expended any more time or effort to buy something.

Same with my DH - but bear in mind they may not realise you're paying for it personally - he spends about £200 on champagne for his team every year, and only this year found out that they all think its some "company" thing and that he claims the money back in some way.

He doesn't!!

that is just down right rude and ignorant.

Mrs S
I think it was lovely of you.

That happened to me once but I found out afterwards that they assumed I had done it on my company card.
Perhaps they didn't get it was from you personally?

ooh multi x-posted

Oh feel guilty now, am off work today due to DS being unwell. Team managed to get my christmas present to me. They are all fab and wonderful and wish I had bought a more generous present for them . Will take them out for lunch in January.

They knew it was me personally who paid - we are public sector and have NO money for staff entertainment. Never have, never will.

Their appraisals are due in the new year...

YANBU - that was down right rude!