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to be so BLOODY ANGRY with this women.

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:05

I am so angry I can't stop shaking

We were supposed to be getting a puppy on wed. A freind of my sisters had been asked to find him a homw and she couldn't take him so they asked me and dh. We have wanted a dog for ages so we said yes.

They live about 1 1/2 drive away so arranged to meet them to pick up dog on wed morn.m When i got there they weren't there so I rang her and she said they had lost the dog on a walk earlier that morn and so wouldn't be coming. I was annoyed that she hadn't bothered to let me know and i had driven all that way but she was so distraught I ended up reassuring her.

They said they would contact me if they heard anything and my sister said both this girl and her dh were really upset and worried about the puppy so I didn't hassle them by texting for news etc but waited for them to contact me. I heard nothing from them yesterday at all so today I texted at 10.45 to see if they'd heard anything.

She called me back nearly an hour later to say the dog had been found safe at 8.15 this morning and that he was physically fine but obviously traumatised by the last few days. Then she told me that she and her dh wanted to keep him now as they had spent 2 days looking for him and were emotionally attached to him.

Nothing I can say can make her change her mind and I am so angry that they are doing this. My poor dd has spent the last 2 1/2 days crying about the dog and I am sure that the upset of not getting him as expected on wed directly contributed to my ds with AS and ADHD having a meltdown at school yesterday.

We have spent loads of money buying things for him and on petrol travelling to get him on wed but as annoying as that is its irrelevant compared to how heartbroken my children will be. She has ruined their xmas

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whonickedmynickname · 19/12/2008 14:08

So go get another dog. There are MILLIONS out there that need rehoming - why try and encourage this one away from a home it already has.

And buying a dog for xmas is always dicey......

Sorry that sounds harsh but think about what you are saying here......

I'm not surprised they didn't ring/text you - I'd be a bit pre occupied if I'd lost a puppy on a walk! I'm sorry for your children - of course they are heartbroken - but another puppy/dog will be just as great for them.

littletownofmeglethem · 19/12/2008 14:10

If you still want a puppy go to the RSCPA / Battersea (if you live near london). They will have lots that need new homes . Your DC's will have to be patient.

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:11

He isn't theirs he's ours. She was just supposed to be looking after him for 24 hours until I collected him. He doesn't know them any more than he knows me. Yes we can get another puppy but not before xmas and my children are still heartbroken. Ans as for phoning me she knew I was worried and yet didn't bother to tell me he'd been found safe for hours. How bloody long does it tske to send a text after all.

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Idrankthechristmasspirits · 19/12/2008 14:12

YABU. This is not the only dog in the world, all the kit you have bought will still be used if you get another one.

mumof2222222222222222boys · 19/12/2008 14:12

They behaved badly, but the other posters made a good point.

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:12

We have also been planning to get a dog for months - this wasn't a spur of the moment xmas pressie.

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DoubleBluff · 19/12/2008 14:13

If no money had exchanged hansd then you are on to a looser.
Get another puppy form somewhere else

paolosgirl · 19/12/2008 14:13

Has money changed hands? Has a contract been signed? If so, then yes, he is yours, and you should pursue this through the appropriate channels.

If not - then the dog is not yours, I'm afraid. Hopefully the trauma has not been too much for the wee pup.

justneedsomesleeppleasesanta · 19/12/2008 14:15

your children haven't seen the dog yet so go get another from a dogs home and claim it as the one that they were promised.

and are we really supposed to be angry at the people who are now attached to this dog and helping it recover from its ordeal?

It's not like a turkey you order for christmas!

are you joking?!

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:15

It wasn't that sort of deal. He belonged to an elderly couple that couldn't lookk after him so they asked this girl to find him a new home. She asked us to take him and we said yes. She just picked him up from the elderly couple on the tuesday and was supposed to meet me on the wed to hand him over. I know ther's sod all I can do about it but it doesn't change the fact that its wrong.

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mrsjammilovessantababy · 19/12/2008 14:17

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justneedsomesleeppleasesanta · 19/12/2008 14:18

but the dog has a homw with people who are looking after him and are attached to him!

Like the others said, there are hundreds of other dogs...they would all love your childrens attention and the things you have bought...

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:18

No I'm not joking. I understand that they have been upset etc about the dog but this is not them thinking about whats best for him but about what they want. They both work all day and have busy lives. I am at home most of the day and can spend much more time with him.

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Lauriefairyonthetreeeatscake · 19/12/2008 14:18

yabu. You haven't met the dog, they have met him, kept him overnight, taken him for a walk, lost him, looked for him for two days.

They are the ones who are distraught as they have actually met the dog.

You can get yourself another dog - and you can make it a fab day out for the children which will be lovely.

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:19

Thankyou mrsjammie and that idea is tempting but I'd never do that to my kids.

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Idrankthechristmasspirits · 19/12/2008 14:20

You sound quite possesive about it, who was the dog really for? You or the kids?

There are bigger things to worry about in life than a dog you have not met.
Go to a dogs home, choose one together as a family and enjoy.

paolosgirl · 19/12/2008 14:21

Agree Laurie - take your kids to the rehoming centre and have them help you chose your family pet. I know it must be hard on them, but sometimes in life these things happen, and it's not as if they won't now be getting one at all - they can still look forward to a dog.

LittleJingleBellas · 19/12/2008 14:22

Sorry, I just think you sound a bit mad.

It must be the stress of Christmas getting to you.

WorzselMincepieYummage · 19/12/2008 14:23

I think your al being a bit harsh too we all know what its like when you get your heart set on something.

There are loads of pups which need a home though that much is true.

Fwiw i got my dog as a pup at christmas and it was hideously hard work, he kept nipping and shredding the paper and pissing alover us while we were sat trying to unwrap our presents and then we shut him in the kitchen and had to listen to him whine and cry while we tried to be festive

Find a pup which really suits you after christmas and get it from somewhere more reputable, you could even get the kids involved in choosing it.

WorzselMincepieYummage · 19/12/2008 14:24

Oh and then he chewed up al dds new toys and the shoes she was supposed to be wearing with her christmas dress.

Try to look on the brightside

mrsjammilovessantababy · 19/12/2008 14:24

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:26

I can't belive that none of you who are flaming me would not be pissed off if this happened to you. Of course its not the end of the world and we can get another puppy but are you honestly trying to say that if someone did this to you that you would calmly say 'oh not to worry these things happen' of course you wouldn't - yyou'd be pissed off too.

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dustystar · 19/12/2008 14:27

Thankyou mrsjammie and worzel.

They lost the dog because they took it out without a lead or collar to an airfield and he got spooked by a plane and ran. He didn't know them or where he was so just kept running.

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DoubleBluff · 19/12/2008 14:28

I totally understand you being angry Dusty
But it is a situation that can be sorted.
THere is nothing you can do about teh original dog.
You have no choice but to get another one.
Unless the original owner has a say in all of this.

MrsSnape · 19/12/2008 14:29

YANBU op, I would be fuming too.

Its like she got the dog and then just 'decided' to keep it for herself. You don't do that

It's fine saying "go and get another dog" but it's hardly the point. Why doesn't the other woman give the dog to the OP and go and get another one for herself?