to take the mick out of male colleagues who bring in shared food that their WIVES have made

[morningpaper]

this makes me both scornful and slightly depressed and I resort to extreme sarcasm

Only last week I was nibbling lemon cake from a colleagues WIFE.

What IS that ABOUT?

AIBU?

aaah you see i do love to bake cakes but as there is only me at home with ds1 (2.6) and ds2 (9mo), and i don't want to end up as big as a house by eating all my great cakes. so there are always leftover cakes going spare.

that's I don't want to end up looking like a house not DH doesn't want me to btw

I'm LMAO at the idea of everyone thinking anyone who bakes for their dh's colleagues is a Stepford wife.

I love to bake, and when I do I bake 3 or 4 batches at a time, or 3 or 4 different items and I usually give my partner some to take into his University/workplace.

I fail to see the issue with that, it prevents me from eating them all and I find baking relaxing.

He's a better cook as a rule and I'm the better baker so often he makes soup for me, salads, cooked meals etc to take into college with me and often makes enough for me to share with the other students.

Is that creepy too?

Even if you enjoy it, and have the time to make and ice four cakes, it's expensive to make several instead of just one.

I had an ex boyfriend that used to make me packed lunches every day it was marvellous. Sadly nothing else in the relationship was that great but do miss those lunches

I find it cheaper to bake batches/cakes at a time and less time consuming to bake 4 at a time than to bake one, one day then a few days later bake another.

Stepford Wifey? I am the least Stepford-like wife I know ... in fact, I am a slattern.

It's just a bloody cake ... who really gives a toss who made it?

Flipping Norah.

Does flipping Norah bake then ?

OK if anybody is making five cakes instead of one, just cos they love baking, make six for god's sake! and send it to me. thank you.

lol you stepford wives all doth protest too much

I must have a Stepford 'husband' then.

Stepford-wifey? This is daft, and bit fucking un-sisterly, tbh. Yes, I'll offer to make a cake for dh if he has to take something in - because i'm itching for an excuse to get in the kitchen and make a mess. He would never ask, would always assume that he'd do it himself, but I love baking. What's stepford-wifey about that? I don't think it impinges in the slightest on my own perception of myself as a well-educated professional woman. This is coming from the woman who hates the word wife, and gets very frosty when referred to as Mrs rather than Dr...

Habbibu, you could be saving lives but you're making cakes! outrageous!

I agree with you about making cakes. Full stop. Sending them into your husband's office is strange though.

lol, clearly cake baking is NOT something one can lightly dismiss on MN

Why on earth do you make 4 cakes if you don't need them? It's not "economical" if you are having to give them away because you can't eat them. What is it with compulsive cake-baking?

Why is it strange?

They're going to eat it which is exactly what I'd do with it? It's a fucking cake not a metaphor for the repression of women.

Not stepford in my case, more that dh would do the same thing for me. We both enjoy baking and cooking.

( I do bake quite a lot of cakes, btw

But I eat them

Or give them to friends

Aside from the stepford thingy, I find it peculiar that people can bake more cakes than they can eat)

Usually I freeze them, but sometimes I do give one to my partner to take into university/work with him.

I enjoy baking and it's nice to have a cake/cookies/brownies in the freezer.

You know, if you don't NEED a cake, then cook something else

such as dinner

or sit down with a cup of tea

or read a book

or do some work

I don't get how anyone has so much time that their houses are filled with cakes that they have baked as a therapeutic activity

I do all of those things too.

My house isn't literally filled with cakes, about once a week I decide to bake because I enjoy it so much.

And I don't just bake cakes, pies, pastries,brownies, cookies etc. And yes I cook meals I can freeze too.

"Have a cup of tea"

Only a non baker would understand how that fails completely to address the issues of bakerholics. I scorn you.

i eat any cake.servile wifely or not dont care.no odds.pass the cake go easy on bellyaching

WTF is so odd about baking a cake.

It doesn't seem to be the act of baking people object to, it seems to be cakes themselves. Is there some deeper meaning to sponges that I'm unaware of?

Yes, we rather get the point that you don't get it, MP.

But trust me, some of us do enjoy baking. Some of us find it therapeutic. You don't - that's fine. But I do, and that is also fine and I don't feel I deserve your scorn because of that.

I am a big girl now; I am allowed to bake if I want to.

What I'm doing just now. Being repressed by my chauvinist partner.

Actually I'm sitting here with a cup of tea and some chocolate digestives, chatting online and considering doing some studying, while my partner is busy wrapping the last of the Christmas gifts and then is going to clean the kitchen.

Oh woe is me.