to take the mick out of male colleagues who bring in shared food that their WIVES have made

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this makes me both scornful and slightly depressed and I resort to extreme sarcasm

Only last week I was nibbling lemon cake from a colleagues WIFE.

What IS that ABOUT?

AIBU?

Actually I would say that someone who bakes so many cakes that they regularly have to give them away to random strangers might have either too much time on his/her hands or some other sort of ishoos. (this does not, obvioulsy, apply to CoV who is a professional cake-maker and likes to test recipes on people - that's understandable). Or is it that certain recipes can't be made in less than massive quantities?

Heaven forbid that people have hobbies.

It's once a week for me, sometimes not even that often.

And I don't have to give them away to random strangers, I do have a freezer but I see no problem with allowing others to enjoy them also.

Besides I don't have to give them away at all, I can eat a lot of cake, a hell of a lot of cake and my partner can too, but I'd rather freeze/share them.

"someone who bakes so many cakes that they regularly have to give them away to random strangers might have either too much time on his/her hands or some other sort of ishoos."

Oh come on. You make a normal sized cake fitting a normal sized tin but there are 2 of you and one toddler in the house. Half the cake is more than sufficient, so you send the other half away for DH to feed his colleagues/students. What's so fucking freakish about that? And mp, so you don't like baking - is no-one allowed to like anything you don't now

I hate cooking so much I could never waste the time and effort spent on cooking to do something as frivolous as a cake (which as a foodstuff I really don't like).

I have to cook to provide something relatively healthy for my family to eat almost every day.

If I ever do get round to baking, I do it with the children because they seem to enjoy it, so its an activity I grit my teeth for (much like making cards with glittery glue and the like).

But I am a SAHM with school age children. I have the time to bake. I choose not to. And so I can't imagine ever cooking something for DH to take into work to share with his colleagues. In this regard I perfectly well understand the OP.

But you don't like baking, eek - fair enough. I don't get why people like to slide down mountains on sticks. I really don't. And it costs a fucking fortune. Do I feel the need to castigate those who do it?

oooh Habbibu but I DO like baking

But not to the extent that I have a surplus . I would, you know, stop baking at that point, or make a pie for dinner instead

ok so the point we have reached is that WIVES SEND CAKES INTO THEIR HUSBAND'S WORKPLACES BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNCONTROLLABLE URGE TO BAKE

is that it?

But I'm just talking one cake, mp - half is enough for us, so I give DH the other half. Now why is that freaky?

stop SHOUTING chill out.what a fuss about nowt

My partner makes meals for a few days at a time, is that weird too?

Not really - how many cakes are you getting at work, mp? Is it every day? Is there a non-stop supply?

well you know, maybe some of us enjoy baking and also enjoy doing something nice for other people???
it isn't much trouble to make extra cake if you're already cooking some, and knowing that other people are going to appreciate it is very nice.

Oh no, I don't feel the need to castigate those who do it (baking, lol! not a criminal activity), Habbibu.

I feel a frisson of understanding with the OP (although disclaimer: I don't feel so worked up as to start a thread about it).

I only posted to let her know that there are one or two of us who get where she is coming from. I feel a bit sorry for her flaming.

why even get worked up about it??? some people enjoy making cakes for their DH and ironing their shirts. Other people thinks that this makes them a mug.

Personally speaking, I do ever so occasionally iron a shirt for my DH and I feel all lovely and warm inside because I know he appreciates it. It is NICE to do things for each other. That IMO is what makes a marriage work....But that is only my opinion. If others don't get that warm feeling when doing something for their DH/DP then, well, they are different from me that's all!!!

I was expecting a flaming

I like a bit of a flaming over a good subbject like cakes, though - it is the masochist in me

in the old days Soupdragon would just have come on the thread and punched me and that would be that

Oh, don't feel sorry for mp - she's all fired up on the excess sugar she gets from Women Who Bake Too Much.

And me, I'm enjoying a good ol' harmless MN ruck. As I suspect is mp...

for the record, I make AMAZING mince pies

they are light and delicious

it's a good topic for a ruck

i make my boyfriend sandwiches when i make mine.no extra effort as im doing it anyway.don't feel oppressed

but MP do you never feel like sharing the mince pie love and basking in the glory when everyone says how lovely they are???

oh and, for the record, I don't think I have ever ironed a shirt for dp! lol

i make smashing tablet and send dp in with it