To want to tell the loud, simpering mother in the post office queue to keep it down?

[Nicdigby]

OK, now I accept that we all talk nonsense to our babies, even in public, especially when they do funny things, BUT this woman today in the post office was REALLY loud, REALLY simpering, and was doing the whole "oooooh aren't you a gorgeous laughing boy, Mummy loves you when you're that....doesn't she? oooooh, she does, she does, yes, Mummy's talking all about you.....oh you're smiling, oh Mummy loves that, ooooooo, yes you are, Mummy loves you...." Non stop.

And she was doing it so loudly and so smugly that I just wanted to tell her to shut up. The poor baby was only a few months old and was probably wanting her to shut up too!

I mean, really, the whole post office queue could hear her and she had this simpering look on her face that I just wanted to say "oh, PLEASE, get a life you sad cow".

God I am getting so intolerant these days. AIBU or do you agree that sometimes other mums' simpering is way over the top?

Hope I'm OK saying this - basically OP is sue to gor to SIL for Christmas but they charge £65 for lunch per person no overnight stay included. As you can imagine pretty much 100% of MN said the sil was insane and totally nuts and how she mustn't go - we're now all dying to find out whats hapened - please, please tell us Nic!

No way!!! £65 for lunch at someone's house??????????????? ROFL

Unless they work at Quaglinos or similar, it's a no brainer.. How is that defamatory???

Bloody hell what is the matter with you people?

Smug and attention-seeking? Talking to your baby? Maybe she just naturally has a loud voice, some people do.

And as for the opinion that it's all right for a couple of minutes but after that it gets irritating, what? So mothers have to ration the amount of time they keep their babies occupied do they?

You can bet your bottom dollar that if she'd stopped talking to him he would have started yelling and then you would have complained that there was this woman there who was paying no attention to her baby and letting it cry because all it needed was some interaction which she couldn't be bothered to give....

Dearie dearie me

But yes your SIL sounds a loon and I'd be v. interested to know what's on the menu.

I never did find out what was on the menu

do tell

Just spoken to dH (he is a chef and owns 3 restaurants) that to cover food and wine cost but excluding labour £20 per head should cover it. SIL is massively taking the piss.

I REALLY WANT TO KNOW HOW THE THREAD WAS DEFAMATORY - IT'S ANONYMOUS ON HERE, ISN'T IT? (Well, mostly, anyway...)

Did MNHQ pull the thread?
Did they send nic an email saying "you bad girl, you're being defamatory? Or did the thread just get pulled and even nic didn't know what happened to it?
Did the in-law's show up on MN and bust her?

THE SUSPENSE IS DOING ME IN!!!

CrackFox - maybe she hires staff to server

Gah, someone from the Pedants' Corner just showed up, slapped my wrist and pointed out that should be "in-laws"

But... so did they????

Calm down dear it's just a thread about a thread
(well it is now)

Well, I'm bored and I want to know!

me too
but the OP is being cagey
It mut have been the BIL/SIL showing up, the thread was very reasonable iirc

There are only 2 reasons why it would be pulled imo...

1. her B/SIL are famous

1. her b/sil works for MN.

My bet is on YetMoreTech. He needs more gadgets for his shed.

(Scoots off to check the tabloids for exposes on which z-listers charge their relatives to come for Christmas dinner).

Back to the topic in hand - I try not to be irritated by other people simpering, but it has been known to annoy me when it's accompanied by lots of smug gazing around the room/shopping centre to check everyone's looking, and that isn't often.

Last time I was having a bit of me-time on a bench, eating a sandwich while waiting for DD to finish gymnastics, and a woman with a baby sat there chanting "who's got a stinky bum?" over and over again, complete with smug grinning. I had to move because I didn't want to waste the sandwich.

LOL

Who's got a stinky bum is quite pushing it actually

Not read all the thread but if we're still discussing the OP....

I HATE this kind of "EVERYONE LOOK AT ME AND MY BABY, WE'RE SO PERFECT!" crap. It really, really irritates me. I personally think the mothers do it for attention and not for the baby's sake.

I was walking to school with another mum once earlier this year. We had our 9 year old DC's with us and all of a sudden she started saying to her 9 year old DD...

"You know, I love you very, very much. Mummy loves you, daddy loves you, grandma peg loves you, snuggles the cat loves you, we all love you so very, very much...."

I found the whole thing very cringeworthy! If I spoke like that to my DS in front of his mates he'd be like "oh my god, are you drunk?!"

God, what a joyless OP! I babble away to little Ff like a prize moron most of the time while we are out, and if we are walking the dogs I chat to them too. Last week I went all around Waitrose chatting away at her, trying to make her smile and laugh...in the future I will try to be more considerate of those around me and dump her in a forward facing buggy with a bag of crisps and a Fruit Shoot to keep her quiet

She's in love with her newborn, whats so wrong with that, I'm sure I was absolutely in love with mine, altho I cannot be certain as the whole thing is a far away blur tinged with utter exhaustion....

LOL @ this thread......majority of posters moaning about this would have hated me when ds1 was a toddler and we were on buses/trains/ in shops etc.

In shops we became soldiers to the point that when he "threw a grenade" at me I would fall down....we always had fun. On trains we would sing all kinds of songs, or i would tell him stories, read to him anything to keep him amused.

On Buses well we were just as bad...

And I will probably be the same with ds2 although I don't use buses very often now.

How can something anonymous be defamatory?Lawyers, please advise before my MIL sues me for millions.

re: the defamatory thing.

If the original thread about the SIL charging for Xmas was defamatory then surely this thread is also defamatory (you are , after all, slagging off criticising some woman in the PO)....together with approx. 75% of the threads on MN ???

BTW that was posted with and a , I'm not having a go

Guys we all talk to our babies, you're missing the point. Its the ones who feel that everyone around them wants to listen to their annoying baby talk, in a stupid voice that got on the OP's nerves.

No shouting at a baby would not be better, I can chat to my baby and play with her when we are out without half the supermarket, postoffice queue, airplain wanting to give me a dig to shut me up I'm so annoying.

There is a middle ground. Someone mentioned she may have PND, well the filthy looks and raised eyebrows she probably got at her 'fuzzy wuzzy' crap probably wont help with that!

Woman opposite me in Maternity Ward did the same thing the whole of the first night. She did my head in. She was billing and cooing and talking, singing etc. She rang people at 2 in the morning so they could "talk" to the baby, she took flash pictures as I was trying to sleep, next thing the video camera started whirring!
I was a first time Mum and was pretty proud of my dd but I thought I'd swing for her. I thought I brought someone in the world, I'll bloody take one out of it !

Yes it is motherese, instinctive talking shite to your baby in a silly voice, scientifically shown to be common to mothers everywhere - so it's allowed at 6 months IMO! (By the time the child is 8 years, no, it would annoy me).

But I have every sympathy with the poor woman, I'm sure I was like that. In fact as I'm feeling so broody I would probably have joined in.