To want to tell the loud, simpering mother in the post office queue to keep it down?

[Nicdigby]

OK, now I accept that we all talk nonsense to our babies, even in public, especially when they do funny things, BUT this woman today in the post office was REALLY loud, REALLY simpering, and was doing the whole "oooooh aren't you a gorgeous laughing boy, Mummy loves you when you're that....doesn't she? oooooh, she does, she does, yes, Mummy's talking all about you.....oh you're smiling, oh Mummy loves that, ooooooo, yes you are, Mummy loves you...." Non stop.

And she was doing it so loudly and so smugly that I just wanted to tell her to shut up. The poor baby was only a few months old and was probably wanting her to shut up too!

I mean, really, the whole post office queue could hear her and she had this simpering look on her face that I just wanted to say "oh, PLEASE, get a life you sad cow".

God I am getting so intolerant these days. AIBU or do you agree that sometimes other mums' simpering is way over the top?

chat and cooing at baby = good

OTT gushing so that EVERYONE can see and hear what a wonderful mother she is = sickening.

YANBU at all if its the later.

SALTs would actually recommend speaking to babies in "in a strange baby language of made up words". It is called Motherese and all cultures have it. All mums do it slightly differently. Any talking of any sort will help a baby learn to speak, even gobbledigook.

it would have irritated ME, I can almost hear the false cheeriness now . . . doesn't have to be a toss up between someone abusing their baby and being annoying at high volume, it IS possible to fall within the normal bounds of behaviour isn't it? it's not nice to make lots of high pitched noises in public, why couldn't she talk to her baby a bit more quietly?

with you in intolerance

Am so with CD on the reading aloud thing too. It is possible to read to them quitely. the rest fo the carriage does not need to hear.

Oh yes and getting your toddler to practice her walking down the stairs in the tube at rush hour in half term in South KENSINGTON (next to the museums) is just stupidity. we are NOT impressed with your parenting or juniors walkign ability.

(the YABUs are the grumpiest by far aren't they?)

StayFrosty, will you marry me?

snowman person
you shouldn't read the YABU threads if they make you this angry

whre do you see all these swearing parents?

All is get is condescending train bellowers and normal people

YABU. And bloody miserable.

Move to my part of the world I have heard children called 7 shades of shit where I live. Very depressing actually. Would love to hear more simpering.

if it was 4 years ago it would have been me. dd smiled for the first time aged 6 months in the post office queue. I burst into tears and went into simper overdrive as the docs had all said she would never smile or see or know who we were.

I can sympathise, a 2 hour flight I was on last year was to the tune of 'Daddy' baby talking endlessly to 'Luuucceeeeee' in a loud high pitched and nasal voice all the way. "Are we gowing up high in a pwaaaannnee Luuuuceeeee?" "Gowing in a pwaaannnee wiv mummmmeeeee and dadddddee? Luuuccceeee?", "Luceeee want bokkkkeeee Luuucceee?"
Oh god by the end even the child was crying.

I'm all for distracting a child on a flight but he was so loud it was clearly not just for Luuuucccccceeeeeee's benefit. Urgh.

The interesting thing was that there were two other kids with him who were completely ignored.

Would you have rather have listened to the baby crying for the entire flight?

Must say I do take Shaun's point that simpering etc for smug/attention-seeking purposes is incredibly annoying.

CountessDracula - try London Bridge station, Leicester town centre or any daytime queue for a Leicester bus - all fertile breeding grounds for aggy, slappy parents ime

that's the thing, it's when it's so blatantly for everyone BUT the baby's benefit

surely it is normal to find such behaviour annoying? doesn't have ANYTHING to do with people swearing or otherwise being horrible to their children, that's a separate set of circumstances entirely

agree Frosty's was an ott response to the OP

in answer to the OP, at least she wasn't calling the baby a tiny wanker

yes quite
It's when they are doing it LOUDLY for effect
They want everyone to hear them and think aah what a lovely ickle wickle mummy wummy
whereas in fact they just think
twat

what is this repeated, stubborn insistence that it is a choice between grating on all right thinking people's nerves and swearing at your baby

am I the only one who thinks there is quite a big middle ground?

nicdigby, was it you ho posted about our in-laws charging £65 for xmas lunch ?

what happened to your thread ?

Jesus - Ebenezer Scrooge has nothing on you!!