Need to get this off my chest before Monday - It's about Red Heads !

[KatieDD]

I was telling a tale in the playground about how i'd put my foot in it in the maternity ward.
The jist was that my DD was born with loads of hair, looked like a little monkey but it was dark brown.
Anyway a woman on my ward said oh hasn't she got lovely hair and without looking up from my magazine I said yes thank god it's not red like her dad's. Of course I looked up and she and her newborn had red hair.
I cringed, went back to the magazine she walked off.
If you heard this tale and had a son with red hair would YOU be mortally offended ??

I ask because on Thursday this happened and the woman who is pig ignorant at the best of times on Friday said hello to the person I was talking to and made a point of not saying hello to me, she's just looking for a reason to kick off again, we've had a few moments in the past.
I know it's petty but she has sat in my living room and told me my youngest has got better looking with age so she's not adverse to putting her foot in it herself.

I just know this is leading to an atmospher tomorrow grrr.

Oh. What was the point of this thread then? To tell people that you made a nasty comment and then aren't actually bothered by it?

I can see from your OP that there are some unresolved issues between you. Why on earth would you want to make life more complicated by playing childish games?

Am parping off now with my red hair.

Right - tbh you knew she had a redhaired child and maybe you didn't think before you told the story. She might have felt it was a joke with a jag at her. Probably a little oversensitive but I can understand where she's coming from as redheads do get a lot of grief.

And she'd made the comment about your son so you were feeling a little bit annoyed at her which might have been oversensitive too. Loads of people have said that about my ds, but in that at least he looks more like me now than his dad, but we don't take offense.

I would clear the air with her.

Well I didn't think it was that nasty, but you are right lots of history there.

OH!!!!

oh, well in that case she is twit-ish

best ignored

Goodness only knows what your DP must think then - you clearly have issues with people with red hair!

but can't you see that it is that kind of attitude that perpetuates the bullying of redheads?

I think if I had been the mother of the newborn I would have been mildly offended but would have realised you didn't mean to be so rude - I wouldn't have taken offence as this woman you are talking about has done, because that is being too touchy.

But still, I do get peed off with people saying "thank god he/she hasn't got red hair" - some of the most beautiful hair is red, and so many people dye their hair red, it is just pathetically prejudiced. Yes, I have red-blonde hair and yes I was bullied for it - but I get really quite angry when people say that about my DS - he might have light strawberry blond hair and he will look gorgeous if he does, and so much more unusual than your boring blonds/browns.

I have made him shave it all off to be honest, could hardly bear to look at him

If I hadn't seen you on other threads, I'd think this was a wind-up.

I am very shocked at your last comment.

I actually agree with you thumbwitch, there's a lot of red in our family, but it's like having a big nose or a funny shaped head nobody wants to give the potential bullies any reason to single yours out do they ?
DH was quite small as well so combined with his red hair he may as well have had kick me written on his forehead, hence why he started martial arts which is what started off this conversation in the playground.

llareggub - I did not make me DH shave his head for goodness sake.

Then I would respectfully point out that the original post referred to you making a "joke" that offended someone. Now your last "joke" has offended me. I don't see your humour, to be honest. I really am going now.

Thumbwitch. I agree. I love red hair. Some of my cousins have that beautiful deep red that I tried to dye my boring blond hair into. Unfortunately it turned more pink than Nicole Kidman's lovely tresses.

I love red hair esp on little boys.

I am astonished some people are prejudiced against it.

And even more astonished others ascede to such prejudices by hoping their kids don't have red hair

lol trixie - I did that when I was about 14 - I was trying for a deeper shade of red than my own but wasn't too good with the ol' toners and shaders range (remember them?) and ended up with a deep pink/magenta patch on the back of my head, where I had first put the dye on. Whoops!

Omg toners and shaders. Both me and my friend did it. Said it would wash out...

Did it buggery..

haha, yes that was exactly the problem! purple patch lasted ages....

Ha ha you're bringing it all back to me now..

I never learnt though. Dyed it again when I was 20-odd, once again turned pink after a few washes. Spent 6 hours in the hairdresses stipping my hair and trying to get it some sort of normal shade.

DId you ever try to dye it black? it probably would have gone green

god I must have had one too many
I can't make head not tails of this

you insulted red haired people,of which your dh is one.
she wasn't there but knows you said it???
she has red hair and has dc with ginger tendencies ??
you are having coffee with her and you are worried it may come up in conversation

fuck I am confused
who gives a fuck
talk about something else

god I must have had one too many
I can't make head not tails of this

you insulted red haired people,of which your dh is one.
she wasn't there but knows you said it???
she has red hair and has dc with ginger tendencies ??
you are having coffee with her and you are worried it may come up in conversation

fuck I am confused
who gives a fuck
talk about something else

you must dye your hair bright red tonight

No thumbwitch. Never black cos my sis was the gothy type and she would've thought I was trying to copy her.

ggirl. I'm with you now. One too many. Just crept on me all of a sudden. Now drinking coffeee - which is prob a bad thing at nearly one in morn!

I can't make any sense of this story.

You made an obnoxious comment about redheads to a woman who was on your ward with a newborn.

The woman, whom apparently you previously did not know, has been sitting in your living room. You made a comment that could be interpreted as tactless. Your tactless comment was about her and her newborn child, yet later on in the thread, you comment that she hasn't got a newborn child. Right.

So even though she has been sitting in your living room, you did not know she had red hair. Gosh. I thought I was unobservant. I can proudly boast that I know the hair colour of EVERY guest that has ever been through my living room. I must be unusual.

Anyhow, the woman whom we have established that you do not know at all well (despite her having been in your living room) is pig ignorant. Right. I'm not in the habit of having pig ignorant people in my living room, but each to their own.

And the problem is that you are due to meet her tomorrow and this will lead to an atmosphere. And this is all exacerbated by the fact that she is a dinner lady. With red hair but without a newborn child.

Your suggested solution to the problem is that "really I should just get it out in the open tomorrow and then ignore her, so at least everybody knows what a prat she is."

Right.

Good solution

QC - the woman who is 'pig-ignorant' is not the one in the maternity ward - the OP was telling the story about the maternity ward incident and the 'pig-ignorant' woman took offence at it, 6 years after the event.
Does that help?

To all redheads

I absolutely lurve red hair. I have a sneaking fondness for people with red hair (do not tell DH). I think it is fantastic and unusual and is often stunningly beautiful.

I have no idea what this nonsensical thread is about but thought it was worth being more than sarcastic.