I have changed name for this. I am a long long standing mumsnet member and not a troll.
I had my third baby a few months ago. The experience (in common with so many other women sadly) was dire. My baby ended up in SCBU which I partly attribute to the negligence around the birth (c-section) and non-diagnosis of breech position. I ended up with a severe (you would not believe how severe if you did not see the pics) allergic BURN from the surgical drape despite telling them that similar had happened before and not to use anything that was sticky on my skin. I was not given the anti-d injection despite being rehsus positive and my baby being rehsus negative. It was only on day 10 when I was the one who realised that it had not been given and literally chased up and down the hospital from floor to floor to ask someone to give it to me that it was finally done. This is just the highlights - there is of course more.
I thought about making a complaint at the time and life just got in the way. We were then issued with a bill for the one night I spent in a private room (laughable that they could call it that) at £150 for the night! I was in a private room because a doctor said that I MUST lay with entire nether region exposed (due to allergic burn) or there would be severe risk of infection if it did not dry out. This was on a ward with men walking past all the time. Even with the curtains closed, the fans (it was boiling hot) kept blowing them open and people kept brushing against the curtains and opening them. We (dh and I) said again and again that this was not a suitable environment for me to do this. In the end, they finally agreed to put in me in the private room (but with door propped open!).
Anyhow, this bill prompted my dh to write and complain about everything and to ask for compensation for which we would offset the bill for the private room. They immediately agreed to cancel the bill. He wants to take it further now. He works in insurance himself and works with someone who used to be part of the NHS claims department who said they would cancel the bill straight away in an attempt to make us go away.
Part of me wants to as well. It was hell and people should not be treated like this. It has also put me off ever having another baby. Partly as I am worried about the risk from not having been given the anti-d in time, and partly because I could never go through that experience again. They have no right to have put me in a place where I am actually saying no to more kids.
However, part of me says that any compensation I claim will just come out of the already overstretched NHS pot and will only lead to worse treatment for others in even more overstratched hospitals.
So, am I being unreasonable to want to claim compensation? (and I realise this may kick off which is one of the reasons I namechanged)