School Mufti day but only if you bring a tombola prize?????

[karise]

Am a right to feel like I'm being taken for a ride?
School christmas cards, teatowels etc fine. Then we have a choice. But nobody wants their child to be the only one in school with their uniform on for mufti day so we all go along with it like twits
It just feels like mass bullying to me or am I being over the top?

We do a non-uniform day and the children have to pay. Raises money for the charities that we are supporting.

A tombola prize doesn't sound ott to me.

well we run this and I dont get the issues?

I presume you want your child to benefit from the fundraising? so ehy is an old unwanted present in a cupboard or tin of soup too much to give?

and actually if your4 child didnt bring it what do you tink would happen? we dont punish the kids for the actions of their carers.

Shesh

doesn't sound bad to me..? we have to give cold hard cash each time, grabbing an unwanted item from round the house would be great instead!!

you are not.

and its lkike "spot the poor kid" if you dont go along.

i'd take in somethng fucking rank - like a jar of tesco jam 29p

but send in a formal complaint.

But custy- we'd be happy witha 29p gift!

ours is achoccy tombola, a penguuin bar is a-ok

My kids school is doing this today for children in need for a donation of £1.

For a tombola prize have you not got an unwanted gift you have received for xmas or a birthday that you can donate? Then the cost to you is actually nothing and the school have some nice tombola prizes.

YABU to think you are being taken for a ride. It's not like they're asking for big sums of money.

If you can't afford it, send the kid in in mufti anyway and brazen it out. I collect stuff on mufti day from the parents and I never 'challenge' anyone who comes in without bringing something. (Mind you, my scary co-chair does.)

Maybe the reasoning is that everyone has unwanted gubbins lying around the house, but not everyone can afford to donate the money to charity which is usually required for mufti days.

Although I have to say that it's unlikely anyone would make a fuss if your child went in mufti but didn't have a donation with him or her ...

DS's school have got it right today, I think, they're selling home made cakes for children in need.

My school do this.
I think its fine. You dont have to take anything expensive, and it isnt as if they would punish a child who wore normal clothes and didnt bring in anything.
My DDs school did this recently and she actually came home saying that even if they didnt bring anything in it was still OK to wear normal clothes, so the school must have given it some thought.

Both of my DDs schools do this. It's usually £1 for a specific charity. Sometimes it's an item for the School Fair. I think if money is really tight then £1 per child could be an issue. Tombola item should be easier though. A tin of value baked beans?

custardo How can it be 'spot the poor kid' ???????

A Tombola prize can be anything grabed from your cupboards. It doesn't have to be expensive. I don't think the kids pay any attention to what they or others are bringing in.

Our school does this.

Never thought to object.

But I have sent them in in mufti before and forgot the donation and no one has sent them back with accusations of fraud.

So just do that, if the issue really is the shaming of your child. I would bet alot of money you wouldn't get picked up on for it.

Don't write a letter to complain, you will look like an arse.

An arse without much of a life.

Bring it up at the PFA meeting if you feel really strongly about it.

Oh for crying out loud - mass bullying???????!!!! Letters of complaint????????

You mean you haven't got a tin of soup or a bottle of own brand ketchup or an unopened cake of soap you can send in?

As I keep saying - I do hope the people who kick up a fuss about this sort of thing make sure their children don't benefit from any of the stuff the fund raisers buy for the school!

God this attitude p*sses me off!!!!

If you think that's bad ours had to bring in bottles (preferably alcohol) for the drinks tombola today so they could go in their own lothes!

I did struggle to find 2 X £1 today, had to ask school to delay trip money to be able to do it, I have 57p until monday now (but dont need more)

but there's surely always something in the cupboard? we need to have stuff for the fayre tu run it and school needs the things we buy

Well said seeker

I don't mind making donations & it's not a cost thing!
I just think there would be better ways of doing it so that it doesn't become a game of who can bring the most fantastic prize in.
Am a rediculous for thinking that parents should be making donations in a way they think can help rather than what the school tells you to do?

Bottle tombola - the aforementioned own brand ketchup or a bottle of supermarket bubble bath.

Or a stubby of lager.

Or a bottle of vinegar. Now THAT would be appropriate!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We ask for alcohol contributions - always makes me slightly uneasy.

No it's an alcohol tombola. I'm not really bothered but there's something a bit weird in watching your 5 year old carrying her book bag, lunchbox, water bottle and a bottle of wine when heading into school.

our school didn't do a mufti day

karise - you could suggest to the PTA that you write out a cheque to cover your contribution for the year, say, and tell them that you expect to be exempt from all other fundraising activities?

In our school it would work out at about £40 p/a from each child (so quite often £80/£120 per family).

we had this in the summer and I bloody won the prize that I had donated.