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to object to fiance going to a strip club for his stag do

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EyeballsintheSky · 12/11/2008 08:06

Firstly, I am writing this on behalf of a non MNetter friend who has heard about your wisdom. My DH will testify I have no need for a fiance at the moment!

Right, friend (let's call her Marge) has been with this guy (let's call him Percy) for over a year, they think the sun shines out of each other, totally loved up etc. So they are talking about getting married and he pipes up that for his stag do, he and a group of friends want to go to Las Vegas to the strip clubs.

Marge has a real problem with this, to the point of it making or breaking the relationship. I know not why but she finds the whole thought of it totally disgusting. She has absolutely no problem with Percy going off to L.V and getting pissed blah blah it's just the idea of the strip club.

Percy knows how she feels, as he confessed in the early days that he had been there before he met her and she nearly left him then but she managed to put it in the past.

He thinks it's is his last splurge before settling down and there is no harm in it. She thinks that he is wrong for gong ahead and doing something which would upset her so much that there may not be a need for a stag do. It's the only fly in otherwise perfect ointment and she knows that he will be devastated if she ends it but she thinks he won't budge over this. I personally think he will budge if it comes down to it but, what she wants to know is if she is being unreasonable by demanding asking him not to do this.

Wise MNetters, over to you.

(Going out now for a bit but will return )

OP posts:
morningpaper · 13/11/2008 09:20

'It's a pretty sad state of affairs if he can't pass up watching other women being exploited for someone he is obviously professing to love.'

agree

Bubbaluv · 13/11/2008 09:23

My Dad commented that when out on business trips etc, when the idea is raised, there is a clear demarkation between men who have daughters and those who don't.

pamelat · 13/11/2008 09:59

I have never seen the Chippendales but would imagine its very different? I dont think that its an environment in which you can pay for "extras"? (unlike strip clubs) or am I just naive?

Blondeshavemorefun · 13/11/2008 10:50

it sounds to me that your friend doesnt trust her hubby

my dh had his stag do in amsterdam and yes they went to a strip club/bothel

they saw naked girls doing a bit of a wriggle through glass

one went for a priavte dance - but he was single so allowed

rest of them watched a bit of titty and then drank lots and smoked abit of puff

i saw strippers for my hen do as well as meal and spa

if he wanted a last minute shag he doesnt have to go to LV

southeastastra · 13/11/2008 10:52

ew

BitOfFun · 13/11/2008 11:05
Hmm
LindenAvery · 13/11/2008 11:11

Think op's friend and her partner need to talk this thru' as both have to be happy with the outcome else frankly this marriage is probably not going to work.

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