To dislike my show off niece?

[complicated]

I really dislike my neice. She's 14 and such a show off attention seeker. She drives me mad.

They all came down last night and the idea was that they help me decorate as I've not been feeling up to it at all.

So we go in the bedroom and neice offers to mix paint up and create a unique colour. I said "best not as we won't be able to match it properly later on if we need more paint" so she said "I'll make enough for the full room" so I allowed her to do it.

A while later she comes running downstairs saying she's finished mixing it. So we go up to look and to be fair, it was a really nice colour and I thanked her and we started painting the walls with it.

So whilst up the ladders she started going on about her art class at school, and then about the GCSE she wants to do in art, and then the college course she wants to do it art ... I just nod politely and told her to go for it as she's clearly good at art. So she started rabbiting on about all these supposedly famous painters knowing full well I've never heard of them and so I changed the subject.

She just gets on my nerves. Everytime she speaks she shows off. She's always trying to make people laugh, always butting into conversations, always needs to be centre of attention.

I was supposed to be going to my sister's today and when I phoned this morning she said "DD is off school but it's still ok for you to come" and so I just said "actually, I'm not feeling too well, I'll leave it".

So she said "is that because DD is off school? has she done something to upset you?" and I know I'm probably been a bit mean but she drives me mad. If I did go today the whole day would be about "her".

Yabu

she's 14 and you're and adult

And I can't see what upsets you so much tbh

You sound terribly immature and petty, she sounds 14.

Are you jealous of her?

She sounds like a normal confident teenager

I think YABU and you should take more interest in her art stuff as it clearly means a lot to her

YABU - she's trying to share her life with you, her ambitions & things she's interested in. Be thankful she wants to takl to you at all. I'd rather spend time with a child who wanted to talk, tried to make me laugh etc than a sullen uncommunicative teen

You sound a bit mean to be honest, If she's annoying you there are ways of dealing with it in an adult way at the time. If everyone ignores her and lets her carry on controlling conversations she will never learn any social manners.

well for instance me and sis will be having a conversation about Eastenders. she will suddenly butt in and say "oh! did you see when so and so happened? I was "no way" but then did you see so and so's face??" and that's it, she dominates the conversation again.

Sing loudly over the top of whatever she's saying when she gets annoying. It sounds about the right level of maturity.

I think it's nice she offered to help with the paint and she is clearly enthusiatic about her art lessons.

Try to feel proud of having a niece with arty talents even if she does seem a bit forward.

YABU

What, she dares to join in with conversations about Eastenders? How outrageous!

A convo about Eastenders is hardly a personal one not to be interrupted though is it?

Are you able to spend a bit more time with your sister without children, then maybe you won't resent your neice for butting in so much when she's around?

I just hope you don't manage to knock all that confidence out of her.

yabu and ridiculous-it sounds to be as she worships you and is seeking more attention from you.i dont think she sounds like a 'show off' she sounds like shes trying to make conversation with you.id be proud of her-not jealous.

She was staying at our house once and she asked if DS was "emo" or "chav". I said "I have no idea, he's 7 years old" so she said "oh, well best make him emo then!" so I said "whatever you want "

So an hour later DS comes walking downstairs with his hair stuck over his face with gel and black eye liner on. I told her off because the pencil could have easily gone in his eye and he looked bloody stupid but all night she waffled on and on and on about emo and the bands she liked and the clothes she wanted and the clothes DS would look "ace" in etc

It's not about eastenders, she just "has to be in" everytime she's around. She has to dominate everything and everyone has to look at HER.

I was a bit like that at 14, I couldn't help it and I didn't realise.
I calmed down with time and life,s knocks
Give her a bit of a break, she sounds like a teenager

your niece sounds ace.

YABU she is 14 your her Aunty maybe she just wants your approval

I am 24 I still phone my Aunt up and tell her everything thats going on with me where I have been even when I don't have much to say I will still tell her the boring things etc I hope she don't think like you.

I agree with cheesesarne. It sounds as though she is trying to impress you and get your attention. She obviously thinks a lot of you.

So it's alright for her to help paint your house for you as long as she does so in silence?

Are you 13 and jealous of her?

you need to chill out

and as a major role model for your niece you need to show her a bit more love and attention - sounds like she's craving it

god, she sounds great

and clearly loves and looks up to her aunt

maybe you ought to act like you deserve it

You could always try telling her to calm it down abit when she's going overboard. Or do you just let her carry on, make you seethe then talk about her afterwards.

Rememember, she is 14. I have a fridge magnet that says "ask a teenager now whilst they know everything".

Ah, she's only 14. She sounds bright and chatty. 14 yr olds can be very overbearing, but come on - you're the adult. Be nice to her.

how old are you complicated?