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AIBU?

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To dislike my show off niece?

150 replies

complicated · 07/11/2008 13:56

I really dislike my neice. She's 14 and such a show off attention seeker. She drives me mad.

They all came down last night and the idea was that they help me decorate as I've not been feeling up to it at all.

So we go in the bedroom and neice offers to mix paint up and create a unique colour. I said "best not as we won't be able to match it properly later on if we need more paint" so she said "I'll make enough for the full room" so I allowed her to do it.

A while later she comes running downstairs saying she's finished mixing it. So we go up to look and to be fair, it was a really nice colour and I thanked her and we started painting the walls with it.

So whilst up the ladders she started going on about her art class at school, and then about the GCSE she wants to do in art, and then the college course she wants to do it art ... I just nod politely and told her to go for it as she's clearly good at art. So she started rabbiting on about all these supposedly famous painters knowing full well I've never heard of them and so I changed the subject.

She just gets on my nerves. Everytime she speaks she shows off. She's always trying to make people laugh, always butting into conversations, always needs to be centre of attention.

I was supposed to be going to my sister's today and when I phoned this morning she said "DD is off school but it's still ok for you to come" and so I just said "actually, I'm not feeling too well, I'll leave it".

So she said "is that because DD is off school? has she done something to upset you?" and I know I'm probably been a bit mean but she drives me mad. If I did go today the whole day would be about "her".

OP posts:
Sunflower100 · 07/11/2008 15:45

yabu. She helped you paint your room and was chatting to you about her life. More than many teenagers would do!
And loving the jesus/kurt cobain joke - course she was joking!

Tortington · 07/11/2008 15:52

i really undertstand how kids can get on yor nerves - and farling, if anyone was going to be on your side - it would be me - honestly. but i am struggling to find anything wrong with the neice.

i have a 15 yo dd - she is all about the attention. its kinda what they do.

is it somekind of grown up sibling rivalry that i am failing to understand ( as i am an only child)? is it a kind of competition with your sister?

Tortington · 07/11/2008 15:52

farling = darling

StayFrosty · 07/11/2008 15:55

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ScottishMummy · 07/11/2008 15:55

i prefered farling sounds very Chiswick farling you simply must meet my niece

southeastastra · 07/11/2008 15:57

if she's anything like my neice i can totally empathise with the op

southeastastra · 07/11/2008 15:57

kurt was a prat

Tortington · 07/11/2008 15:58

kurt was a prat.

  • think i will stick with farling!
anniemac · 07/11/2008 16:00

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Ronaldinhio · 07/11/2008 16:01

custardo and sea

farlings, kurt was a god how DARE you both???

QuintessentialShadow · 07/11/2008 16:15

You need to get over yourself.

debzmb62 · 07/11/2008 16:16

op oviously does.nt know many teenagers!!or is jealous ima her neice is 14 ffs

babyonboardarocket · 07/11/2008 16:21

"Kurt Cobain is Jesus to teens of a certain persuasion. "Suffer the little emos to come unto me"."

I am actually weeping on the keyboard with laughter at this.

TheProvincialLady · 07/11/2008 16:23

You really need to take this niece of yours down a peg or two. Who does she think she is, knowing about painters her aunt hasn't heard of and making conversation and about Eastenders? Next she'll be doing A Levels instead of getting a job in Kwiksave and getting herself knocked up at the first opportunity.

14 year olds are self obsessed and adults need to be kind and not jealous and immature.

AbbeyA · 07/11/2008 16:24

YABU- much better than having a teenager who doesn't talk to you!

SalBySea · 07/11/2008 16:30

at 14 she got stuck in and helped with a relatives decorating - what a little angel! If my nieces are half that communicative and helpful when they're 14 I'll consider myself blessed

What the hell is wrong with you? You resent a teenager for being passionate about her favourite subject??? - maybe YOU just need more interests in your life so you too have something interesting to talk about

Littleredshoe · 07/11/2008 16:34

my goodness, she sounds lovely !

honestly what is your problem ?

brimfull · 07/11/2008 16:34

well I think she sounds over bearing and yes,it would get on my tits..but she'll probably outgrow her domineering habits..hopefully

thesockmonsterofdoom · 07/11/2008 16:44

she ounds lovely, you sound horrid.

electra · 07/11/2008 16:56

sorry, complicated but you sound like you have issues that you need to address. This is the sort of crap thing my mother comes out with - and believe me that is not a compliment!

Your niece sounds like a lovely girl. Stay away from her in case you cause her to have issues

2shoes · 07/11/2008 17:00

"Kurt Cobain is Jesus to teens of a certain persuasion. "Suffer the little emos to come unto me"."

ds thought that was brillinat

CousCousTopherson · 07/11/2008 17:02

She sounds lively, bright, interesting, animated and helpful.
I can understand why you are jealous of her.
I assume you aren't much older than she is, and she has taken the attention that you used to get?

PeppermintPatty · 07/11/2008 17:08

Aw your niece sounds lovely. I think teenagers can seem annoying and attention seeking to adults, I know I definitely was when I was one. They usually grow out of it when they are older and a bit more mature.

But at least she's helpful and friendly and bright.

A lot of teenagers I know wouldn't dream of even making conversation with their relatives, let alone helping to paint their house.

VanillaPumpkin · 07/11/2008 17:11

Er yes YABU. But you have been told that. I think she sounds fab and I hope my dd's are like that.
She is 14 ffs, can you not remember what is was like???
Am glad you are not my Auntie.

harpsichordcarrier · 07/11/2008 17:20

pmsl at this thread
"teenager wants attention, is a bit precocious and likes to act like an adult"

hold the fkn front page!
oh that has fair cheered me up
try teaching a classroom full of them. and, btw, your niece sounds a delight.
YABU

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