For my husband to earn £65,000 per annum and we still can't afford to live in this bloody country!!

[winegoddess]

Mortgage has gone up, electric has gone up, 5 mouths to feed, 3 children to clothe etc etc and month after month is a bloody struggle. Am fed up with straping money together when my husband earns a good wage and we should be able to get by! I now need to search for a way of 'me' bringing in some money but with a young baby at home and 2 others at school i am at a loss as to how! Please give me some job ideas or ways to make money!!

'it's not fair.'

how old are you?

it took you this long to figure out the world isn't a fair place?

fuck me! someone that obtuse should never be making that amount of money, that's what's unfair!

Oh yes pramspotter. Well we have a similarish joint income - but that is DH working full time and me working 3 days a week. But out of our joint income (and DH is in 40% bracket and has a negative tax code blah de blah) we have to find several hundred ££ per month childcare which obviously the OP doesn't. And I am managing to work with pre-school and school age children. But I don't go on about how poorly off we are - yes we have to budget but don't most people?

A lot of people's mortgages have gone up. Ours has due to a fixed rate deal expiring and as has been said already, the market is far less competitive.

Milkgoddess, are you boasting?

I highlighted bloody and spelled it wrong

oops thread has moved on miles.

So Mr exec used his brain and climbed higher up the food chain and you lot announce he's not worthy of a holiday, jesus you make me sick, everything that is wrong with this country on one board

So Mr exec used his brain and climbed higher up the food chain and you lot announce he's not worthy of a holiday, jesus you make me sick, everything that is wrong with this country on one board

but he probably does deserve a big salary - doesn't mean that those working equally hard ( or harder) in different professions don't ALSO deseve a big salary

doesnt just have to be 1 or the other

Stillenduring I think it was poseyparker, haven't seen her for ages.

OP - a baptism of fire! Try to ignore some of the harsher comments on here, you'll get used to it.

joyfuleyes - yes you would pay less tax, but would have to pay childcare and two lots of commuting costs etc.

winegoddess you can talk to MNers and be open. I just think you need to be aware of the hugely diverse group of people we are in terms of background, situation and means. Your OP was perfectly valid as I've said, but mentioning more or less any amount as not being enough to live on is bound to elicit this reaction given the very dire straits many people on here are living in, particularly at the moment, and £65,000 seems like an obscene amount of money to many people.

It's a bit frustrating because there was no need to mention the salary, you obviously feel the need in the current climate to tighten your belt and were looking for tips, but because of what you put, that was never going to happen I'm afraid.

Take it as a baptism of fire!

So Mr exec used his brain and climbed higher up the food chain and you lot announce he's not worthy of a holiday,

errmmm no he can't AFFORD a holiday because his missus said that every month is a struggle

so you skip the holiday

and every month is less of a struggle

do you see

I think the cost of living has got up ALOT in the last half of the year. maybe you just need to look at what you are spending what on winegoddess (not wine is it?)

at Katie - no he does not deserve a holiday if his wife is worrying about their family finances.
And why does a holiday need to cost £2,500?

What is wrong with this country is that the gap between rich and poor is ever increasing and taht the rich feel hard done by when they cannot afford to have all the luxuries they feel they deserve.

Until we know this guy is actually deserving of such a salary (lifesaving surgeon perhaps) I reseve the right to be shocked at the inability to live on such a salary!

Pramspotter, you do know there is a difference between earning and just being paid

wot flowerybeanbag said

Katie, I don't doubt he deserves a holiday, what I object to is the assumption of pramspotter that hard work always equals financial reward. I also think that to complain that you can't afford to live in this country yet be able to go on an expensive holiday is somewhat ridiculous.

I think this is probably the 'wrong audience'. For any sort of money whinge you have to ensure before saying anything, that the people you are whining to earn the same or more than you.

Otherwise you look completely insensitive and ridiculous.

Blimey smallwhitecat . Thanks for the concern but I don't foresee any big budgetting problems this winter, unless I lose my job. And between us DH and I earn quite a bit less than the OP.

Life isn't luxurious but it isn't hard by any manner of means.

I feel sorry for OP she probably didn't mean to get everyone's backs up and is now maybe too afraid to return to thread...

And op, as I said, I see your point - it is expensive to live a nice lifestyle, but it may have been a bad idea to mention such a large salary in your thread title. Most of us do not earn anything like that.

But I do agree with filz, everything is bloody expensive now. Think a thread of tips on ways to make money would be a good one.

No sympathy from me...
DH redundant with effect from 12 December and its looking bleak! We don't (didn't) earn half that amount combined.
Its a bit tasteless to talk about things like that ATM for most us on here.