For my husband to earn £65,000 per annum and we still can't afford to live in this bloody country!!

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Mortgage has gone up, electric has gone up, 5 mouths to feed, 3 children to clothe etc etc and month after month is a bloody struggle. Am fed up with straping money together when my husband earns a good wage and we should be able to get by! I now need to search for a way of 'me' bringing in some money but with a young baby at home and 2 others at school i am at a loss as to how! Please give me some job ideas or ways to make money!!

This is pissing me off. Recently a few people on here have lost their jobs, or their dh/p has. And she's whining about not being able to afford things, then goes on to brag about a holiday which costs a fucking fortune to some people. We don't have holidays. We can't afford them. Suggest you may try to do the same if you are in money troubles.

I really am going to leave now ladies. The OP is crashingly tactless (second time I've saidthat today - I must be hormonal ).

Please do not let her upset you all.

if you have money troubles!

This has GOT to be a wind up? Hasn't it?!

i dont know why everyone is up in arms. its all relative. maybe the op has huge debts. is it roughly about £3k a month? we would really struggle on that.

well not really - higher rate tax payers ARE account for a lot of government spending - its not paying dues. Paying 'dues' because they have worked hard and earn more? don't get that, sorry.

After tax a £65k salary is £3693.38 a month.
If the house is large and in an expensive area that could take a large chunk of the wage, we don't know the rest of the outgoings yet, the elder children could be at private school, some of those cost 25k+ a year.

You can't?

Nicky,

It sounds like this man has earned a decent holiday. You don't make that kind of money by only working 37 hours a week in a job that doesn't require anything more than a high school education. I could be wrong but it sounds like he works pretty hard.

Do you have any idea what they are probably paying in taxes? And if they weren't getting killed in taxes they wouldn't need an NHS etc etc. They are getting killed in taxes for the benefit of some of the flamers on this thread.

MP, our mortgage has gone up - mortgages are not as competitive now as they were when we got our fixed rate 2 years ago. No idea if that's the situation the OP is in though.

oops they do account not are account

what a lot of rubbish, pramspotter

My DP earns around that and considering he is not yet divorced and has to pay for everything still he manages to support me as a SAHM, our 2 children and his ex. So he keeps 2 families/households on that.

I don't think it is a wind up. I think the OP is just clueless and is completely lacking in awareness, sensitivity and tact.

Her OP was perfectly valid and could have provided helpful tips for lots of people but because she thoughtlessly and needlessly mentioned her husband's salary there was no chance of that.

Does seem like a little bit of silly boasting combined with a genuine request.

"They are getting killed in taxes for the benefit of some of the flamers on this thread"

WTF?

pramspotter - that't errant nonsense.

His take-home salary is £3,693.38 a month

If you unable to "live on that" in this country then you are very inept with money

I agree with flowerybeanbag. You are unlikely to get much helpful advice bearing in mind what your income is. We have 3 dcs and our income is less than half of yours but we manage because we live with in our means. And with £65,000 you have quite considerable means which, to put it bluntly, you should be able to live within.
I mean it's common sense really you write down what you have to spend each month on essentials (and I think this is where we may differ as to what we think are essentials!) and what is left over can be spent on other things. If there's nowt left then you do without!!!

Pramspotter, my dh works his fucking arse off and we haven't been on a holiday for years. (Oh, and fyi he has a Phd.) So do lots of people on here and in real life you know.
Do they not all 'deserve' a good holiday too? HArd work is not always richly rewarded you know.

Pramspotter it is perfectly possible to earn that much money without working hard. Other than his salary, you don't know anything about his job or how hard he works. And even if he does happen to work hard, that doesn't mean he 'deserves' a holiday in Egypt if they (apparently) can't afford one, as the OP is needing to make more money.

He only pays a lot of tax because he earns a lot. He still goes away with a lot more than someone on a lower salary, as is right and proper.

Oh my god, i by no means meant to upset or antagonise anybody! I am new to mumsnet and after a few posts had actually thought i had found a group of people that i could talk to and be open with. I didn't expect to have my problems attacked and thought i could just speak openly. Deeply sorry if i have offended anyone.

pramspotter what a load of rubbish. He probably sits at a desk in a cushy office with a secretary bringing him coffee.
Whereas teachers, paramedics, policemen work bloddy hard, on their feet all day, dealing with horrid situations (well the last two mainly) and they don't get paid anywhere near mr-probably-an-executive.

Anyone who posts anything with an amount of money in it always comes adrift, no matter how the OP meant it. I seem to recall a poster saying she earned more than £250,000 and putting that in the thread title and oh it was a bloodbath but I can't recall why or who or anything more than that.

I get soooooooooooooooo pissed off when people say "he works hard so he deserves his big salary"

Work hard? Some people do backbreaking jobs that destroy their health and get no more than the minimum wage, it's nothing to do with working hard.

nickytwotimes, I was writing similar, but realised it had a lot of 'angry' words in it!! But I agree.