to think that however mean you are with your own comfort, when you invite guests round you should turn up your heating so that they can remove their outdoor garments with some degree of comfort?

[LittleWhizzingBella]

I bet loads of you are going to tell me there's a credit crunch, times is 'ard etc., but in that case don't invite your friends round to spend the morning freezing their arses off at your place. Turn the bloody heating up, or come round to mine which is what I suggested in the first place, suspecting that I was letting myself in for a morning of freezing discomfort and trying to avoid it by holding the event at mine.

Oh why are the English so bloody inhospitable?

Rant rant rant.

Stands back, waits for excuses condemnation.

Bloody softie!

YANBU Totally agree.

Are you my mother in law?

i agree, earlier this (feb)year went to my cousins for their sons birthday party - it was bloody freezing, i would have been warmer sitting in the car. my poor dd had a fairy party dress on her poor little arms were blue! i kept trying to put my coat on without looking rude.

I do admit that from about Sept onwards I put the heating on especially for visitors. However although I object to the extra cost, it is not a major hardship for us (yet)

Not sure there is an easy answer, other than avoid visiting these friends in the Winter. Are you sure that it was really cold, perhaps you are a bit soft ?

Not everyone feels the cold in the same way. I am always cold at one particular friends house and too hot at my PILs. MIL usually keeps her woolley scarf on in our house in autumn, winter and spring.

I agree with you; dp is a complete spartan but even he will agree to heating in the daytime if we have visitors!

Yes but I dont seem to feel the cold, so I might willingly if I realised etc etc- was wearing a vest yesterday no problem!

I dont think I've dne this to anybody but am worried now LOL

...and, Bella, if we go visiting you hot house flowers, will you please turn the bloody heat DOWN a bit. Jeez, it gets so stuffy in these over-heated homes.

I fart in your general direction.

It is a house here you're expected to take your shoes off too? I always wear 2 pairs of socks when I go to one friends house in winter. But, I don't think she's being mean. There are always loads of cakes etc on offer, she just doesn't seem to get cold

I ran through an entire tank of oil (1200 litres, big house, large rooms, very cold winter) in about six weeks because I had sleepover guests much of the time. (Different sets of guests.) Not sure I'd do that this winter, though.

But for a few hours, yes, I'd turn up the heating and stoke up the fire.

we keep our house at 18 degrees which we find warm but when my dad comes round he keeps his coat on and brings slippers (and he is only 60) and says it's freezing but there is no way i'd turn the heating up for him as it is warm enough. Although some of the threads here say people let their houses drop to 13 and in that case i wouldn't go round with dd as she would be blue.

rofl at nancy, tbh I am not sure it is possible to keep trying to put a coat on without looking rude!

I DO understand that there is a credit crunch BUT don't have guest round if you are not willing to have a warm house for them - that is just rude. I always put the heating on when we have guests although we are trying to keep it off other wise as much as possible!

Until they moved last year, PIL didn't have heating other than the rayburn and wood fires. Which were lit in one room, at about 8pm.

Well, my house is freezing and I can't afford to put the heating on very often, so perhaps I should just stop inviting people round then, hmm?

Well I think I am a bit on the nesh side.

But the meaning of hospitality, is that you will try to make your visitors comfortable. So that means if they're nesh, you try and make them warmer.

My DD (6) was shivering and complaining about the cold. She actually put her coat on. I wasn't going to tell her take it off, becuase I wanted to do the same thing myself, only the fact that I'm an adult stopped me!

But then afterwards I thought, why is it bad-mannered of me to try and keep myself comfortable, but it's not bad mannered of her to see quite clearly how uncomfortable I am and not do anything about it?

I don't expect to go to friend's houses and have to dress in thermals,and 7 layers!

Tbh, if a kid was shivering andf putting on a coat, even I the Great Skinflint would stick the fire on.

One bad mind.

one baRRRR

Very nice to see the word "nesh" - I hardly ever use it now, as nobody in Birmingham understands it!

need, I keep spare thermals for guests.

ilovetochat, if your Dad has to have his coat on in your house, then it is not warm enough for him.

18 degrees is very cold if you are not actually exercising.

18 degrees is NOT COLD.

Come on!