to think that however mean you are with your own comfort, when you invite guests round you should turn up your heating so that they can remove their outdoor garments with some degree of comfort?

[LittleWhizzingBella]

I bet loads of you are going to tell me there's a credit crunch, times is 'ard etc., but in that case don't invite your friends round to spend the morning freezing their arses off at your place. Turn the bloody heating up, or come round to mine which is what I suggested in the first place, suspecting that I was letting myself in for a morning of freezing discomfort and trying to avoid it by holding the event at mine.

Oh why are the English so bloody inhospitable?

Rant rant rant.

Stands back, waits for excuses condemnation.

My thermostat is set to 17-18 degrees and I find that ok. The heating only comes on in the morning and evening for a few hours,tho I've put the heating on today. My next-door neighbour had her thermostat at 25 degrees, so that she and her family (her, her mum, 4 kids) could walk about in t-shirts and no socks in winter. I'd turn up for coffee in my vest/t-shirt/jumper winter layers and be stifling.

I have my thermo at about that (perhaps a bit lower, 23-24), but I'm still wearing a wool dress, 70 denier tights, slippers and my coat cardie. I don't expect to be able to wander about half nekkid, I just want to be comfortable.

I expect I am a wuss, aren't I?

I also have a duvet doubling up as a throw on my sofa, which I curl up in when watching TV. Would feel too cold without it.

I thought you might have been my brother then! He arrived for the weekend last night - asked me to put the heating on this morning and I said no, we've not had it on during the day at all, only a couple of times in the evening, we're skint and wear scarves and jumpers. So, he called my mother and told her to come and collect him! buggered off to her nice warm house I've got tonsillitis and the 3 and 6 year old aren't complaining. I shouted 'WUSS'at him as he left.

The words may have frozen in my throat however.

Yes, you are a wuss, Bella.

My sister in law does this, her house is always freezing and if you say your cold then she will get a jumper for you.

Mind you I am sitting here with 2 pairs socks and slippers on, and a scarf over my long jumper.

I need to get up and move about a bit. And a cuppa tea.

23-24 You must be roasting !

If we have people over then I make sure the house is about 20 degrees [ie comfortable]

Thermostat is at 19 and the heating kicks in if it goes below that.

Mind you I am sitting in the kitchen in a cardi thinking crikey its a bit parky

Blimey, 18° is the best it gets in our house and is fine from my pov. 16 is more the average.

OP YANBU exactly, but maybe your friend feels the cold differently.

I'm a wuss as well bella, I always freeze when we visit my PIL. You'd be safe visiting me!

LWB you are a wuss

Bella you are officially a wuss. This is England, not Egypt, show some backbone! I was all supportive until I read the bit where you say you must have your thermostat at 23 degrees! Your friend probably feels like a poached egg after being at your house, that's horribly warm, so I don't blame her for wanting to be at home!It's 16C in here, and we are cold. Heating is broken so tough banana!

23-24 My grandad never put the heating that high even in his 90s. It must be stifling. 18 max for us, 20 if nesh people are coming to visit!

But if she's too hot in my home, she can remove layers of clothing until she's comfortable. In extremis, she can go outside for 30 seconds and cool down. If I'm too cold in her's, there's nothing I can do. (I have to say she has never stripped down to her T shirt when round at mine!)

T-shirt? I'd be in my bra and pants with your freezer door open!

It's not stifling. I have wool dress and long cardigan on. And 70 denier tights and slippers.

Is there some way you can raise your ambient body temperature?

LOL

Will invite friends to a bra and pants party.

I will still be in my wool dress and thermals

Star jumps on the spot, blowing on hands and hand rubbing.

It's what we used to do when got really cold climbing up mountains via the brooks!

You probably find her house freezing because you keep your house very warm. It's like getting out from under the duvet in the morning- it always feels cold even if the heating is on. You probably wouldn't register it so much if you kept yours at 20.

My house is toasty warm most of the time. Thermostat is never on more than 17-18 degrees, but it is on ground floor so it kicks in all the time - heat rises so 1st and 2nd floors generally warm, even without the heating on. We are quite well known for having a warm house - peole know not to bring jumpers.

I feel the cold quicker than most I think, but I hate wearing loads of bulky clothes. Fortunately it isn't an issue.

We dont have a thermostat so the heatings either on or off. It doesnt feel to get above 18 at this time of year even when its on though. We dont have visitors for this reason but if some turned up we would make sure the fire was well stoked up.

I used to have the heating on at night, but low.

I can't decide whether that's cheaper than having the boiler have to chunter up every morning.

If my house is sweltering, you can open your window.

The thing is, being too hot is easily and quickly cured. Being too cold isn't. Even if you run on the spot for a while, it takes about 15 minutes to heat up and you can't keep running on the spot in someone's house, it's just not conventional behaviour. But you can cool down extremely quickly while staying within the bounds of normal behaviour.

YANBU. Even my dh (the self-titled financial controller in the slackrunner household) will have the heating on during the day when we have visitors tomorrow.

You could try lowering the temperature on your thermostat by one degree a week, so that your body gradually adjusts to the change.