To refuse to leave my child unattended in a car?

[Gangle]

I was recently heavily criticised on a thread for saying that I would not leave DS, now 7 months, unattended in a car, e.g. in a petrol station or car park. Genuinely perplexed that people seem to think it's ok to leave kids alone - noone I know would do it and I don't think any of us are neurotic or precious about our babies.

YANBU to not want to leave your PFB in the car unattended, but YABU to start another thread about it.

I would never have left my PFB in the car at that age (if we'd even had a car then...) but life is pretty easy when you just have one 7 month old.... life does get a bit more complicated, just you wait!

FWIW, I personally think it's much more dangerous to leave kiddies in water unattended.

OFGS Gangle I'm not going to trawl through the AIBU threads to find our original scrap to find evidence of you being critical.

Just to clarify - you don't let go of your ds while he's in the bath? So you're holding on to him the whole time?

Obviously you have to parent how you see fit - but it's fine to let your ds sit in a bath support (i'm thinking something like this and it's good for his confidence when you take him swimming!

And hey, just because I'm bored:

"I don't intend to use mumsnet again - a little too fascist for me and intolerant of those with other views."

"JimJam and Expat, love the way you get so het about about someone parking in a P&C space - does it really upset you that much if someone's life is made a little bit easier? As someone commented above, there are usually a number of disabled spaces which are empty."

"I really don't know expat but you are obviously a far far superior human being and mother to me to manage all that."

There's other stuff but I can't be arsed.

I really think you need to chill a bit. You mentioned on the other thread that you were feeling pretty down - I hope you're feeling more positive now.

Your child - your choice. I have 2 children and honestly think it is safer to leave them in a locked can than to drag them across the forecourt. If I have to nip home and grab something and go straight back out - there is no way i would drag them both out!

yes Suburban, that was after I'd received a mauling and in response to similarly harsh posts, but in none of them am I ridiculing another poster for leaving DC in the car.

Meh. Whatever.

I actually feel quite for OP because she seems to think that having 1 7 month old makes her mother supremo - she who know it all. if Op is thinking about having more she may find that her attuidue changes. I know its hard with PFB but lady, you will have to relax - wine is helpful.

No!?? If I did his head would go under. Feel free to explain a way around.

(We were passing by Reading yesterday actually, i was going to text you and see if you were up for an impromptu visit but it was half 6 and i thought you might be in the middle of tea/bath time!)

Gangle - further down I posted a link to some bath supports, but none of them were the sort we had. We had one which looked like a potty, but had a solid bottom to it and stuck to the bath, will try to find a link.

Here you go (but ours was blue!)

the previous thread was six of one, and half a dozen of the other, as is this thread. No-one is being victimised.

thanks, will take a look. He is sitting up but quite wobbly. I suspected there had to be an easier way to bathe them.

thanks, will take a look. He is sitting up but quite wobbly. I suspected there had to be an easier way to bathe them.

I think we got ours from Tesco!

I loved my bath support thing - saved my back with ds's.

and they love the freedom.

I was a bit like you gangle with DS1 when he was a baby about the petrol station, partly as a 10 year old had a gun held at his head whilst his mum was paying at a petrol station near us just as DS1 was born.

But now with 2 of them, I just park dead close to garage and lock doors then look out window. I also run into corner shop sometimes with them outside in car. I'm ill with ME and find getting them out and in the car soul destroying!

If you have anymore you will look back at this thread and think ... ah now I see

Surely it's just as hysterical to be so frightened of what goes on on the petrol station forecourt that you'd leave your kids in the car.

we use one of these in the bath

baby is now 4mths old, has been laying in it since she was a few days - she loves her bath

"Surely it's just as hysterical to be so frightened of what goes on on the petrol station forecourt that you'd leave your kids in the car."

Er no it's just easier. I'm not frightened of petrol station forecourts I just can't physically control an active 9 year old with the mental age of an 18 month old, a 6 year old and a 3 year old.

I leave my DD strapped into her car seat whilst I get fuel.

And I leave the dog in the car.

And I sometimes stop to buy sweets.

Ha.