To want PILs/Parents to visit hospital after baby is born and in visiting hours?

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DH thinks that we should ring round all the family the minute I go into labour, and have them all waiting in the waiting room for the baby to be born, whereupon they will be ushered in to view new DGC asap after the birth. Ideally he would see no reason why our sisters, brothers and grandparents etc should also not be there in the waiting room (like the movies )

I, on the other hand, would rather they were told I have gone into labour only after I have progressed to hospital, and then just our parents invited to see the baby at visiting time the first day, (or at least when I and the baby have had chance to recover a little), and everyone else the day after/wait til we get home from hospital and come the day after that.

AIBU or AIB a total killjoy?

Thanks again for all the support!

DustyTv - I actually think that out of all the family and friends apart from DH of course, the next person who would be strangely great to have there is my dad!! He's a calm, easy-going, pleasant type who never panics and smooths tense situations (there have been lots over the years in my family!) over with a with a funny comment or two.

feelingbitbetter - I really like your tactful phrase for the PILs & parents - that is nicely put and reminds them that there are checks and maybe repairs to be performed as a priority before visitors.

jujumaman - oh yes MIL found giving birth less trouble than doing a crossword and was baking her own cakes within days....

MadamDeathstare - ! can't believe you had to put up with that. at "5.6 billionth"!!!

Rubysmom08 how awful!
jun and pollyblue - thanks for your suggestions!

potoftea - also a great suggestion about attending to baby upstairs. It's tough if the baby and I are away from the room for a while - most of the family live within reasonable distance so it's not as if they will get few opportunities to spend time with the baby.

jammi - you hit the nail on the head when you say its for me to decide.