to think that considering sil is a sahm, she could at least make my brother a meal when he gets in from being at work allday

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

and no she is not ill or anything.
db works allday then comes home and makes the tea.

perhaps he cooks to control portion size

Sorry for bringing up the rocking horse, I just thought it might be relevant if it were the same SIL as you don't seem to like her very much and I thought that could be clouding things.

and if he is the one who does the cooking then I think you can squarely be blaming him for your sisters weight problems. I think you should be having a serious discussion with him about low fat cooking.

I can also highly recommend Nigel Slaters real fast food - very low stress.

Me and DH both have hard days, him at work, me at home with DS! Who cooks in the evening depends on who is tiredest, what DS needs, how much he is kicking off etc.

I don't see how it can automatically be assumed that the woman cooks because she has been at home all day.

Oh and the "my mum agrees too" OH well, then, that settles it!

I'll happily cook dinner, every day. Sometimes DP comes in from work and says 'Shall I do dinner?' I'm not going to say No and be a martyr.

why bother cooking tea when there are so many takeaways about?

perhaps he is one of those 'feeders', you know, the men who like really fat birds and keep feeding them junk food to make sure they stay fat

"kewcumber, sometimes you can be married and effectively single for months at a time!" well I suppose I could have been, but I think I might have remembered the marriage bit...

"and for the record i do not dislike her"

Liar, liar, pants on fire.

anyway, perhaps the 'strain is visable on his face' cos the poor buggers just come in from work to find his bloody sister there AGAIN

Perhaps your mum could cook his tea for him?

Maggottinfestedbodybag - this is what happens when you post such a question in AIBU!

it's only reasonable that you, the sensible one in the family, should cook their tea.

make something healthy for her so she won't break any more of your rocking horses.

or better yet, sign her up for jamie oliver's next ministry of food so her slovenly, fat laziness can be fully exposed to the nation.

"For all you know she's exchanging dinner making for jaw-crampingly long blow jobs. YOu don't know. "

SmugColditz

the girl has a brother - are we not allowed to have opinions on our own siblings?

she sees her brother worn, she has a pretty good idea of what her sil does all day - i'll bet - i know what mine does most of the time ( naff all)

your all fucking mad.

if the sil is a lazy cunt she can make tea.

but why go on here inviting us all to judge her on this one flimsy piece of info?

has brother complained about making dinner?

my dp cooks almost every day despite also working. he's better at it, he enjoys it, and I do all the laundry, tidying, dishwasher etc and DS' tea.

It doesn't matter who does what as long as everyone's happy.

I am a sahm, who still manages to cook, but my house looks a tip and I dread to think what my sil thinks. I also make my dh to look after the kids when we go to my pil to avoid comments about the way I care for them

oh please people jusge you on less

custy, this SIL is so fat she breaks rocking horses.

truly shocking behaviour.

i never did the rocking horse thread.

i sesne torches and it annoys me

I have a brother.

I have would have an opinion if I thought his wife were making him terribly unhappy.

I would not assume making his own tea (or even your childrens tea) to be any huge source of stress of unhappiness. In fact am not even aware of who makes my brothers tea (and I am very close to him).

Perhaps I'm not used to grown men being incapable of saying to their partners - "I'm not going to make tea when I get home becasue its too late and I am too tired. If you are too tired too, lets have a sandwich".

OP "db works allday then comes home and makes the tea."

Really doesn't sound too bad to me on the surface. If there is more to it fair enough. But I just question how very stressful boiling some pasta can possibly be.

i have 2 brothers - i also have no idea if they cook the tea everynight, none of my business - unless they ask for a recipe or summat

My DH cooks 99% of the time and I am a SAHM. In our case it is because I can burn water

Though I do try and I am (very slowly) getting better at cooking, most of the time DH would prefer properly cooked food which he made, than to eat my lame offerings

We also subscribe to the 'if everyone is too tired, make a sandwich, bowl of soup' attitude. I don't think we need a proper big meal every night.

Maybe your SIL can't cook !?!