to think that considering sil is a sahm, she could at least make my brother a meal when he gets in from being at work allday

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

and no she is not ill or anything.
db works allday then comes home and makes the tea.

Is he a grown man?

None of your business.

It must be really nice for her to have her SIL and MIL talking about her being lazy or not doing enough. If you think he looks tired why don't you pop round with a casserole.

with the right posts, it's got all the makings of an MN classic

she is at home with one.

I can see where you are coming from, my brother does 12 hour shifts - 7am-7pm and he comes home and does the cooking too. SIL has done the kids food earlier - generally nuggets and stuff and then he comes in and cooks them a nice meal. It may be none of your business but that still doesnt stop it being annoying. she has been a SAHM for 12 years and Ive often wondered why she doesnt at least sometimes cook for everyone, but its their choice. I suspect theres other stuff that annoys you about her too - trust me Ive been there - but I have to let it go because otherwise there would be a big family fall out and its not worth it at the end of the day. xxx.

Are you my sil? If so Yes YABU. I do cook dinner most of the time. So shoot me if its on the table for him walking through the door or of I stay at my mums once a week for dinner. i mean he is 32 years old ffs. He is more than capable of heating up some spagehtti hoops and taosting some bread.

Oh and another thing I have the house and both kids to look after with little to no help from him because he is a twunt. a lazy twunt. And I get very little financial support off him either. I pay for most things myself. So forgive me if cooking for said twunt is not high on my list of priorties.

See? you have no idea what goes on in their house.

If its not on the table for him coming home.

Are you a sahm maaggots?

Is this the same SIL who broke your rocking horse? Are you still pissed off about it?

I posted a very witty response to this thread, sadly Mumsnet Broke, and the response is gone.

LOL I let my DP deal with the children at the inlaws house, saves me dealing with the you're too soft or your too harsh comments.

Are you my SIL?

Unless you know everything about them you really shouldn't comment.

Is that the sum total of his domestic involvement, just out of interest?

another reason i'm grateful we live nowhere near the ILs.

why is it OK for you to cook yourself dinner if you're single but too stressful if you're married?

Who would be cooking his dinner if he weren't married?

oh i thought i was banned for saying this then!

I'm often at home all day looking after one child and cooking tea is a nightmare task which I tend to dread all day as he is a demanding two year old. Plus, when dh comes home from a day at work it's hard to say who is more tired, me or him. (Although when he gets in I'd rather cook tea and let him spend time with ds as it's much easier!!)

So, depending on the age of the child you are definitely BU.

But then I guess you don't like your SIL? FWIW I don't like mine either but I do accept that it makes me see everything she does in a negative way and so my judgement on her can't be trusted!!

I'm a SAHM although I do run my own business (v.small, part-time) from home and DH almost always cooks. He prefers to as he honestly beleives my day is tougher than his. Does sil have pre-school children?

YABU - how do you see 'the strain' on his face when he gets in?

Think you are spending too much time there and need to back off.

why are peple still going on about tthe rocking horse thing, it was ages ago.

i wohm

Both me and my dh works full time. However cooking is my things, and it helps me relax a bit when I get in. He then helps our daughter with her homework whilst I cook.

What is your own situation since you feel so qualified to judge her in this way?

although i see what your trying to say kew, what if he was single? well he wouldn't have a child too look after in the evening then too.