to think that considering sil is a sahm, she could at least make my brother a meal when he gets in from being at work allday

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

and no she is not ill or anything.
db works allday then comes home and makes the tea.

You seem to have a very interesting life.

Well, if I was single and childless I wouldn't have a child to look after in the evening either. However, I still managed to cook. Anyway, trolly McTroll, you still haven't told us where your husband can use the cooker yet.

yabu - she has been working all day too. Just not in a paid job.

we share the cooking
often dh would rather come home and cook than put the kids to bed
whoever isn't cooking is putting the kids to bed
no one has an easy ride
maybe she always does the washing up, tidying up etc etc

So she is a fat sahm who doesn't cook tea?
Poor bloke - he's obviously too good for her.

I think you might be by SIL

i think its perfectly reasonable if your at home all day with the kids

yes even three of them [shocker] to cook the meals at least some of the time.

ok enough about the rocking horse now please.
lets forget about that.

well maybe she does do the washing up.

I can never understand how people have got enough time and energy to even give a shit about how their extended family's domestic arrangements.

I have no idea whether my dsis or BIL cooks their evening meal and even if I did, I doubt I could even be arsed to talk to my mum about it, much less to type a post on here about it.

YABU TGAH

She is a stay at home MUM, not a stay at home general skivvy.....

aaaah, the delightful bodybag, with yet another really insightful thread..

what is tgah?

I am at home all day (I do work from home) but dh,who works all day always makes the tea - it's the way we do stuff and everyone is happy, so not really your concern,surely ?

what! what have i done !
i can ask what i like, esp in aibu surely?

i agree with you - she should cook

perhaps she has other talents which your db is less keen to discuss.

My dh does 12hr shifts and then makes dinner for us both-his choice as he doesnt want to do the bath/bed routine.It suits us all. Maybe they have similar arrangement.

"what if he was single? well he wouldn't have a child too look after in the evening then too."

Ummm... single people have children too . Hard to beleive I know.

Single means not married not childless.

Try getting a hobby

When my DH gets home he mostly prefers to cook diner. He grabs a glass of wine and cooks because he enjoys it. I on the other hand do the bath and bedtime routine . We do what we prefer.

unless you know all the details oftheir home life it really is just all about you making assumptions.
And if you actually do know all the details of their life then you should try and get one of your own instead.

TBH I just think you don't like her and keep looking for reasons to bitch about her.
If it helps I expect she dislikes you too.

Of course it's reasonable Custardo.

I don't as DP likes to cook, although SIL would say she can see the strain in his face. If i thought for one minute he'd like me too cook i would, but i know he prefers to do it. Maybe it's the same for Ops brother.

ooh blimey - just realised that you're rocking horse woman

OOh can we redo this thread - it could have been soooo much funnier.

Perhaps he's looking stressed becasue he worried about what she's going to break next?

If he is too mousey to ask his wife to cook 50% of the time then he deserves whatever he gets.

well it would be better to get the tea already then when db gets home eat together.

anyway i'm going to look at something else now.

and for the record i do not dislike her.

thankyou.