to find a man who coudlnt drive UTTERLy unattractive

[NotCod]

and rather pathetic

yadaydayd meddical expcetiosn etc

I don't drive, had lessons for over 2 years and just never got to grips with it. I panic too much and lack confidence.

Dh passed when he was 17.

I did the school run by car yesterday with dh and it was horrible. Loads and loads of cars everywhere, people just pulling in anywhere they liked and letting children out. It was grim.

I am grateful actually I don't drive as I walk or bike everyday in all weathers as do the dc, whereas I would probably go by car especially when its pouring rain.

My DH doesn't drive but he is very independant at getting himself places - never expects me to drive him anywhere. Would actually hate it if he drove cos that would mean I'd have to share my car with him (couldn't afford 2 cars). It's also very useful in an arguement about chores etc, I can always come back with 'well I do all the driving'!!

really? you dont fly anywhere because its bad?

Don't care. I don't judge a man by his car. (or his house, or his bank balance... )

It's the person that matters, not whether he ever learned (wanted to, needed to, could afford to, whatever) to drive.

I was actually thinking about this as I was stuck on a busy roundabout and a chap was trying to catch my eye from the bus in the next lane.

But also, my DH is not very good at reversing down our drive in his super sexy sports car and I find that equally unattractive - I like my men capable

Lots of people are willfully not understanding the difference between being able to drive but chosing not to for environmental or personal reasons, and choosing not to learn to drive when there is no medical/financial/social reason not to.

Why are so many people getting worked up that Cod doesn't find them attractive anyway? I don't care whether she find me attractive or not.

For what it's worth, I feel cheated that DH doesn't drive. He has effectively lied to me for our entire relationship as he has always promised to start lessons next year/between contracts/before we had kids/if I got pregnant/when he's next based in the UK and he never has. I feel certain that he has never intended to either. Even this weekend he told me to buy him driving lessons for Christmas, but he's said that before and asked me to 'postpone' the purchase. I'm annoyed that we have had to organise our whole lives around his lack of driving ability. DH refuses to acknowledge that he is in the wrong, and gets very defensive if I bring it up, a la UQD.

Bran, he may be scared to learn and doesn't want to admit it (cos it's not very manly!)

I can't drive and at 45 would find it very anxiety-inducing to learn now I feel (even though I think I would like to). I find it very hard to tell left from right, judge distances, speed, can't follow directions blah blah blah so I'm a no hoper imo.

Cod - definitely not a "learner driver" any more than I am a "learner astronuat".

I did misinterpret your medical exception yaddayadda. I thought that was lumping them in.

rofl @ 'like finding out judge john deed was vegetarian' lolol.

Hmm. I don't think I have an opinion. On the whole people who can do things are possibly more attractive than ones who can't? I don't find a man who choses not to drive unattractive but I would need to be convinced by one who went pale and got nervous because he always panicked about which pedal to use.

I might do.

Don't know. I took my driving test seven times. I don't think that wildly attractive.

My ex couldn't drive but that in itself didn't bother me. It was the fact that he EXPECTED me to drive him everywhere!! Work at five in the morning (which meant putting waking kids up and putting them in car), picking up for work etc, etc.

This was in between having to get the children ready for school and then going to work myself. Funnily enough, the straw that broke the camels back was when he asked me to drop him off at the pub (which I was a bit peeved at) and then had the audacity to ring up pissed asking for a lift home!!

OP has got a point but for me it was the reliance and feeling like a fecking taxi service that pissed me off!!

I'm going to start a thread about women sewing. And knitting. "I find women who can't sew and knit really unfeminine" and "ooh, look, they're getting all defensive"

I won't be flying in a plane
well not intill dd can go on one and stay in her wheelchair.

UnquietDad what about woman who drive, but can't put their own petrol in??
I had a freind like that her dp always filled her car up for her........that is ODD

My dp doesn't drive, neither do I. We are the most unattractive couple going!

Personally I think men who don't drive and women who knit belong together!@UQD

Yes, that is quite odd. Surely one learns to do both?

DW has a friend who has a colleague who won't turn right into traffic. Her travel expense claims are always huge because she is driving to roundabouts to go round and come back to turn left.

both petrol and car I mean

ooh parp

Absolutely.

My DP is an absolutely amazing driver - he doesn't have to concentrate at all and never has accidents. He's also got a pilot's licence and a speed boat licence and is brilliant at those, too. Very virile .