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to find a man who coudlnt drive UTTERLy unattractive

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NotCod · 30/09/2008 14:52

and rather pathetic

yadaydayd meddical expcetiosn etc

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onebatmother · 02/10/2008 11:36

gosh my sump-sucking just sent whole of MN site into tailspin. Offline for maintenance for a minute ther.e

Threadworrm · 02/10/2008 11:38

TECH's big end must have gone.

NotCod · 02/10/2008 11:38

i wonder if men who cant dirve its because they cant see over the sterring hweel

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Cappuccino · 02/10/2008 11:40

oh cod off with you and your 1950s sensibility

go dust your cornices and pretty yourself up for when your husband comes home

NotCod · 02/10/2008 11:42

oi
msn

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onebatmother · 02/10/2008 11:42

snrk Threadie
No it was his pistons.

Lazycow · 02/10/2008 11:46

Well dh can't drive (well he can sort of - I'll explain later) and is a vegetarian. He has quite small feet too. None of this affected how attractive I found hin when I first met him. I am also perfectly happy in the bed department, dh has no inadquacies there whatsoever!.

HOWEVER I do find it very frustrating that he doesn't drive. The reason he never learned was that in his 20's his priority was getting a phd and he was incredibly poor so couldn't afford it. He did ride a scooter around but wasn't too fond of it. All very understandable. By the time he could afford lessons he was nearly 30. Academics don't get paid much at all.

I asked him to learn to drive when we decided to have a baby and was worried about getting to the hospital etc. As it happens I ended up having to manoeuvre the car out of it's parking space while my waters were breaking as dh managed to dent the car twice in his effort ot get it out (he had only passed a couple of weeks before). He did drive me to the hospital but I seriously considered driving myself as I knew it would be safer and quicker as I was having no pains - just my waters breaking.

He has ended up driving an automatic as he was so bad at the lessons he felt this would increase his chance of passing. It did but the fact that he now only has a licence for an automatic is quite frankly annoying as hell as it means I have to drive one if we are to share a car and they are more expensive.

His driving is so bad I do prefer to drive myself and he doesn't enjoy it so tends to avoid it. I do think that learning as an older adult is much more difficult than if you do it younger. Dh does ride a bike and uses public transport and takes ds everywhere on either of those. He does not rely on me driving him anywhere.

As a man he is driven, singleminded, assertive, focussed, organised and capable. He is fearsonly intelligent and yet also kind, tolerant, loving, funny and often confounds any sterotypical expectations of what it is to be male, something I frankly find fantastic. He inability to drive does not affect how attractive I find him it but it does annoy me and I do find myself resenting it some of the time.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 11:49

Yes, that's probably close to the truth of it lazycow. Doesn't actually impact loverman capacity but is irritating at times.

DP only drives an automatic too. But did pass manual test.

I looove changing gear.

NotCod · 02/10/2008 11:52

super psot lazy

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Threadworrm · 02/10/2008 11:53

Oh lazycow DH is an academic too, and a non-driver. Ivory towers and all that. And I do confess that if he were to learn to drive I suspect he would be bad at it, and I would be even worse as a passenger.

Course it's not unsexy being a non-driver. But resentment (mine) is a very unsexy state of mind.

IorekByrnison · 02/10/2008 11:57

You are all very funny.

I'm enjoying the image of Swedes in a tiara on the top deck of the 159 to Tring, wistfully longing for the hairy brute who speeds past in his Ford Mondeo.

Threadworrm, your nana had a good system. My life is like an endless series of doomed reverse parking attempts.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 11:58

YOU TOLD ME HE HAD AN HGV LICENCE!! And I believed yuo..

Swedes · 02/10/2008 11:59

Onebat - Oooh pleased to hear sump not a problem. Do you think the term old banger is pejorative?

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:01

Yes, Iorek, that is true of me too. When I was learning to drive I thought 'christ. when in real life am i actually going to be reversing round a corner?' But in fact I feel as though that is my default direction in life .

Lazycow · 02/10/2008 12:01

Threadworm

Yes that is the danger with resentment. It does simmer a bit though, try as I might to 'be reasonable' about it.

Swedes · 02/10/2008 12:02

I've never rear ended anyone, have any of you?

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:02

most definitely Swedes. These days we say vintage vehicle.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:03

No, Swedes but I've had a shunt or two.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:05

And a few prangs.

I can drive on both sides of the road, you see.

God if you see me hear in the next 3 hours tell me to fuck off please.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:06

here

Swedes · 02/10/2008 12:06
Swedes · 02/10/2008 12:08

Disclaimer from the 159 Bus (Tring-bound): I'd like to point out that I would instantly have to divorce any man that called me Princess.

Threadworrm · 02/10/2008 12:10

The HGV license was a euphemism!!!

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:10

okay babes.

onebatmother · 02/10/2008 12:11

He has an ARTICULATED lorry??!!!

Christ Threadie, how do you cope?