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fuming mad at school photos

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 21:54

i go to a follow school which means there is an infant/nursery school, junior school and secondary school that are all next door to each other and have the same name e.t.c and every year when the school photos take place and the siblings from any of the 3 schools can have pics taken together e.t.c.

but me and my little sister (im secondary shes infant) can have our photo taken but not with ds (whos in nursery) and yet my friend can have her picture taken with her little brother who is in nursery

reason being that my ds is not my brother

AIBU or are they just sticking REALLY CLOSELY to the title "sibling photos"

i probably am being unreasonable reading that back...

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FabioVicePeeperPlopper · 23/09/2008 11:54

Your school is ashamed of you ethanchristopher.
It doesn't want photographic evidence of you all in uniforms etc in case you send it to the Daily Mail.

AussieLou · 23/09/2008 11:59

Hi EthanChristopher
I can't offer much advice in regards to the photos but possibly put a spin on it and say to the school how progressive they are letting you and DS stay at school and how they are supporting you etc.. schools always like to make themselves look better. Also tell them that this is a special situation and that you would like a memory of school. The school that supported you through your education given the circumstances.
Also, off track a bit. I havent been on MN long and don't know a lot of the background etc and just wanted to give my support and congratulations that you are at school with a child. I am in no means being patronising but you are doing a fabulous thing. I could not have done it at 14. I wish you all the best with school and the dreaded photos.

ChasingSquirrels · 23/09/2008 18:00

so what happened?

silvercrown · 23/09/2008 18:09

It's a personal photograph for you to purchase for yourself and family and is taken by an outside organisation - it is not representing the school at all so I don't see how they can object. Contact your local newspaper and kick up a fuss. I assume that everyone at the school knows your situation and their families and whether people approve or not if they heard what the school were saying I am sure they would be 100% behind you. It's not fair to discriminate against you and that's exactly what it is - discrimination. Well done for sticking with school after having a baby as well.

BabieWabbit · 23/09/2008 18:19

EthanChristopher I'm sorry your school is being so petty i would definatley kik up a fuss about this because it is totally unaceptable (sp?)
Good luck x

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ethanchristopher · 23/09/2008 19:40

well i went down to collect sister and ds with mum in tow and after she had her say they let us have photos but we had to come back after everyone had finished.

at least i got my photo though

and it looked very nice (digital proof given straight away)

thanks guys for the advice

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Saturn74 · 23/09/2008 19:41

glad you got your group shot.

psychomum5 · 23/09/2008 19:51

hey, fantastic.

Whoopee · 23/09/2008 21:50

Yay!! I was thinking about you today and hoping it would all turn out okay. I'm so glad!

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ethanchristopher · 23/09/2008 22:07

thanks lol

and when we went back after it was all finished (mum had gone) to go and get the photos my form tutor came with me and looked after ds a bit while i sorted sis out (by lunchtime she was covered in her breaktime banana with her hair coming out and generally looking a complete mess)

so although the school frown upon my young mothering skills - at least my form tutor doesnt

that made me feel good

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ghosty · 23/09/2008 22:47

Ah that is good news ethanchristopher

StormInanEcup · 24/09/2008 11:28

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Dropdeadfred · 24/09/2008 11:36

hmmmmm...i feel sceptical about this thread...unsure why

Mum2OliverJames · 24/09/2008 11:49

DDF you shouldnt say that unless you have a good reason.
Poor EC has had enough sh*t from some nasty Poster yesterday

Please dont start again

Dropdeadfred · 24/09/2008 11:52

sorry, I am unaware of any previous hassle the OP has got or why....there's just something about the post that seems a little unreal

apologies if I am wrong, doesn't really bother me either way - I don't feel that I am reading the posts of a 15 yr old though...

Mum2OliverJames · 24/09/2008 11:57

I think she does but then i am quite a young mum myself, just things she has said in other threads that reminded me of things i had to do at school that i had otherwise forgotten.

Poor EC had someone start up a thread being nasty last night, thankfully it has been deleted now though.

I quite often get told i sound older than i am when speaking to someone not face to face, nothing i can do about it though.

And remember being a mum at 15 she has had to grow up quickly, not like other 15 yr olds who have nothing to worry about except hair, makeup and gcse's

TwoIfBySea · 24/09/2008 12:15

I just noticed this thread today and am glad it all got sorted out for you EC. It would seem a little strange as I know at my dts school you can have family photos with cousins etc. so it would seem that the school has to be a tad more flexible.

As for your age, my friend's son was born when we were 15 and (just to make me feel extra old!) he is now at uni and she has been a qualified nurse for years, so never mind this young mum thing. It is what you make it. Good luck to you, you sound mature enough to do your best.

silvercrown · 24/09/2008 16:13

Glad it all got sorted out in the end. Having a professional photo taken separately is a nice idea but they can be very expensive so good job you had the school photo done. Last year I had one taken with my DD3 and the photographer was fine about ti - school never said a word although I did ask at the last minute and the hall was virtually empty at that point. I'm 35 so couldn't really pass myself off as an older sister!!

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ethanchristopher · 24/09/2008 19:12

offs

must i climb into mumsnet and give you (ddf) a big wave.

why do people not think im real?????? its bad enuff that ive got nobody my age that has a kid to talk to but when i come on here to chat and hav a laff with people who no what its like to deal with the early morning and pooey nappies e.t.c they dont even believe im real!!!

urgh

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ethanchristopher · 24/09/2008 19:31

ddf i've looked at your pics and am now even more pissed with you

cause your kids are gorgeous and look the spit of you!!!

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ethanchristopher · 24/09/2008 21:18

yeah but it just pisses me off a bit. if i was 35 nobody would be calling me a troll

paranoia sets in again...

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psychomum5 · 24/09/2008 21:30

think of it as a 'right of passage' on MN ethan...............you need at least one accusation of 'troll' on your path to becoming an MNer

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ethanchristopher · 24/09/2008 21:32

oh charming!! i hope you told her that anyone who has to do everything that you have to do with a newborn deserves a medal letalone a baby!

i guess so... they'll get bored anyway

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