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fuming mad at school photos

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 21:54

i go to a follow school which means there is an infant/nursery school, junior school and secondary school that are all next door to each other and have the same name e.t.c and every year when the school photos take place and the siblings from any of the 3 schools can have pics taken together e.t.c.

but me and my little sister (im secondary shes infant) can have our photo taken but not with ds (whos in nursery) and yet my friend can have her picture taken with her little brother who is in nursery

reason being that my ds is not my brother

AIBU or are they just sticking REALLY CLOSELY to the title "sibling photos"

i probably am being unreasonable reading that back...

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StewieGriffinsMom · 22/09/2008 22:46

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:46

ho hum

i think what i shall do is go in tomorrow morning with mother in tow

then by 11:00 (photographs) i will know what is happening

but still, id love a photo of the three of us, even if im getting another one professionally!!

i guess if i hadnt kicked up so much of a fuss today i could of just slipped in with him and nobody would have noticed.

me and my bloody huge mouth

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:49

MBADTK - the school is follow through so they have set it out like this:

NURSERY&INFANT|JUNIOR|SECONDARY

all on the same site but with like a playground inbetween each part. photos being done in the junior school hall so i will be collecting sister from infants then taking her to the photo's, and could collect ds aswell

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llareggub · 22/09/2008 22:49

I think what you need to do is present them with a draft new policy. After all, their policy is unlikely to have covered the scenario you describe. So play them. Write a new policy (nothing lengthy) and present it professionally to the head, with a copy to the governors. They can't argue with a reasoned, well presented argument.

MadBadandDangeroustoKnow · 22/09/2008 22:50

Good luck - hope the school sees sense.

MadBadandDangeroustoKnow · 22/09/2008 22:54

EC - thanks for the explanation. I was just concerned that you were being urged to go and grab your son from the nursery for the photo when you might not be able to (however much you wanted). llareggub's hit the nail on the head - probably all you need to do is cross out 'sibling' and stick in 'close family'.

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:56

mmm i may do that

although i fear it is 11 o clock and i have to be up at 5 to revise and get everything sorted for school

so glad i'm a teenager and have an amost invincible body clock. that'll wear off soon

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edam · 22/09/2008 23:04

Oh, can I have a smidgen of your teenage invincibility, please? God, I remember the days when I could stay up all night and be fine in the morning...

ShyBaby · 22/09/2008 23:10

my hat is off to you once again ec..I hope you find a way to get your lovely photos, you deserve them (just lie!)

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 23:13

does nobody think im a bit unreasonable for this though cause i do:

they have bent the rules by letting my ds into nursery (granted it did take them 6 months) at 14 months (thats 10 months earlier than normal age), he is quite advance and was walking and eating well e.t.c

so they did that for me and now i've kicked up a fuss about the photos

even if they are kicking him out of nursery when i leave for college

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ShyBaby · 22/09/2008 23:21

I dont think you are being unreasonable. Could you not just take him anyway? Wont the photographer be so busy he/she will just take the photo and think nothing of it? There will be kids everywhere. It will be chaos?

Ashantai · 22/09/2008 23:27

Cant see any problem at all tbh. My kids nursery had photos done and the whole family was invited for the pic.

Its not like you wont be paying for the photo, so does it really matter? Rules are meant to be slightly broken

SmugColditz · 22/09/2008 23:28

i don't actually think you are bing unreasonable, but as your son is in nursery as a favour i would be reluctant to rock your boat. I think they are being petty but (sorry darlings) teachers often are. It comes of being in charge all the time.

cheesesarnie · 22/09/2008 23:35

Ashantai-your dc are so cute

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 23:37

cheesesarnie - i agree

they are so gorgeous!!!all that awesome hair

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ethanchristopher · 23/09/2008 06:14

Urgh i actually have to make an effort to look nice today aswell

how do you look good in them? does anyone like theirs?

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GordonTheGopher · 23/09/2008 06:26

I remember dashing to the toilets just before to slap on some lippy and 'volumise' my hair with lots of hairspray (well it was the early 90s!).

Good luck!

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 23/09/2008 07:14

YANBU bloody hell i could have had my photo took on my dds school photo as could dd2 and niether of us go to her school or any school for that matter

good luck. oh and well done on actually going back to school that must have been really hard

psychomum5 · 23/09/2008 07:16

hoping it works out for you.

I have to say I hate my last school pic, but I was an extra-ordinary ugly teen with braces and NHS glasses. think 'ugly betty' and that was me (no exageration(sp?? brain melt)).

but.........

school rules are made to be broken occasionally, and it is not as if this one will cause terrible problems for anyone else.

2beornot2be · 23/09/2008 11:14

EC I hope u manage to get your photo done with you DS

DaphneMoon · 23/09/2008 11:28

Can't your mum get your DS and make out she wants him to watch you have your photo taken and then just as you are settled down to have it taken, run up, plonk DS on your knee and run off, pic taken, nothing school can do ha ha.

stroppyknickers · 23/09/2008 11:35

Ring your local paper. They will love the story, you get a free photo by the paper's photographer, job done!

islandofsodor · 23/09/2008 11:39

I take it this is an indy school as sounds a similar set up to my dc's school.

At our school sibling photos are taken in the morning before school starts and I actuallky found the photographer VERY amenable. I had both individual and one together taken.

Your Mum needs to argue your corner WITH you She should represent you and your sister and you should represent your son.

Alternatively book a local photographer. It will prbably be cheaper anyway these school package photos are quite expensive for what they are.

TinkerBellesMum · 23/09/2008 11:46

Haven't read everything, but that's crazy! Are they ashamed of having a teen mum in their school or something? Tell them it's discrimination and you'll call the papers.