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fuming mad at school photos

153 replies

ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 21:54

i go to a follow school which means there is an infant/nursery school, junior school and secondary school that are all next door to each other and have the same name e.t.c and every year when the school photos take place and the siblings from any of the 3 schools can have pics taken together e.t.c.

but me and my little sister (im secondary shes infant) can have our photo taken but not with ds (whos in nursery) and yet my friend can have her picture taken with her little brother who is in nursery

reason being that my ds is not my brother

AIBU or are they just sticking REALLY CLOSELY to the title "sibling photos"

i probably am being unreasonable reading that back...

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StewieGriffinsMom · 22/09/2008 22:05

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BibiThree · 22/09/2008 22:06

no need to , you should be doing faces at this stupid "rule".

I agree with the sale or no sale comment, it's their loss if they still say no tomorrow. Idiots.

BibiThree · 22/09/2008 22:06

no need to , you should be doing faces at this stupid "rule".

I agree with the sale or no sale comment, it's their loss if they still say no tomorrow. Idiots.

ingles2 · 22/09/2008 22:08

How ridiculous...
I'd just refuse to have the picture taken ethan

LynetteScavo · 22/09/2008 22:08

So you couldn't have your photo taken with your cousin or how about steb brother/ sister you live with, but are ont actually reated to by blood?

They are being idiots.

VinegarTits · 22/09/2008 22:08

How would it be glamorising it? its just a poxy photo, not like shes asking to speak in front of the whole school about how great teenage motherhood is

edam · 22/09/2008 22:09

Oh fgs how ridiculous of them! I'd be fuming. As someone said earlier, it's usually an outside photographer rather than a member of staff, so what's to stop you just turning up as a threesome?

Sounds like either it just doesn't fit their normal box so they can't cope with it, or they are embarrassed about you having your ds so young. Which is their problem, not yours.

SaintGeorge · 22/09/2008 22:09

Ridiculous rule and of course they should make an exception.

As an aside, I thought you weren't putting DS into nursery until next year. Isn't he a bit young for a school nursery or have I misunderstood the set-up you described in the OP?

FourArms · 22/09/2008 22:09

I'd imagine it's just a blanket rule because they don't want to end up doing hundreds of parent and child photos. You should be an obvious exception to the rule IMO.

edam · 22/09/2008 22:11

Good idea about taking your mum or dad along, if possible.

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:13

ds goes to nursery in the morning twice a week

gran/mum/dp/other family members childcare for him in the day

but next year it wont be possible so he will have to go nursery full time and i will be going to college so he will be moving nurseries hence the other post

thanks for the support everyone, im a bit more now that i know not everyone thinks the same as them, thing is the teachers stand around keeping kids in line e.t.c so if i take him surely someone will spot us and be like ifyswim

mum wants one of me and my sister though so i need to get one anyway, otherwise i would boycott!!!!! i just wanted my lil boy to be in it too

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platypussy · 22/09/2008 22:17

I didnt know nurseries attached to schools took children under 2 nowadays.

TheHedgeWitch · 22/09/2008 22:19

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RGPargy · 22/09/2008 22:19

They are being complete twunts.

Take your DS with you. I really dont think they will send him away once he's there in line with you both....... Good luck!

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:23

we are a special case cause i am in the secondary school which is why he has to leave when i do, and he went from 14 months so he was like able to walk and cruise and stuff he will be 2 by end of december anyway.

but thats just made me more mad, we can be a special case for that but not for school photos

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platypussy · 22/09/2008 22:25

THW - its probably the schools' not the photographers decision so why tell him to p* off. Im sure he would be glad of the extra business.

SmugColditz · 22/09/2008 22:26

Can all those suggesting defiance of the rules please remember that EthanChristopher is still at school. She's a schoolgirl and her teachers will still be treating her as a child. Would you be suggesting defiance of the rules if this was your own 16 year old daughter, who had already pissed the teachers off?

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ethanchristopher · 22/09/2008 22:26

it is strictly sibling photos i think.

well i assume it would be, but none of my friends have had photos with their cousins..

hmm i shall ask the question

and im now thinking that my christmas present will be to go with dp and ds and have a professional photo.

awww

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Whoopee · 22/09/2008 22:29

If your mum really wants one of you and your sister, maybe she'd back you up in your argument if you refused to sit for it without your son. I think the school are being ridiculous.

What's the worst that'll happen if you turn up with him? If as you say, someone is a bit , well, ignore them. Keep your chin up and tell them gently but firmly you're taking your son in with you. I expect no teacher will want there to be a scene or a fuss, just to get the whole operation over with as smoothly as possible, so when faced with it, they'll let you go ahead.

To allow siblings but not children in the same photo is so stupid: your son is a part of you!

HonoriaGlossop · 22/09/2008 22:32

Agree with Colditz. You've asked, they've said no, and I think you just need to accept that they are offering sibling photos and that's that. I expect your mum will like having one of her dd's together; your last one at school.

As you say, you can do a family photo with DP/DS, as a seperate thing.

Ashantai · 22/09/2008 22:39

I dont think its unreasonable to bend the rules just this once. Try to get your son to throw a hissy fit so that they just want to take your pic and get you the hell outta there

cheesesarnie · 22/09/2008 22:41

agree with honoria.get you and your sister done for your mum.then spend the money you would getting a copy for yourself on another photo.
yanbu it isnt really fair but its not worth getting in trouble at school for(for getting knickers in twist about it).

ghosty · 22/09/2008 22:44

Colditz and Honoria - ethanchristopher may be a schoolgirl but she is still a mother (and carer of her child) and I think they are patronising her unnecessarily.
It is just making up rules for rules' sake (And don't get me wrong I am usually completely against arguing school rules - I was a teacher for 10 years and I believe in rules )
But, ethanchristopher, seeing as they are treating you like this (and almost discriminating because you are a teenage mum) you may need to get YOUR mum on the case to, like others suggest.

MadBadandDangeroustoKnow · 22/09/2008 22:46

Colditz is right, of course.

The school has not been very imaginative in sticking to the letter of its 'sibling photo' policy but I guess they rarely have pupils who are also parents and they haven't updated their policy to deal with that situation. That's why I think EC needs to lobby for a more flexible policy (although time is not on her side, I know).

And how exactly is she supposed to get her son for the photo? If it's in the middle of the school day, she may not be let out of class to go and fetch him from the nursery.

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