To think that mumsnet is causing the arguments

[beanieb]

The situation is this:
There are 2 of us living in the house and we are trying for kids.

I do the bulk of the washing, ironing, tidying in the house.

I also make 50% or more of the mess.

We both work full time.

When I say Ironing I basically don't iron much except for when I need things but I do get the ironing board out on a Sunday and make sure there are 5 shirts ironed for my OH for the week. If I didn't then my OH would do one in the morning before work. It's no skin off my nose and I don't resent it at all, it's part of my routine.

Cooking is mostly my job and even though the OH asks 'can I help' I rarely accept. He cooks lovely food a few times a month.

I almost always wash up - usually the next morning.

I tend to do all the clothes washing and hanging out, we both tidy the house.

In short we do the bare minimum of housework, tending to let things slide and then have a manic clear up but I am more pro-active when it starts to look like a shithole and I am more likely to do little things as I go along.

Anyway - since I joined mumsnet I have been having 'episodes' where I get frustrated by the amount I am doing, yet I never take help when it is offered.

I think it's mumsnet's fault for putting ideas into my head that I should be unhappy with what I choose to do and as a result I keep sulking about it.

AIBU to blame it on mumsnet?

beanieb - TRUST me - you will not be able to leave the baby's laundry for a week!!

your OWN on the other hand... well, you'll run out of clean knicks before you realise you haven't done any of your own stuff for ages (or is that just me?)

my mum has always muttered darkly about my dds but now dd1 is 18 months we are moving from the swings to the roundabouts

(shakes in terror emoticon)

OK - I promise I won't

Of course I will be dressing my baby (If I have one) in those little suit things. I won't be bothering with a whole load of clothes.

ANyway - this was about me now, me getting grumpy , it being Mumsnet's fault

no thumbwitch
I'm thinking of wringing out my hair to cook dinner with..

TBH it may well be MNs fault as it should be listed as a Class A drug it is that addictive. My home would look like a show home if I didn't waste spend so much time here.

Have thoroughly enjoyed this thread.

Morning paper-
Is that how it usually works? I hope so. My ds is what I think is known as a high needs baby (?) He liked to be held all the time, screamed alot, is now 12 months and still likes to be held alot, has been co-sleeping for last 6 months cos we were all so knackered we decided sleep, any sleep, even if being kicked while curled awkwardly round the baby hoping not to roll on him, was preferable to our zombie like state. He still feeds all night (was never able to wean down the night feeds) and screams if we change his nappy, wipe his face, change his clothes, go out of sight, don't give him 100% attention.
'Strong willed' is how my mother describes him, 'spoiled' is how my friend describes him. Will he morph into a well-behaved toddler? Will I have the last laugh?

Well timewaster that's my theory

Mine haven't even really had tantrums - not like I read about on here

Then again perhaps after spending 24/7 jiggling a hysterical baby for a year then life just seems MARVELLOUS as soon as you can put them down

It's worked here too timewaster. My DS was a high needs baby too and everyone felt sorry for me and smug with their placid babies. But DS is such a charming toddler, he really is, and never gives me any hassle. He entertains himself most of the time, hence the frequent MN. Whereas some of the easy babies have become much, much harder toddlers. Swings and roundabouts I suppose.