to be annoyed with what my sahm friend just said to me

[nowwearefour]

i work part time. 2 days per week. my friend just rang. dd2 asleep. when dd2 asleep i try to o something nice and fun with dd1. today we were making a cake. so friend rang when we were mixing cake up. she asked what i was doing. i told her. she said i think it is wonderful you working mums all seem to feel guilty and do more fun things with your kids than us sahms. [hmmm]. wtf??? just because she doenst bake cakes doesnt mean i do because i feel guilty!!!! i am a tad narked. of course i will forget it in 10 mins just got me a bit that she feels superior or something....

projection

her issues not yours

Ignore her stupid comment.

No, YANBU. It was very cheeky.

I have friends who work, I would never dream of saying anything derogatory to them about what they then do with their dcs at the weekend or when they aren't at work.

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ignore it. I am a sahm and wish i thought of cake making!

was she trying to be funny perhaps?

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Why don't you feel guilty?

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not even rising to that one! actually of course i do feel guilty for having chosen to work 2 days per week. but i maintain that is not why i was making a cake!

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having been on both sides was wohm with first now sahm with second can see that when I worked 3 days I had more energy for the cake making etc as it was more of a novelty now I am at home full time it is not such a novelty so it happens less

I think it was maybe supposed to be a compliment - in an extremely cack-handed way!
And I must admit, I work 3 days a week and it is prob. partly guilt that sometimes drives me to organise a fantastic treasure hunt or make some excellent model with dcs. Dunno whether I'd do it to same degree or not if I didn't work....

Obviously not that guilty though else I'd never be on MN!

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well i only went back 3 months ago but not getting into that. point is even if true it was pretty annoying of her to say it to me !

"i said look mate we dont sit there singing frere jacques all day shaking home made marracas "

I do!
Is the cake nice?

maybe she feels undermined for being sahm I gave up work in may and am still stuck when people ask me what I do

just got it out of oven. a bit prematurely i fear. chocolate banana loaf cake. let's hope is scrummy!

you bake cakes beacsue you're guilty about working two days a week - it not exactly the salt mines!

I work and don;t do cake baking - the only women I know who bake cakes are SAHM and I assume they do it because they have the time and I don't, not becasue of any bizarre imputed motives. I have started making bread and thats because bread is becoming so expensive - no time for cake as well... let them eat bread.

"i said look mate we dont sit there singing frere jacques all day shaking home made marracas " - why not - thats sounds nice.

I make them cos they taste yummy

haven't ever done a treasure hunt either to add to my list of shortcomings...

andim - that another reason I don't make them ... they taste yummy...

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