To think that MN is too cliquey for me?

[foxessmelltheirownholes]

I've been on this thing for a month or so, i started off quite enthusiasticly posting all over the place but for the last week or so I've been a 'silent observer', because I've lost heart.

Whenever I've posted either a) post ignored completely. Even if what I've said is echoed by an 'old timer' a few posts later, its the old timer that gets acknowledged not me. End up thinking why do I bother offering advice??
b)Threads die a horrible death

This was really noticable on the 'profile update' thread when I was busy telling everyone how beautiful their kids are etc only to receive "oh, yes thanks for that" but no mention of my beautiful darlings (however no biggie - cos I really don't need reassurance that they are beautiful cos they truly are just stunning!!) However I do think its just common courtesy to respond the compliment.

That said, occasionally I have had some nice responses, to which I've shown gratitude at the time, but sadly they have been very rare.

I just wanted to bring this up so that all you old timers are aware that some of you can be pretty cliquey and please can you start welcoming and acknowledging the newbies a bit more.

I've changed my name, BTW.
MN NEWBIES EVERYWHERE UNITE!!!!

look at you all, you big bunch of cliquey in-jokers.

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mine are a bit droopy nowadays.

I think breast feeding is icky and only for people who can't afford formula.

CrackFox, excellent name

I might just start an AIBU thread on one of those topics.....

[evil cackle]

Can you swing them round really fast whatsthe?

I think that you only find cliques if you are sensitive and look for them.
I think that it is preferable to be ignored than to have someone have a personal attack on you!
I find that it tends to be the nature of the post. If people have asked for specific advice and I have helped in a way that other people haven't then I have had thanks.
If lots of people are saying similar things then you tend to be ignored.
If someone doesn't like the advice then they get really upset!
There are a few subjects where no one wants an alternative view-they are very much a clique where you are only supposed to post if you agree. I think it is far healthier to have alternate views but it doesn't make you popular! It is also counter productive because they see your name and make assumptions about your post before they read it. I am trying not to respond where the cliques are concerned-but I don't always succeed!

lol at everyone's tits

Kew I have a memory of irrelevance - if it is of no help to me in rl, I will remember it. Also I always used to think 'Wow! why is spike jonez on mn?' like a fule.

I agree with you about bf - it's also for wimmin what is too lazy to make up bottles.

You do rather get jumped on nowadays, don't you, AbbeyA? Sorry about that.

I unfortunately get riled into saying things that I don't really mean and then they get thrown back at you! I have never been very good at unemotional arguments. It works better in RL than it does written down.

No one takes any notice of me at all, whatever I say... What's that song about eating worms?

BIG NORKS, FARKING FANJOS, PISS FLAPS

Did that get anyone's attention?

Do you know what? Life is cliquey.

And like someone said on yet another thread like this the other day, soetimes you say things (on here and in RL) which everyone finds interesting/amusing/irritating/downright rude and sometimes you say things which are a bit dull.

Such is life.

No-one wants me, everyone ignores me, I think I'll go eat worms.

IS that you mean Eyeballs in the sky?

Ah, I see from the foxessmelltheirownholes' most recent post that the OP was just showing us the error of our ways!

So it was more of a Public Service Announcement than a whinge?

A valiant plea to protect the sensibilities of MNers past, present and future?

Shall we start a cliquey thread where the game is NOT to respond to anyone else's post?

We all have to write mad/inflammatory/wild stories.

I will invigilate and award points for the posts hardest not to respond to.

We will call it Quichetty Quiche.

Anyone in?

Great idea, Fabsy.
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foxes
I am sorry I haven't read your whole thread but noticed your comment re the profiles page.
I have been here for a couple of years. I too commented on other peoples profiles. No one commented on mine. I immediately pouted and sulked and decided it was because of a clique.
Then I calmed down and realised that it was just because the thread had moved on.
Then I pondered the fact that it was actually because my children were the most beautiful and others were too busy spitting furious envy to post.
Then I wondered if my children were just dog ugly and i am too blinded by love to see it.

And then i finally realsied that I was just hugely self absorbed...

Its a big site. And most people are concerned with themselves. I rarely notice other posters names so don't respond too specifically too often but equally never ignore anyone intentionally.

Get on a support thread and it makes how much people are reacting to you way less important.
But don't go. It is mostly entertaining.

Pagwatch - OMG your children are HIDEOUS please lock them in a cellar now!!

Just kidding... they are all lovely, you must be very proud of them. Now bask in the gloriousness of my PFB

I am not getting my norkage out without a proper ol' snog first.

To the op. You know we have a thread like this about once a month? You must just have missed the last one. Welcome, and dont be scared to keep joining in. But I suggest you keep your name, as NOW you will be sure to be remembered!

fabio, didn't mean to make you . I thought it was rather funny

Has the OP gone back to her charmed lovely RL leaving us all to be cleaky together? Why do they post, get worked up and flounce if it bothers them so little.

And I thought we were all being rather nice, considering; not bitchy and aggressive at all....at least not at the start.

CVQ....just who the blinking flip are you?

oooh, and I mean "we" in the all of us sense rather than in the "we're a cleak and you're not welcome" sense.

Quichetty Quiche

A-ha. I do love these threads.
All my favourite MNers in one place.
How are you Dahlinks?

Oh Daisy thanks for the email to make sure I didn't miss the thread btw

bt
of course your PFB is the most beautifulest I have ever seen

now isn't that so much nicer
big hugs people