to be annoyed at what my mil cooks when we visit?

[2luvlyboys]

Yesterday we went to pils for dinner. We had a roast chicken dinner and it was lovely! She is a great cook tbh. So far so good. She also did a lovely homemade raspberry and blackberry pudding. Again lovely. But then she had to spoil it by producing vanilla or CHOCOLATE icecream to go with it and a home made rice pudding. Whats wrong with that you may ask? I saw her make it she put sugar AND a whole can of evaporated milk in it!!! And she bought in a jug with more evaporated milk!! Dh's family has always made a big deal over puddings. I always thought it was really great until I had my dcs. When I saw her making the rice pudding I did comment that she needn't of done that as well as the blackberry and raspberry pudding. Thats all right she said its a plesure! I made sure I dished out ds1 his sponge pudding straight away but then mil produced the chocolate icecream and ofcourse he went on and on about wanting it. Ever tried refusing a 2.11 year old chocolate icecream? MIL gave him some and I made a comment that hes never had chocolae icecream before! Then ds1 spied the rice pudding and wanted some. I reluctantly as I didn't want a scene game him a little bit. Ofcourse he quickly polished it off and wanted more at which point mil gave him more without even checking 1st. She even asked if ds2 wanted any and I said no way (he's 9 months). My dcs don't have food like this usually and she knows it. I think if you give them used to sweet things now you give them a hard to break sweet tooth (my dh has one for sure)!! AIBU? My mum surprised me I must admit when she pointed out its not an everyday occurance or even a weekly thing (monthly if that). Seemed to be implying that I'm making too much of it which I thought strange as she would never cook things like that for my dcs. What do others think?

get a grip

there are many people who would give their right arm to be fussed over by dc's grandparents

some are no longer around, some just don't give a shit and some are separated by family problems

Your mother knows best.

Make your children run home carrying you and your dh to burn it off.

YABU YABU YABU and joyless to boot

My DD doesn't like Chocolate...not sure how long that will last but she would also turn her nose up at Chocolate Ice cream.

I'd have thought occasionally OK having a treat won't hurt. Also as its homemade no nasty additives / colours. And as they eat healthily at home they will get to like the good stuff too.

Ooh, I wish I had your MIL!

Seriously, if you want your kids to have a broad social life and mix with lots of different people, you're going to have to accept that they will get exposed to different kids of food. it is not reasonable to expect others (including grandparents) to only prepare the food you would prepare at home.

I think children are well able to understand the difference between 'special occasion' meals they get elsewhere and what they should expect daily at home. Alternatively, you need to develop strategies for controlling what your kids eat in others' homes; things like intervening early and asking the hostess only to offer dish x or y to your children, for example.

i would say that if you only see her monthly or so that home cooked sweet food after a meal is fine, i have very fond memories of my great nana (who was very frail when i was young and died when i was ten) serving pavlovas and gateaux

just be greatful she isnt giving them chemically sweetened, artifically coloured crap before their meal!

mmmmmmmmmmmmm, evaporated milk. you are being madly unreasonable, lol. if she was childminding your kids on a daily basis, maybe, but you do sound like a horrible guest.

I think you're being very, very unreasonable.
your MIL sounds lovely. she cooks lovely homemade food for you all, does puddings because it's a "pleasure" to make stuff for you.

if it's monthly, if that, then what's the problem???

if you really, really have a problem with them ever having stuff with sugar etc in then you need to talk to her and say that you appreciate it all, but you'd rather they weren't offered ice cream or whatever.

We don't have a lot of sugary stuff, but I strongly believe in everything inb moderation and the boys are allowed treats at my mum's house and here from time to time.

God your MIL sounds wonderful.

I'm assuming you don't go there every day? I'd think it fine for your children.

Since when are puddings forbidden for children?

Sugar is not poison - and neither is evaporated milk.

YABU - unless you NEVER give your children sugar in any form because they have some sort of health problem (diabetes?)? No yoghurts, fruit juices etc? If that is so then you need to make it clearer to your MIL that you will only come if she does not ever produce a pudding.

I think you are over-reacting so much it's rather sweet

because in the scheme of things it doesn't matter and it's lovely

YABtotallyU. I wish I had your MIL! Let your ds enjoys the treats at her house, doesn't mean he needs to get them at home.

Would she mind awfully inviting me and DD around if you dont want to go any more?

It sounds divine! I love rice pudding made with evaporated milk!!! .

And not only has dd aged 2 had some chocolate icce cream. She has had a whole one from a stall!!!

If this was an everyday thing i could understand you beeing really annoyed. But it's a treat. The food sounds really delicious and homemade to boot.

I can understand refusing the ricepudding for your 9 month old i would have done the same. And it would have been nice for your MIL to ask mum/dad before offering more pudding if you were present. That's just polite.

Too lazy too search.... is this a troll ??

Blerg to evaporated milk, though, you fraeks

Too lazy to search even

Children who are deprived of sweets are the ones who go crazy and overindulge later in life when they can finally have everything they were once denied. I'm one... I wasn't allowed sweets as a child and now I struggle with binge eating disorder. YABVU. Let your kids be kids and enjoy sweets as part of a healthy balanced diet.

Oh not another farkin troll surely not

Although it is a ridiculous OP

its atreat, hardly gonna kil them. She sounds lovely. Chill out

Everlong

She/he/it needs another few children, a large dose of sleepless nights, and then she/he/it would be pathetically grateful for any food they did not have to cook.

Surely trollage?

No just searched
seems genuine