AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

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Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

Miss hercules1! Miss hercules1! It was Happyhoney, miss!

"I cannot stick parents who think they are doing a good job by giving in to their every whim and then sticking them in childcare"

What about parents who think they are doing a good job but don't put their kids into childcare?

or

Parents who are doing a good job and put their children into childcare?

Well, it worked fine for both my kids

the continuim concept and thanks would rather be like someone from MIL's generation than a neurotic, pandering, must go to work and leave child as nursery is better than me parent. Thanks for your feedback - i will sleep soundly tonight.

Do people really think that attachment parenting is pandering and neurotic? Have I stumbled into the twighlight zone?

Beanie - fine if you plan to stay at home, not fine if you are going to use childcare for a very young child IMHO.

But then how come it worked for me? I appreciate your opinion but it's not a fact.

when two threads/go to war/money's on it/that's for sure...

Juuule, you have 9 attachment parented children?

Seriously, Juuule has described my children and how dd (now 5) has come into her own. Sorry, happyhoney, no behavioural problems there. Dd is doing great at school and I am proud of her.

hercules,

I think it is deeply unfair to practise this method of parenting then leave a child in childcare. Mummy there all the time....mummy .....gone.

hercules1, I am feeling a little like I am in twilight zone as well.

Earth mother, patience of a saint? I wish

Juuule, What age did your children start childcare?

Really? Have you met my kids? Neither have ever been in trouble. My 12 year old has never had a detention, got told off etc. My near 5year old is very well behaved at nursery so I'm told. No behaviour problems at all. Both settled very well into their childcare and have also been described as very confident and secure children. I like to think it's partly because I ensure they felt secure, loved with their needs met.

blue,

parents normally say that about their own.

happyhoney, as you would about yours.

I can completely understand why some people don't like attachment parenting and why some people would want to be sahps. What I do recognise is that it doesn't make them superiour or better parents.

I'm not sure I did the whole ap thing. I didn't discover slings until no.8 Carried them around in my arms.
And I only found out that what I was doing was a form of ap later on.
Luckily the first cm we had, had a similar style of parenting.

I'd never heard of ap either until ds was about 3 or 4. I just did what seemed right.

The first 3 were around 6m when they went to cm. dc1 was full-time, dc2 was full-time for a while and then went part-time and dc3 were 3days a week.

Mind you, I would consider being a sahm now dd is about to start school....Sadly I have to work though.

Hercules, AP is just instinctive parenting. It is great it does not need to be taught or read in a book. My dcs thrive on it, but no it does not make me a better parent. I am just meeting my dcs' needs.

I meant not liking ap doesnt mean you are a superior parent not that those who ap feel they are superior.

Lets face it - you not really ap are you if your child is not with you. Like most things in life people - people do what they want. AP -then leave child in childcare - yes really makes sense. i don't know one cm who works like this how unfair on the other charges.And a cm is not you.

hercules, I cannot disagree with that.