MIL has picked to wear a WHITE DRESS at my wedding.

[Iamnotbridezilla]

She has done everything she can to irritate me and caused loads of problems for our wedding.

Then when we got our son christened she wasn't centre of attention so she sat there with a face on her, sent her H over to have a go at me, was annoyed that my mum had held the baby more than her even though my mum made an effort to pay for the christening unexpectedly, come over and hold the baby, and take him round to see other people so they could hold her. MIL didn't even come over to see him and went mad that we didn't take him over. Then she left early with SIL's DP's parents to go to another pub.

Now she has minded the baby the other day, purposely doesn't listen to what I tell her to do with him- didn't even give him his medicine, because she wants to be his mum because she's infertile now.

When I went to pick him up she got all excited and showed me a pic of the dress she's getting for my wedding. It is white and floaty.

No one should wear white to a wedding but she's obviously doing it on purpose to be centre of attention.

I didn't take the baby to see her much when he'd just been born as I wanted us to spend the first week as a family. She has slagged me off a lot and been really awkward over this.

It's like she's hideously jealous of me.

She even copies my hairstyles and colours everytime I get it done and she dresses young and tries to relive her youth.

So AIBU? I wouldn't wear a white dress to someone's wedding.

Hardly "hideous", the bride wearing white is just a traditon. Most brides wear white (I didn't) and most look fabulous on their wedding day.

If the OP's MIL turns up in a floaty white number she will draw attention to herself for the wrong reasons - like a badly behaved toddler. The best response is not to let it cause any tension or distraction and have the amusing revenge of doctoring the photos so MIL looks like Miss Havisham in a greying dress with accentuated wrinkles and blemishes. Subtly done, she can't even complain!

She will look ridiculous and you won't have to do a thing to persuade everyone that she is a silly attention-seeking cow - think Raquel Welsh at her son's wedding - can anyone do a link?

I would pray she wears it if I were you!

zookeeper- that's the running joke me and DP had, calling his mum Raquel Welsh!

Overall opinion is that she's going to look silly thank goodness.

I do wonder though- why on earth does she have a problem with me and get jealous and copy me all the time? Are some MILs secretly in love with their sons? Or used to being centre of their son's life or something? It freaks me out.

Poor DP!lol

Also, why won't she follow my instructions on how to look after my DS? I wouldn't dream of disregarding instructions of what to do with someone elses son. It's not like I leave a list. Just basically feeds-this time, medicine-this time, overheats easy so strip to a nappy if it's hot, if he cries hysterically it's such and such. That's about it!

she can not wear white to a wedding, why would she do such a thing

she can not wear white to a wedding, why would she do such a thing

agree with Swedes [runs]

I would just LET her wear white.

Other people will think the following

1. that's a bit inconsiderate and rude to the bride
2. she looks 25 (?) years older than the bride and she is drawing attention to that fact by wearing a white dress and inviting unkind but inevitable comparison.

LET HER MAKE A eejit of herself, and let her do it with an audience of 200

she sounds a bit like my x mil. Who I only finally stood up to when I left her pfb.

Are you having a wedding present list?

I'm with Wannabe- who cares what colour anyone wears. Cannot believe people care that much. My SIL called me before my wedding to check I would not mind if she wore a white jacket..... ??!!! Of course I don't bloody care. Are you wearing a long, flowing dress and a veil? No. Therefore I care not one jot.
And very, VERY weird to get the hump because someone wears black.....!!!!! It's the best colour to wear to ANY occasion.

Jeez. Anyone dictating to their guests anything unreasonable IS a bridezilla if you ask me. That goes for any colour scheme requests too! Some people don't have hundreds to splash out on new frocks and shirts and ties and will just turn up in something they already own and is perfectly lovely.
GGGrrrrrr......

(having said that, your MIL does sound like a loon)

face it she could turn up in white veil still wont make her the star turn.thats you and DP

ignore her.dont let her spoil your happy day your MIL sounds ghastly

dont bother making specific requests to her, just gives her ammunition to ignore you

so rise above the provocation

be serene

ignore her

I wouldn't wear a floaty white dress to a wedding unless I wanted to piss off the bride. It's not rocket science, just manners.

Seriously, can anyone find a picture of the line up at Raquel Welsh's son's wedding? Seeing was believing lol

Can't find a link.

LOL Milzilla

A pic is here if you scroll down the page