to be livid with my brother for feeding my 8 month old CHOCOLATE?

[vannah]

At a family birthday get together today? And then have the rest of my family including my husband telling me that I am over reacting because I started crying - out of being so angry???

He gave her one rectangular piece of milky bar. This was when I was in the other room..

I don't think she should be embarrassed now. I just think she will be when she's older and looks back. I didn't read the thread so I am assuming the baby was fine. No allergies etc.

I accidentally gave my neighbours child her first taste of chocolate. In my defence it was at my daughters birthday party and child in question was 3.5yo.

Imagine, managing to avoid letting child have a taste of chocolate before 3.5yo.....

but "oops" anyhow.

I did cry out of anger, was not depressed.
Thankyou to those of you that offered supportive comments.

Not sure why I tuned in today to read the rest of the comments, I actually feel quite sick at some of the unkind comments from people like MartianBishop - and are actually quite hurtful.

I won't be checking this thread again.

It depends if he knew you didn't want her to have chocolate. He probably just didn't think it would be an issue.

I am PFB too and would have been seriously pissed off!! I think that I would have cried too.

The difference (my DD is 7 months) is that all of our family know that it wouldnt be acceptable to me.

I think that being told to "get a grip" is harsh . You only want what you perceive to be best for your baby

My DH is like me and had words with his mum because she gave DD carrot that was not organic, tee hee. Even I laughed at that!

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My work colleague came to my DD's naming day a month or so back and her little boy (who is 3) was accidently given his first taste of chocolate (by another child) and she got upset.

I really think (with my "nice person" hat on) that mumsnet could try and be more respectful of parents wishes.

Yes, of course my work colleague over reacted but its her life/her choices/her son. I cant understood such anger directed towards strangers who mean no wrong?

not really worth crying over

I agree its not worth crying over but can see why (even without dietary considerations) that it would be upsetting.

In fact, I would always check with a parent/carer before offering "bad" food to a child. Be they 8 months or 12 years! Its not my place to give them rubbish.

I would not have been happy. Think some of you have been a bit mean. It is rude not to check these things with parents when the baby is so little.

I hate it when people give my DCs something that I really don't want them to eat (no allergies here but DS is mega fussy and will not eat proper meals if he's been given snacks like chocolate). I just want to say no but smile politely!

Whatever reason the OP has (and she has got good reason for her objections) it's up to her.

Why did the brother wait until she'd left the room? Sounds like he did it on purpose to upset her.

would your ds really not eat his meal after one square of chocolate? a bar i could understand but a tiny square?

Over-reaction to actually cry.

But in your defence... my mother (hardened old person) said that when I was little, her MiL only had to give me on single solitary sweet and I wouldn't eat my meal. My mum said she wept over this.

Don't feel bad Vannah.

My mum is well hard and even she wept.

sorry.. I should have put a question
mark after my first sentence there.

No he wouldn't. DD will eat anything that is given to her so I don't mind her having the odd treat as I know she will eat a healthy meal afterwards. DS has a small appetite and so I save extras like chocolate or cake for if he has eaten his meal (or some of it). I'm sure some of my friends think I'm being fussy, but then they're not the ones who have to try and give him a meal after he has had a little treat - and then put him to bed knowing that all he has eaten all afternoon is a small piece of chocolate or a biscuit.