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to be livid with my brother for feeding my 8 month old CHOCOLATE?

138 replies

vannah · 09/08/2008 20:59

At a family birthday get together today? And then have the rest of my family including my husband telling me that I am over reacting because I started crying - out of being so angry???

He gave her one rectangular piece of milky bar. This was when I was in the other room..

OP posts:
theSuburbanDryad · 10/08/2008 09:59

Sorry - sugar is the first thing on the ingredient's list, then milk.

possiblymaybe · 10/08/2008 10:18

Well I don't see why is it ok for anyone except parents to feed a baby new food...

You want something to feed get yourself a goldfish fgs..

It reminds a situation when I had a coffee with my friend and she spoonfed my then 11months old dd an ice-cream fro her plate. She did it so fast I din't have a chance to stop it.

3 days later my dd had a horrific gastroenteritis which needed hospitalization..

bunchoflowers · 10/08/2008 11:58

Another wind up!!!

MrsMattie · 10/08/2008 12:05

With my PFB I would have gone absolutely nuts (maybe crying a tad over the top?), but down the line I wouldn't be too fussed. I'd just firmly but politely remind him that my baby is much too young for chocolate and I'd rather she didn't have any, thanks.

Janni · 10/08/2008 15:54

I think this is about the relationship between you and your brother, not a square of milky bar.

bonnibaby · 10/08/2008 21:13

Now,my SILs sister took her (SILs) 6 year old into town and got her ears pierced without her permission-THATS unreasonable....

Blandmum · 10/08/2008 21:18

They told you that you were over reacting because you are over reacting.

FFS it is chocolate not smack. She isn't going to turn to a lifetime of prostitution to support a milkybar habit you know!

Kizzipoppet · 10/08/2008 21:25

Were you crying because it might have been a choking hazard or the fact it was chocolate and your PFB might become an addict:?!!

I had to bite my tounge when my dear big Sis insisted my son was ready for a mini gingerbread biscuit - when he actually gagged and screamed as he really hated it!! I can confidently report now months later he devours the odd bar of choc or sugary biscuit a well meaning friend or aunty gives him. Variety and moderation are the spice of life... you can give him organic veggies or whatever 95% of the time but maybe relish the fun of letting him/her enjoy tasting different foods!

mashedbanana · 10/08/2008 21:38

even though my dd is 3 i was mad last week when my sil gave her a sweet.i don't let her have sweets.she has chocolate though.my sil knows this but still did it anyway.

Portofino · 10/08/2008 21:41

At a BBQ 10 years ago - my nephew stuck his finger in the Vodka Jelly. He liked it so much he went for another dip. He had a small mouthful at most before we hastily moved it. My sister still gives me grief about it to this day! You'd think I was force feeding it to him.....

TheHedgeWitch · 10/08/2008 22:21

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Boobalina · 11/08/2008 15:10

I can understand that it might be upseting because the control of what went into your baby wasnt yours, but look at it this way - at least it WAS chocolate, full of antioxidants, calicium, great for the mood, heart, a natural food stuff etc..

It could have been a wotsit or a pork scratching or a fruit shoot.

My DD (2nd child)had a taste of chocolate at 6 months and wasnt overally impressed, since, she has probably had it 3 times since and is 10 months now.

My eldest still thiks chocolate is a more precious commodity than i am...

YABU but then we all are with our first ones....

VictorianSqualor · 11/08/2008 15:26

AS the OP has said halfway through this thread.

Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.
This isn't a PFB, My child had chocolate thread, though it seemed it at the beginning, but of course, when would we let that stop us from posting our funny litte 'hahaha, you're a twat!PFB alert' type answers, let's just ignore the OP's recent post and continue to laugh at her.

So, as I said,

Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.Her and her brother are estranged and she is weaning for eczema.

Maybe people will see that point now, or maybe they'll continue to ignore it and tell the OP how ridiculous she was being.

OP, Did you cry in anger?(I'm another that cries when really pissed off) Or are you generally feeling quite low at the moment and it was the straw that broke the camel's back?

Gateau · 11/08/2008 15:28

I seriously pity you the day you have something important to cry about.

hughjarssss · 11/08/2008 15:30

I cry in anger as well

VictorianSqualor · 11/08/2008 15:30

Because of course Gateau, the OP couldn't possibly of been crying over whatever it is that has caused her and her brother not to be on talking terms could she?

Fuck em this thread is bitchy.

VictorianSqualor · 11/08/2008 15:31

Fuck *me, not Fuck em.

nooname · 11/08/2008 15:39

I am work-avoiding so reading pointless mnet threads but by god I wish I hadn't read this one.

Poor OP, I really don't understand the levels of bitchiness aimed at her. Mumsnet at its bitchy best?

Fwiw OP, I would've been v angry and there are no allergy/estrangement issues in my family.

Slickbird · 11/08/2008 15:44

Weeellll, I can kinda see everyone's point here. (Yes those are splinters I have in my ass...) While I can understand why the reponses are 'Jesus, it's not the end of the world, get over it...' BUT, I totally understand why the OP doesn't want to give her baby chocolate or sugar until she has to. I mean, why should she? The baby doesn't need it, it gets harder to deny it as they get older so I say give them all the chance they can of wanting fruit instead of sugary snacks so that you set them up right and then when they are a wee bit older, they can have chololate or biscuits for a treat. My nursery manager gave my baby chocolate without consulting me (altho DD spat it out - she can't be mine! [wink}) and I was furious. But I just pointedly said, 'we haven't given her chocolate yet.' and I think she got the message. DH was pissed off too and it's not like we are complete health freaks. I don't think the OP being pissed off with her Bro means she has sibling issues, she just should have been consulted first. IMO.

PlynetteB · 11/08/2008 16:21

Hi Vannah
I was upset when my brother gave my daughter some icecream at 4 months and he checks now before he gives her anything. I have also got my parents to check with me first and i have given them instructions on what she was to eat.
And before all you hateful people on here start on me. I had gestational diabetes and was warned that my child could develop it. So to insure she grows up without a sweet tooth I was very very careful. And I still am although she does eat sweets and chocolate now.
Vannah you are not on your own and you are protecting your daughter but there are ways of doing it and crying and shouting would not have been the best solution. But it got the point across.

PS i thought mums were supposed to support each other- some people on here need to be ashamed.

QuintessentialShadows · 11/08/2008 16:29

Neither of my boys tasted chocolate till they were well over 12 months old. By 18 months of age, they were totally addicted. And yes, I would also be furious if somebody else fed my kids chocolate in my absence.

At 18 months I had to get used to it though, because we went to stay in India for a while, and if I so much as turned my back, some stranger would have stuffed my sons mouth full of chocolate. I would just GLARE menacingly at them. Then I would jump, flap my arms and go BOOOHH! (not really, but I wanted to)

wb · 11/08/2008 17:56

When ds1 was 6 mo old a friend of mine gave him some ice cream. If she had asked me, I would have told her not to cause we were avoiding dairy due to my (numerous) allergies as a child. She didn't ask.

3 hrs later, when we were discharged from A&E, my friend and I were no longer on speaking terms . DS1, as it turns out, is allergic to both dairy and peanuts. I would rather not have found this out in the way I did - the rush to hospital was the most terrifying 20 minutes of my life.

If someone gave ds2 anything without checking w. me first I would break their f**king arm.

If vannah's dd had reacted badly, how many of the posters on here would be saying 'it's just a piece of chocolate'?

nkf · 11/08/2008 17:57

You'll look back at this and be embarrassed.

Smithagain · 11/08/2008 18:01

No, sorry nkf - I don't think the OP should be embarrassed. I have two DDs (so no PFB issues) and I would still have been livid if someone had introduced one of them to any new foodstuff at 8mo. There are good reasons why some people tread carefully around food, as wb knows only too well.

wb - that must have been terrifying

Ledodgy · 11/08/2008 18:03

I'd be pissed off he gave her it whilst I was in the other room. There's nothing like the look on their face when you give them their first taste of chocolate and i'd be livid if I missed it.