to be livid with my brother for feeding my 8 month old CHOCOLATE?

[vannah]

At a family birthday get together today? And then have the rest of my family including my husband telling me that I am over reacting because I started crying - out of being so angry???

He gave her one rectangular piece of milky bar. This was when I was in the other room..

It's not nice when someone goes against your wishes, so you are not being unreasonable to be cross. However, your child has a father who was also present and has 50% say in how the child is raised, so his opinion counts every bit as much as your does.

However, that you cried about it is worrying because it is totally out of proportion to the incident and could indicate depression. How are you feeling generally?

And this excema is proven to be caused by dairy products even in ones like chocolate that actually don't contain much actual milk?

Ya, whatever!

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Do you think this is more to do with your brother than it is to do with a square of chocolate?

I think yab a bit u! Crying was maybe a bit of an over reaction, but I understand you feeling a bit peed off if you don't normally let your baby have CHOCOLATE (sorry made me chuckle that it was in Shock!Horror! Capitals!)

My Blimmin grandad (who you cannot tell anything to, as he has raised 6 children, with no heating , whilst fighting the war... you know the drill!) gave my 18 month old a tictac from his jacket pocket, and now whenever my ds sees him, he points madly at my grandads' jacket pocket, and says "more! there! there!" like a sugar junkie! lol

Well, I dunno.

If you're not supposed to give any solids at all until 6 months (& I've not got much past 5 months with any of mine...) then it doesn't seem blindingly unreasonable to still want to be deciding what your dc eats 2 months later.

OK, fair enough, it won't hurt the dc (obvious disclaimer if known allergy etc). But I still wouldn't feed an 8 mo anything without checking with its parent tbh. Especially if I happened not to be on speakers with said parent!

I must admit I had to fight the urge to shout 'noooooooooooo!' at a friend who gave ds2 one of those loveheart sweets. Instead I just smiled and smiled and smiled....

Well I'd be pissed off too, Vannah, tho I wouldnt have cried. So what if you over-reacted? Better than the parents of a (too young) baby I saw who let someone feed their child milk buttons till he was sick.

Also the issue of it being something new which you probably would like to have introduced yourself.

I'd cry about the wrong nationality thing, but not about a morsel of chocolate.

Yes, get over it.

when i was a baby and went to my grandparents, they took everything off me except the nappy and wrapped me in a tea towel.

then they give me a big bar of dairy milk.

im 41 now and LOVE chocolate.Im not obese and have all my own teeth!!

I give choc to my kids in moderation after a healthy meal as its one of lifes pleasures and to see my 8mth old with a couple of choc buttons and a big smile on his smudged face makes me smile

why do people get so hung up about it

Wrong nationality? I think under the circumstances you couldn't be any less reasonable than your brother with that attitude!

I'm with you OP. My mum gave my Dd a piece of chocolate at 12 months. I don't want her to have chocolate. She, like my Ds go loopy on chocolate. It's only me that has to deal with the chocolate fall out too.

maybe THATS why I am loopy...

Is this the right time to confess that 7mo tomorrow DD is rather partial to a white chocolate Magnum (sans chocolate)?

NOOOOO

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Never to young to enjoy a Magnum. Food of the gods.

vannah - I would have been seriously angry in your situation 9 I cry when angry).

I particularly did not let any of my children ahve chocolate before they were one. My friend used to laugh at me because DD had egg and chips one night for tea before she was one

ODD ODD ODD

When we were kids we ate allsorts of shite and it never did us any harm but then we played out 8am until 7pm

I think the point is that the MOTHER decides to give a child crap - not anyone else

I wouldnt personally give my 7month old chocolate, but if it was at a party, a one off and only a small amount, i certianly wouldnt cry about it. I might ask them not to give it to her again, but wouldnt let it cause an arguemnt, and would just sit back and let dd enjoy it. When my DD had tonsillitis, she hadnt eaten in days, then she grabbed my coretto off me and ate it. I let her, she loved it. I havent given her one since, but i was a treat. I didnt intend of giving ice cream, but it was a one off, so dont mind.

What if someone gave chocolate to a baby with milk intolerance? How does anyone else other than the mother (or dad) know what the baby can tolerate?

It is not as innocuous as it might seem in an intolerant baby.

A cornetto could have killed my neice who is allergic to nuts - has anaphylactic response.

Ok she took it on the chin - I still think it is a huge over reaction - you cried oh FGS - have you looked at these boards lately - come and live my life for 24 hrs then go and cry over a square of milky bar - you need to get a .....serious....grip!
If you had posted about problems with your brother who gave your child something you specifically didn't want etc etc you would have got a lot more sympathy but to make it over a square of chocolate and you got so angry you cried makes me feel a bit sick TBH!

Can I also point out that Milkbar doesn't contain much cocoa at all?

It's milk, sugar and fat, AFAIK. And milk is the first thing on the ingredient's list, so for someone who's weaning for eczema a milkybar could be pretty disastrous tbh.

Anyway, the point stands that Vannah's brother sounds like a bloody weirdo and he did it to piss her off - which makes him a dangerous weirdo. If he's not talking to his sister, how would he know that his neice hadn't been diagnosed as dairy intolerant in the time since he saw them last?