to be livid with my brother for feeding my 8 month old CHOCOLATE?

[vannah]

At a family birthday get together today? And then have the rest of my family including my husband telling me that I am over reacting because I started crying - out of being so angry???

He gave her one rectangular piece of milky bar. This was when I was in the other room..

chocolate is quite good for you in the grand scheme of sweets. I mean haribo for example is foul chemicals and colourings but chocolate is mainly milk, sugar and coca powder!!!

Not the end of the world,certainly not worth crying over.

DS1 (now 12) was a PFB in every sense - attachment parenting/breastfeeding on demand etc. On Christmas day when he was 6 months we went out with DHs family for lunch and I was about to feed him his carefully prepared vegetable puree...when he launched himself at his grandad's dessert - a rich, alcoholic chocolate log, and shoved a huge piece of it into his mouth before anyone could react...He smiled blissfully and we couldn't help laughing...Somehow, that one incident helped me relax and stop feeling I had to control every little thing. As long as we get it right most of the time, a few little slip-ups won't matter.

Ah, I see.

No, I don't

What's the problem?

Do you know you've just reminded me of a family (adult) birthday party we went to when DS was 7 months old and everyone was trying to feed him party food (sausages, sausage rolls, ice cream). I think they thought they were being nice (some of them were complete strangers to DS). I felt furious.

YABU! You cried over one piece of milky bar, which your brother gave her thinking he was being nice??? Crikey.......

Omg that is hilarious!!! Seriously? Is this a wind up??

all babies/children love chocolate just like you do, it's not good but they've got to learn to enjoy life and food!!!

My mum took ds1 to a wake when he was 7 months old (don'#t ask, it was the first and only time she'd ever taken him for the day and I was just grateful for the break) and my PFB, who had only ever had seived-textured vegetable food, swiped a salmon sandwich and a chocolate log off people's plates. He was crawling, you see, and people who don't have children put things on the floor,.

Vannah?

you will look back and laugh at yourself one day

dont worry about trying to do it now though
chill

Still can't see why it is worth making such a fuss over it?

who isn't?

YABVU. Pick up the phone and apologise to your brother for over-reacting

poor vannah - i think she probably gets the message by now.

Did he do it out of spite to make you look like a loon do you think?

And when ou've rung your brother ring thr rest of the family!

I don't think you are over reacting by the way. YOu can't help the way you feel.
If your bro knows how to anger you he's done a pretty good job. Rise above it.

and while you're doing that I will repeat to myself that I must check my posts for spelling mistakes!!!

did anyone see her reply? she explained more and was very reasonable.

Oi all of you - did you see vannah's earlier post (21:44)

"Although highly insulting I have had a good laugh reading your replies and now feel a bit silly.
Yes there are underlying issues, my brother knows that both of my children and I have pretty bad eczema, Im somewhat neurotic about what they eat - esp under the age of one. He doesn't speak to me at all - its a family feud situation (bit complicated, I married the 'wrong nationality') therefore this added to it -yes.
And to those of you who suggested he asked first, I agree. But with not talking to me, that would be hard to do."

Come on, the poor girl's taken it on the chin, & has extenuating circumstances - stop picking on her

On the PFB thing, Jack Dee was saying that with your first when you're looking for a babysitter for your first night out, you won't take anyone with less than 3 references, OFSTED checked etc. And with your third, you approach bag ladies in the street, asking them to babysit for a few cans. Hee

AS, I remember that joke. Ah, I love Jack Dee.