I KNOW I'm not, but I think they are.

[HotToddyRumPunch]

MIL is in a rest home. Nice little place, quite impressed so far. But they have a cat, and I don't like it going into her room. I think it's unhygenic to have cat hair about the place, with delicate lungs and general elderly ill-health. I've asked them to keep it out of there or get rid of it. They have refused.

xpost with tmmj

who exactly has been rude?

probably me and tmmj- or maybe pebble man.Who knows?

I don't think there is any need to employ profanity. What an ill-mannered bunch!

I do not let animal in bedrooms, because I am concerned about hygiene. It appears to be something you are unconcerned with. I'm quite shocked.

lol
you were the ne who said about elderly bloke licking his bum!!! and you call us profane?!!

It is no more unhygienic to have a cat in a bedroom than anywhere else in the house... they lick their bottoms and then their fur whichever room they sit in...

Does this remind anyone else of the kitchen implements thread?

own up who are you?

you are overly concerned with hygiene - we get that. Doesn't make you better than anyone else.

The majority of the population don't have a problem with cat in bedroom. They shown it might have some benefit. Your MIL likes it. Yet all this others believes and wants have to be changed because you have a problem.

They probably couldn't give a toss about your opinion cos your MIL who, y'know, actually lives there is happy. Your opinion means pretty much nothing to them and I suspect that's probably why you are pissed off.

The situation doesn't affect you, it has little if not nothing to do with you and yet you want to upset it all to suit you. Why would you think that was reasonable?

Indeed. It's the "how very dare you" tone

HotToddyRumPunch, have a look a this website Pets as Therapy
It may put your mind at rest about the hygiene issues versus the emotional benefits of having contact with animals.
There is a page about cats

YABU for all the reasons everyone has already said.

If you don't want opinions don't ask. You say you KNOW you're not being unreasonable, others beg to differ - including your poor MIL, who likes the cat! Let's face it, once you're in a rest home there may not be an awful lot going on in your life... if she likes the cat please don't make it a big thing out of it - will only create bad feeling towards you and by association your MIL in her rest home.

Its...a....cat.....! YABveryU.

Also if you KNOW you are not being unreasonable, why bother posting?

Because I visit every day, and I have certain standards. There's nothing wrong with that. I had no idea people thought it was acceptable to let pets on beds, of all things. I suppose you let dogs do it too? As a visiting relative, I don't expect my wishes to be ignored.

What does your mother in law say about it?

Your MIL's wishes are far more important than yours

but if MIL wants the cat on her bed why should they put your wishes above hers?

no but as the person living there your MILs are much more important than yours. As are those of the others that live there.

I think people are right, this must be a wind up.

Everyone except OP read this:

sex in care homes,prevalence of

I spy trolls - but a pretty boring one.

She doesn't have any bad feeling towards me. She is very pleased to see me, and will even shoo the cat out when I come.

Cats are the least of your worries

do you pay for her care? what does your husband say? as a "visiting relative" I don't think you have any right to say that there shouldn't be a cat on her bed when your MIL wants there to be a cat on her bed.