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Original poster

to wish that FIL would not kiss me on the lips?

46 replies

allergictohousework · 05/08/2008 18:05

when we meet. not pervy just what he does. feel it invades my personal space somewhat. I turn to the side quickly every time but he hasn't got the message and tries to land one on my lips. yeuuuch

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pippibluestocking · 05/08/2008 18:07

Eeeughhhhhhhhhhhh!

charitygirl · 05/08/2008 18:07

Yucko x 1000. YANBU!

gingernutlover · 05/08/2008 18:08

yuk

yanbu to wish he wouldnt def

but explaining it .......hmmmmm how lpong have you known him?

betterhalf · 05/08/2008 18:08

Ewwww. Absolutely YANBU.

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allergictohousework · 05/08/2008 18:10

known him for 13 years but only become a problem in the last 5 or so ... perhaps since we got married he now regards me as one of the family - he kisses his dd (my sil) on lips too, and grandchildren - don't want him to do it to ds either.

have possibly let it go on too long to actually say something, just keep dodging it??

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noonki · 05/08/2008 18:10

bleeugghhh!

Carnival · 05/08/2008 18:14

Allergic, my DD's grandparents do this to all the kids too. I cringe every time, but have never said anything. Yuk Yuk YUK

bigknickersbigknockers · 05/08/2008 18:15

nooki, great minds and all that

luckylady74 · 05/08/2008 18:18

I'm no good at social kissing either, but i can't see how not to offend - unless you get your dh to somehow bring up how you hate social kisses re an unrelated incident - preferably when you're out of earshot!

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allergictohousework · 05/08/2008 18:19

surely social kissing is not the same as being kissed on the lips? I don't object to a kiss on the cheek and even all the mwah mwah endless cheek to cheek nonsense. but on the lips? DH sadly not here to help with this one.

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MamaGLovesMe · 05/08/2008 18:19

Just don't get close enough for a kiss.
Or tell him not to do it. "Do you mind?" should suffice.

YANBU

pointydog · 05/08/2008 18:20

STick yer tongue out next time

LadyThompson · 05/08/2008 18:20

Christ on a bike, I'm reeling from this. But what the hell you do about it, I don't know. Er, turn your face away? What does your DH think? Does he do it to him??

blowsy · 05/08/2008 18:21

Yuck!!! I would have to tell him.

I don't even let my kids kiss me on the lips!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 05/08/2008 18:21

eat loads of garlic and blast him with a cheery "Hi!!!!!!" just as he's closing in.

Or get creative with some makeup and make yourself an evil looking recurring coldsore.

CuckooClockWorkShy · 05/08/2008 18:21

Do a Princess Diana. Last second head swivel.

pippibluestocking · 05/08/2008 18:22

Just smile at him sweetly and say "uh uh uh, no tongues now!"

TwoBigNorks · 05/08/2008 18:24

I would have developed a strange lip disease that means no kissing, ever, by now. Paint part of your lip purple and say its sore, remind him every time! Occasionally say ouch when drinking tea and mutter about sing lip disease specialists

TwoBigNorks · 05/08/2008 18:25

Great minds JATGBanana

YumeeMumee · 05/08/2008 18:26

Gross!! I have friend's DH's that try and do this too...I just have to turn my face quickly and make sure that it's my cheek that gets kissed....sometimes this means I get a very wet cheek kiss YUK! What is wrong with people?!

I know there are peeps that do this all the time but I personally, don't like it.

cocolepew · 05/08/2008 18:27

YUK! EMIL used to kiss me on the cheek, we hated each other so it was very false. I told her to stop. She kisses DH on the lips and he swears she pokes a bit of tongue out . He's always backing away with his hand over his mouth.

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 05/08/2008 18:39

Just don't get that near to people you don't want to kiss!!

babyignoramus · 05/08/2008 18:40

My grandpa in law does this to me - eeeewwwwwwwwww.

Minniethemoocher · 05/08/2008 18:54

Yuck!!!! I have an elderly male relative who does this and it is just HORRBIBLE! He has done it ever since I was a child and I just hate it, but have always been to polite to say, I just offer him my cheek and hope for the best....

Give me an good "air kiss" mmawwwa!

ELR · 05/08/2008 19:07

my dad does this and it grates, i do tell him though and he just tells me get lost in a nice way!! I know he does it to sil and she hates it even when she says ooh fil my dad just laughs. but we all just accept him because he is like this he would kiss a total stanger like this as a greeting too